Questions flood our minds, filling us with anxiety. Understanding this new situation can be difficult. In this time of crisis, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and lost. Not to worry, because we have answers that can help. This episode of Vishnu Ki Secret Life dives into adapting to change. From practical methods, to different ways of thinking, there are several approaches to better adapt to change. Understanding these, can mean the difference between positive or negative change. Can we make the most of this tense period, and come out of it happier and healthier? Knowing what to do and how to do it, can bring us closer to this possibility. Everyone deals with change differently. Don’t beat yourself up about it if you feel lost. Understanding is the first step to growth. So, listen to this podcast, where we help you understand what to do.
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[00:00:00] You are listening to the Quint's podcast.
[00:00:10] Change is inevitable, it's through one constant in our lives.
[00:00:15] Super original start right?
[00:00:17] Anyway as we continue to stay under lockdown, we are all being forced to face this one constant
[00:00:22] reality that everything about our lives is now changing.
[00:00:27] Our work, our workouts, our eating and our spending and change can be good but it can
[00:00:34] also be scary and uncomfortable sometimes.
[00:00:37] I have been facing changes in my own life.
[00:00:39] I am sure you have too.
[00:00:41] Our relationships have been redefined, our work is now digital for the ones who still
[00:00:46] have the option of working from home.
[00:00:48] While for those in the front lines they face the risk of a COVID-19 infection every day.
[00:00:53] In this lockdown ends our lives will never be the same again.
[00:00:58] And adapting to this new world order, well it can be a little daunting but never fear
[00:01:03] because today we discuss ways to better deal with change.
[00:01:07] I have been trying a few different things and reading up on a few different things so let's
[00:01:11] tell you how can you adapt to change.
[00:01:22] This is Vishnu Ki Seeket Life, the podcast where you learn something new about nutrition,
[00:01:28] fitness, lifestyle or mental health.
[00:01:30] I am your host Vishnu Gobinath.
[00:01:33] On the topic of change this will be the last episode of Vishnu Ki Seeket Life for this
[00:01:39] season.
[00:01:40] It has been tremendous hosting this podcast and producing it for all of you.
[00:01:45] I hope you all learned something interesting that's also useful.
[00:01:49] You can send us your feedback at podcasts at thequin.com or tweet to me at Vishnu Says
[00:01:53] World.
[00:01:54] So with that out of the way here are a few ways you can better deal with change.
[00:02:05] Quick disclaimer I don't want to sound like a philosopher but I think at a time like this
[00:02:09] we can all do with a little bit of philosophy.
[00:02:13] First and foremost acceptance.
[00:02:16] Accepting that things are changing or have changed is the first step.
[00:02:21] Accept the reality of the situation you are faced with.
[00:02:23] Don't resist it.
[00:02:25] It might be emotional or difficult sometimes but acceptance is the first step.
[00:02:30] What you resist persists, what you accept you gain power over.
[00:02:35] You might not be able to control this situation but you can control how you react to this
[00:02:39] situation.
[00:02:40] So keep this in mind and how you react can lead to something positive or something negative.
[00:02:53] Once you've accepted the situation, find humour in it.
[00:02:56] Finding humour in an otherwise serious stressful or sad situation is one of the best ways
[00:03:01] to improve your mood.
[00:03:03] It's also a great way to interact with people as long as they also have a sense of humour
[00:03:07] about the thing you are laughing at.
[00:03:09] It's important to find humour in this situation, don't do it at the cost of someone else's
[00:03:13] piece of mind or feelings.
[00:03:15] Laughing about serious things was one of the ways I used to cope with sadness or feeling
[00:03:20] rejected as a child.
[00:03:23] As an adult it was how I met some of my closest friends both in real life and on the internet.
[00:03:29] Humour can get you through some tough times and it can also help you make new friends.
[00:03:38] Just think practical solutions.
[00:03:41] Try to talk about the actual problem or problems, not just how you feel.
[00:03:46] Which reminds me of something I read a long time ago that's always helped me during times
[00:03:51] of crisis which is focus on what you want, not how you feel.
[00:03:57] This is important.
[00:03:58] Focus on what you want, not how you feel.
[00:04:02] What do you want?
[00:04:03] What is the problem you are faced with?
[00:04:06] How can you overcome it?
[00:04:08] Focus on these questions.
