The Can Do Coffee Chat with Angelina Pelova, A Blogger & Author

[00:00:01] [SPEAKER_00]: Hi, I'm Gal Gibson, a credited master performance coach, International Speaker, Hotcast host and author.

[00:00:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Known as The Can Do Coach, I thrive on enabling leaders to step up, shake it off and shine.

[00:00:18] [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to My Podcast, The Can Do Way.

[00:00:21] [SPEAKER_00]: My guests from across the globe have can do stories of growth, resilience and success to share.

[00:00:28] [SPEAKER_00]: Tuning and being inspired by these individuals who have developed a strong can do approach.

[00:00:34] [SPEAKER_00]: Each one of their stories is unique.

[00:00:37] [SPEAKER_00]: Each one of their stories has a key message.

[00:00:42] [SPEAKER_00]: In this episode of The Can Do Way, I'm talking to Angelina Pelova, who is a blogger and author.

[00:00:50] [SPEAKER_00]: Now Angelina is a UK-based blogger known as Angicay, who writes not another talk blog.

[00:00:57] [SPEAKER_00]: Since 2014, she's been sharing insights and advice on issues.

[00:01:03] [SPEAKER_00]: Tall people face from body image and well-being to fashion and parenting.

[00:01:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Angelina's blog features tall talents and brands.

[00:01:13] [SPEAKER_00]: She connects with over 3,700 followers on Twitter,

[00:01:18] [SPEAKER_00]: 1800 on Facebook and a thousand on Instagram.

[00:01:21] [SPEAKER_00]: Recently, she compiled her experiences and her followers contributions into a unique novel based on her tall story,

[00:01:30] [SPEAKER_00]: reflecting all she's learned over the past nine years.

[00:01:35] [SPEAKER_00]: So we're going to hear all about Angelina's story and her book today.

[00:01:39] [SPEAKER_00]: So welcome to the show today.

[00:01:41] [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you.

[00:01:42] [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you very much.

[00:01:43] [SPEAKER_00]: If we can first take a short walk through your life, Angelina,

[00:01:47] [SPEAKER_00]: just to give the listeners a glimpse of your background.

[00:01:52] [SPEAKER_00]: And what it is that drives your passion for the book that you've now written.

[00:01:58] [SPEAKER_02]: Well, my life story is not necessarily exactly the story of the book,

[00:02:04] [SPEAKER_02]: but it literally has to do that.

[00:02:07] [SPEAKER_02]: So it's basically like a combination of light experiences.

[00:02:11] [SPEAKER_02]: I will one and break in post in communist and then post communist Bulgaria.

[00:02:16] [SPEAKER_02]: And I live there until my late 20s.

[00:02:22] [SPEAKER_02]: And I'm all three England in just an October 2020.

[00:02:28] [SPEAKER_02]: So that's just under 24 years now.

[00:02:32] [SPEAKER_02]: So yeah, quite a while.

[00:02:35] [SPEAKER_02]: I made my life here.

[00:02:38] [SPEAKER_02]: And all my life I've been writing but in my 90ed language.

[00:02:42] [SPEAKER_02]: I've never written anything bigger than a short story.

[00:02:47] [SPEAKER_02]: So the master of short stories.

[00:02:50] [SPEAKER_02]: Now used to publish in one of the three biggest,

[00:02:53] [SPEAKER_02]: we've written magazines back in Bulgaria.

[00:02:57] [SPEAKER_02]: And I was working as a hobby.

[00:03:00] [SPEAKER_02]: Really has a journalist in translator for local papers and magazines.

[00:03:06] [SPEAKER_02]: Just earning some money from that.

[00:03:08] [SPEAKER_02]: And doing it as a hobby.

[00:03:11] [SPEAKER_02]: And when I decided to start my blog,

[00:03:14] [SPEAKER_02]: I couldn't believe it would be not ten years ago.

[00:03:17] [SPEAKER_02]: I did it literally just for the sake of scratching that it's right.

[00:03:24] [SPEAKER_02]: And to try this and find out for myself what I can actually write in English.

[00:03:30] [SPEAKER_02]: So that was my trial just to see if I can write in English.

[00:03:34] [SPEAKER_02]: And it just rolled on from there really.

