Help

[00:00:03] Hey everyone, this is Voice with Warikoo, with my Ankur Warikoo.

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[00:00:28] To ask help, seeking help is the most fundamental way of learning.

[00:00:32] I'm privileged that many people write into me every day, seeking help in some shape and form.

[00:00:39] And I want to make sure that when you seek help, you actually get the help that you need.

[00:00:44] So here are five things to avoid or five mistakes that people often make when they're seeking help.

[00:00:51] Number eight, ignoring the difference between information and help.

[00:00:55] Knowledge or information is what we need when we're starting something.

[00:00:59] Help is what we need when we have attempted something.

[00:01:04] So, ask for that thing that you can get from Google search.

[00:01:08] Don't seek help with something that could have been solved through a Google search.

[00:01:12] Seek help for something that can only be solved through someone's experience.

[00:01:17] So, ask for that things that could be solved through someone's experience.

[00:01:22] Number two, asking lazy questions.

[00:01:26] When you don't know what specific help will help you the most, it becomes a classic reason to ask for generic help.

[00:01:41] Example of generic help.

[00:01:43] What are your views on this idea?

[00:01:45] What do you think I should do?

[00:01:47] These are examples of generic help.

[00:01:49] If you ask for generic help, you will get generic help.

[00:01:54] If you want to ask a basic level, you will get a basic level of help.

[00:02:02] The only way that you get best help is when you are specific.

[00:02:06] When you want to ask a specific specific help, you get the most important help.

[00:02:10] And an approach that I follow is called the CAR approach.

[00:02:14] C-A-R.

[00:02:15] Context, actions, results.

[00:02:19] What is the context in which you want that help?

[00:02:23] What are the actions you have already taken?

[00:02:26] And what are the results that have come from those actions?

[00:02:31] Finally, where are you stuck that you need help around?

[00:02:37] Number three, being disrespectful of people's time.

[00:02:42] You are just asking for help with a person.

[00:02:43] You don't have to do the amount of time of time.

[00:02:45] And the way that you get to know that is that you make the other person work a lot more to help you.

[00:02:52] Here's an example.

[00:02:53] I'm looking for help to connect me to investors.

[00:02:56] Attached is my business plan.

[00:02:58] Let me know of your feedback.

[00:02:59] Or attached is my resume.

[00:03:01] Let me know if you have any job openings.

[00:03:03] So I'm looking for investors.

[00:03:05] This is my business plan.

[00:03:06] Let me know if you have any feedback.

[00:03:08] Or this is my resume.

[00:03:09] Let me know if there are job openings or not.

[00:03:11] These both are examples of lack of respect for the person's time.

[00:03:15] Which you are asking for help.

[00:03:17] The one you seek help from will have to spend time understanding the context,

[00:03:22] synthesizing it, figuring how they can be of help.

[00:03:25] And that's not something that most people will do.

[00:03:27] Which you are asking for help.

[00:03:28] You are asking for help to help.

[00:03:29] You are asking for help to help.

[00:03:30] And understand how you can help me.

[00:03:33] That's not going to help.

[00:03:34] Help them see how they can help.

[00:03:38] Help them see how they can help.

[00:03:52] Or start asking for help.

[00:03:56] For example,

[00:03:57] No one wants to help those who start an email with saying,

[00:04:01] I'm sorry for saying this, but...

[00:04:03] Or those who say,

[00:04:05] This isn't worth your time, but I'm giving it a shot.

[00:04:22] Do not undermine your need for help.

[00:04:32] Do not undermine your need for help.

[00:04:36] Do not undermine your need for help.

[00:04:37] Do not require help.

[00:04:38] Do not require help.

[00:04:38] And this is necessary for you.

[00:04:40] Do not require help.

[00:04:42] Do not require help.

[00:04:42] You need help and it's important for you.

[00:04:44] So go ahead and ask for it.

[00:04:47] And then finally, number five.

[00:04:49] A mistake that people make is to not share progress.

[00:05:23] A mistake that people do, they don't share their progress.

[00:05:23] Tell them how much they helped you.

[00:05:26] If someone really helped you, tell them how much they helped you.

[00:05:33] It completes the cycle of help.

[00:05:36] The chakra of help is complete.

[00:05:40] And it feeds the desire to help even more.

[00:05:45] And those who help, they help them to help more.

[00:05:50] It is crazy how many opportunities lie ahead of you.

[00:05:54] Only if you know how to seek help the right way.

[00:05:57] If you really think,

[00:05:59] There are so many opportunities in your life.

[00:06:02] If you know how much help is needed.

[00:06:05] Because someone has said it the right way.

[00:06:08] Someone has actually said it the right way.

[00:06:10] If you do not ask, the answer is always no.

[00:06:15] All the best.