[00:04:13] This doesn't mean ignore your emotions, it's important to also acknowledge your feelings
[00:04:17] but rather than dwelling on sadness or anger it's more important to talk about and identify
[00:04:23] solutions to your problem.
[00:04:25] Are you angry or sad?
[00:04:27] Acknowledge that you are feeling this way and it could affect your judgement temporarily
[00:04:32] and that's okay but look for practical answers and solutions to the problems you are facing.
[00:04:39] Because anxiety which usually happens during times of change is because you feel like
[00:04:45] you don't have a way out of a stressful situation.
[00:04:49] Which is why you focus on the actual issue, practical.
[00:04:53] Once this is handled your feelings will also improve a lot.
[00:05:01] Look from my own example, I am used to working with really tight deadlines and usually when
[00:05:05] you are facing a deadline you are under a lot of stress.
[00:05:08] But the solution would be to find the fastest and most effective way to complete the work
[00:05:13] I have.
[00:05:14] Not to get caught up in the worry of how I am going to complete it or when I will finish
[00:05:18] it or what is going to happen which will all be counterproductive.
[00:05:29] It brings us to the next point.
[00:05:31] Stressing out about stressing out.
[00:05:37] Many people, myself included will get stressed about something say unemployment, moving cities
[00:05:43] or generally any kind of big change and then we will start worrying that you are worrying
[00:05:47] about this thing in simple terms this means how you think about stress can affect your
[00:05:52] life.
[00:05:53] Is this stress serving you or holding you back?
[00:05:56] Is it making you work better and harder towards your goal or is it holding you back and weighing
[00:06:00] you down?
[00:06:01] Stress doesn't always have to be bad.
[00:06:03] It is after all a body's survival mechanism.
[00:06:07] Use helpful stress about things you can change and control and let go of unhelpful stress
[00:06:13] about things beyond your control.
[00:06:15] This reminds me of another one of my favorite quotes.
[00:06:19] If complaining won't change the situation, stop complaining.
[00:06:25] Practice stress management techniques and embrace beneficial stress.
[00:06:30] It can make you grow and not all stress is bad for you.
[00:06:35] It's like this imagine you start working out after months or years of never hitting
[00:06:39] the chin.
[00:06:40] In the first few days your body is going to experience pain and physical tension but it's
[00:06:44] the kind of tension and stress that makes you grow.
[00:06:47] On the other hand, you have things like stressing about the future or worrying about what's
[00:06:51] going to happen in the future.
[00:06:53] Things that are beyond your control.
[00:06:55] Let go of that stress.
[00:06:57] I'll link you to a few episodes I've done on stress management that can help.
[00:07:01] This is where it becomes important to focus on the blessings and positives about you
[00:07:05] and your life.
[00:07:06] Family, friends, music, art and other things that bring beauty and positivity to your life.
[00:07:13] These things will be there for you through times of change and they'll be helpful in
[00:07:17] the last part of this process of dealing with change.
[00:07:22] They'll hopefully be sources of strength.
[00:07:25] And you will need strength because you can't pray for a life free of problems.
[00:07:34] All it took was one little virus for the world to understand this.
[00:07:46] Instead pray for the problems that you are willing to face in order to get the things
[00:07:50] that you do want.
[00:07:52] Things will get rough but every effort we take comes with its own struggles.
[00:07:57] Look at them as a part of the process of change and not as just an obstacle to changing,
[00:08:02] like a famous someone once said, whatever is in the way is the way.
[00:08:18] And finally always keep this in mind.
[00:08:21] The past does not equal the future.
[00:08:24] Where you've been does not have to be where you're going.
[00:08:28] Accept the past and whatever has happened.
[00:08:30] And work on the future.
[00:08:32] Don't stress about the future or about things you can't control.
[00:08:35] Work on building a better, brighter future.
[00:08:47] You may not know it now and you might not see it this month.
[00:08:57] But in time, as cliche as this sounds, you'll realize that whatever happened for the best.
[00:09:04] Humans are remarkably resilient creatures.
[00:09:06] Our survival instincts and our creative minds are why we've survived so many catastrophes.
[00:09:13] We'll make it out of this tough time.
[00:09:14] We'll come out kicking and screaming and we shall endure.
[00:09:20] That's been my two sins on this crisis of change.
[00:09:23] It's been great doing this podcast.
[00:09:26] As always, Abhivin Vishnu and you've been amazing.
[00:09:29] Stay strong, stay safe and don't forget, wash your hands.