[00:03:38] [SPEAKER_02]: I started writing about top-view positions.

[00:03:42] [SPEAKER_02]: And those people started engaging at some point.

[00:03:45] [SPEAKER_02]: I had various brands sending me close to trying review.

[00:03:50] [SPEAKER_02]: I had one told, which was a new brand design.

[00:03:54] [SPEAKER_02]: To fashion down to send me an entire collection review.

[00:03:58] [SPEAKER_02]: So it was all around top-fashioned top-view problems.

[00:04:04] [SPEAKER_02]: And the number of my followers has been going slowly over the years.

[00:04:08] [SPEAKER_02]: It's not actually about just thousands and something.

[00:04:13] [SPEAKER_02]: So when I sent you the info, probably haven't updated quite correctly.

[00:04:19] [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

[00:04:21] [SPEAKER_02]: And my blog became not quite an authority,

[00:04:25] [SPEAKER_02]: but quite well known in the telecommunity, the power of the internet.

[00:04:30] [SPEAKER_02]: It's just fantastic isn't it?

[00:04:33] [SPEAKER_02]: And I was so often obviously even email with requests about certain topic.

[00:04:39] [SPEAKER_02]: When we were a people just sending me them to tell me what they related to in the post.

[00:04:48] [SPEAKER_02]: And on Facebook I've got very active followers.

[00:04:51] [SPEAKER_02]: And it's a lot of them that would come and bear in any of my eyes.

[00:04:56] [SPEAKER_02]: But the issues that we had with the teleperson are not just me.

[00:05:01] [SPEAKER_02]: The risks were as a topic population.

[00:05:04] [SPEAKER_02]: We've got the same kind of issues.

[00:05:06] [SPEAKER_02]: And that's what gave me the idea to start compiling information for a book.

[00:05:14] [SPEAKER_02]: So the book is based on my life story, but it's quite closely based on my life story.

[00:05:19] [SPEAKER_02]: There's a lot of episodes, a lot of them chemicals and other than sats about people bullying in its commenting.

[00:05:29] [SPEAKER_02]: And there are situations which the so people find themselves in.

[00:05:34] [SPEAKER_02]: And a lot of those episodes are not for my own life that experience of my followers and readers.

[00:05:44] [SPEAKER_02]: So yeah that's how I got the idea and eventually it was just brilliant.

[00:05:51] [SPEAKER_02]: Nothing was happening because I got quite a busy life with a full time job and kids who were not shamed again.

[00:05:59] [SPEAKER_02]: And eventually I just found a window of opportunity during COVID.

[00:06:03] [SPEAKER_02]: One work that I downloaded between the first few months.

[00:06:07] [SPEAKER_02]: That's when I wrote it. The video had the courage to publish it for a couple of years.

[00:06:11] [SPEAKER_02]: So I'm really blessed here.

[00:06:14] [SPEAKER_00]: Fantastic.

[00:06:16] [SPEAKER_00]: You know, it's amazing how we start to think about the stories of our lives and how they come about and all of those things that do actually impact them.

[00:06:28] [SPEAKER_00]: And yours is a brilliant example of that where you have had that very deep personal experience.

[00:06:35] [SPEAKER_00]: And also now helping other people look into their own experience.

[00:06:42] [SPEAKER_00]: What they're going through being tall people, being short people, being all different kinds of people.

[00:06:48] [SPEAKER_00]: Just to give the listeners a bit of context here. How tall are you?

[00:06:55] [SPEAKER_00]: Angelina.

[00:06:57] [SPEAKER_02]: So if they work in electric and 193 something is this.

[00:07:05] [SPEAKER_00]: So six foot four as a female in the world today.

[00:07:12] [SPEAKER_00]: So that presented itself as perhaps a challenge for you in your life.

[00:07:19] [SPEAKER_00]: Given that you have now written a book about your own personal experiences.

[00:07:25] [SPEAKER_00]: So what was some of the first things that you were noticing that gave you this kind of inspiration to

[00:07:35] [SPEAKER_00]: to start to think about writing through your blog that you started 10 years ago.

[00:07:40] [SPEAKER_00]: What were the first things that you weren't noticing that was happening in your life that you thought I wanted to share this with other people?

[00:07:48] [SPEAKER_02]: It was the fact that people were relating to that.

[00:07:54] [SPEAKER_02]: And they were so specifically even making the effort to write me an email.

[00:07:59] [SPEAKER_02]: Not just a couple of pages like a proper letter and a lot of them.

[00:08:05] [SPEAKER_02]: So there's a lot of Facebook groups for tall people.

[00:08:08] [SPEAKER_02]: I've joined pretty much each and every one.

[00:08:11] [SPEAKER_02]: Probably not all of them but the majority of them.

[00:08:14] [SPEAKER_02]: And people have discussions there and during discussions you can see various points being raised a lot of the time.

[00:08:23] [SPEAKER_02]: A lot of people relating to it and having quite quite meaningful discussions because it's not just about the physical aspect of me.

[00:08:34] [SPEAKER_02]: So it's much more wider and much more general topic overall because it's a psychological and emotional issue on the personal level in terms of bullying and also of his team.

[00:08:52] [SPEAKER_02]: And also as a society, this is quite a larger syndrome and it goes to even levels of discrimination.

[00:09:03] [SPEAKER_02]: It's some areas of like based on height or also the aspects of thinking,

[00:09:14] [SPEAKER_02]: opinions in life, like long work, long ditches, everything being too small for us.

[00:09:24] [SPEAKER_02]: And I mentioned discrimination a lot of people in the talk community feel very strongly about the fact that we need to pay extra extra extra legal seats in the airplane.

[00:09:41] [SPEAKER_02]: And as well people, I don't know what I'm saying normal height.

[00:09:49] [SPEAKER_02]: It was supposed to say it was normal but people who are short and they don't necessarily need the legroom.

[00:09:54] [SPEAKER_02]: They don't pay for that. They just get to try and communicate it to them while for us.

[00:10:00] [SPEAKER_02]: And my partner was in Kilantutai 1 and because of the number of flights he had to go on just the extra legal cost in transfer to 100 pounds.

[00:10:13] [SPEAKER_02]: So that's very, very early.

[00:10:14] [SPEAKER_02]: And if you go and look for a bad somatrices, it's so difficult to find them.

[00:10:22] [SPEAKER_02]: We need to share that more just for the fact that they're slightly longer, just because it's not mass production.

[00:10:32] [SPEAKER_00]: Things that we take would take for granted.

[00:10:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Other people who would be thinking, well I don't have that.

[00:10:40] [SPEAKER_00]: I don't have that extra height to be worrying about those things and yet your highlighting things that are very, very important.

[00:10:50] [SPEAKER_00]: And they're everyday things are made because we all want to try. We all want to be able to sleep in a bird and yet it prohibits because that's the way the society discriminates against those, those different categories that we fall into as humans.

[00:11:08] [SPEAKER_02]: When you were writing your whole own opinion, convenience is also at the levels like going into an office job.

[00:11:16] [SPEAKER_02]: Talking about DSCS as much, you need a different chain, a different desk, desk, what is to inbox or what is an electric desk.

[00:11:28] [SPEAKER_02]: So, for saying, employer, that's a nuisance and they wouldn't bother about it.

[00:11:32] [SPEAKER_02]: And what I have worked for in the past and now for an employee who is support is that, it's important that you have to correct posture.

[00:11:42] [SPEAKER_02]: And the goal is if you sit there for eight hours, eventually you end up with a bad person.

[00:11:46] [SPEAKER_02]: Yes, exactly.

[00:11:47] [SPEAKER_02]: And then you have to have a good time.

[00:11:49] [SPEAKER_02]: Or if you drive, it's not always very easy to find the power which is what's got enough legroom and headroom.

[00:11:58] [SPEAKER_02]: Or if you've got a torch with a light lightroom for them as well.

[00:12:03] [SPEAKER_02]: So, we also have little things which can bug you and don't even get started on the board.

[00:12:08] [SPEAKER_02]: Yes, yes, yes.

[00:12:10] [SPEAKER_02]: And so this is the main thing which really, which we are really passionate about because his hand just going to a shop and get a pair of shoes for instance.

[00:12:19] [SPEAKER_02]: No way, we've got something to it.

[00:12:22] [SPEAKER_02]: Or shows.

[00:12:24] [SPEAKER_02]: Also the things I have.

[00:12:26] [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, like you say those everyday things that we do take for granted.

[00:12:31] [SPEAKER_00]: When you were writing the blog, Angela, how were you staying motivated by this?

[00:12:38] [SPEAKER_00]: Do you think that it was because the people were responding to you and actually going that step further to, as you say, right, a full letter length to tell their story back to you?

[00:12:49] [SPEAKER_00]: Was that one of the things that gave you that motivation to keep going?

[00:12:54] [SPEAKER_02]: Well, I'm also very, pretty self-motivated for us.

[00:12:57] [SPEAKER_02]: So I don't even need to do something.

[00:13:01] [SPEAKER_02]: And on the other hand, if I haven't got the internal motivation, it's very difficult for me to do something.

[00:13:08] [SPEAKER_02]: So I have been keeping the blog just because of something I really feel really passionate about.

[00:13:14] [SPEAKER_02]: But this emails and comments and external science tokens of appreciation, they definitely just keep me going every single one.

[00:13:25] [SPEAKER_02]: It's not very often when someone will do that.

[00:13:27] [SPEAKER_02]: But when they do, it just melts in the end.

[00:13:30] [SPEAKER_02]: Given me, this sense of purpose and the thing that it's worth keeping it going.

[00:13:39] [SPEAKER_02]: So when I first opened it, when I first started the blog, I remember with my husband in the time just from and says, okay, so what about your family?

[00:13:49] [SPEAKER_02]: And it's not easy with my family, that's something that I've never really had a support as such for my closest people around.

[00:14:02] [SPEAKER_02]: It just because I was bogged down in life and family and dropping everything.

[00:14:08] [SPEAKER_02]: So it's a lot of the posts back in those days.

[00:14:11] [SPEAKER_02]: I just do even write in my phone the toilet.

[00:14:16] [SPEAKER_00]: That was your private space.

[00:14:22] [SPEAKER_02]: So yeah, and over the years it just became my baby really.

[00:14:29] [SPEAKER_02]: And at some point I was trying to monetize it.

[00:14:32] [SPEAKER_02]: I had a friend in Egypt who was firing by his SEO and working design skills.

[00:14:40] [SPEAKER_02]: So I started paying for hosting and registration.

[00:14:44] [SPEAKER_02]: The main registration is to open at some point I realized that was quite an expensive hobby.

[00:14:51] [SPEAKER_02]: And I just decided to stop there because the purpose is not to monetize it just to head it out there.

[00:14:59] [SPEAKER_02]: I hope it is a platform for people to rent and relate to.

[00:15:06] [SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, yeah.

[00:15:08] [SPEAKER_00]: When was the moment that you decided to actually start writing the book?

[00:15:14] [SPEAKER_00]: So turning your blog into the book that has become an is near published.

[00:15:20] [SPEAKER_02]: Well, I'd say it happened to just ages.

[00:15:24] [SPEAKER_02]: The first one was not successful in the second one.

[00:15:26] [SPEAKER_02]: So when I actually sat down and wrote it during COVID.

[00:15:30] [SPEAKER_02]: But I did start trying to write a book.

[00:15:35] [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know how many years ago really.

[00:15:39] [SPEAKER_02]: So I think probably about 10 years ago.

[00:15:43] [SPEAKER_02]: Maybe around the time when I started the blog a couple of years later.

[00:15:48] [SPEAKER_02]: I tried to write a book.

[00:15:51] [SPEAKER_02]: But I've never really been into this big genre.

[00:15:54] [SPEAKER_02]: So I was always writing short pieces and my idea was to compile some of the stories I've written and make them into.

[00:16:06] [SPEAKER_02]: Use them as chapters of the book.

[00:16:09] [SPEAKER_02]: And it didn't happen really because you can't just fuse together completely, several pieces of art.

[00:16:17] [SPEAKER_02]: Let's catch a start writing them and it just don't naturally even work.

[00:16:23] [SPEAKER_02]: But now that's one of the line lines in the book because my character is a right.

[00:16:32] [SPEAKER_02]: And she erased this is the mission of her life to write this book.

[00:16:37] [SPEAKER_02]: It's called Passport for the Boss.

[00:16:40] [SPEAKER_02]: Which was what I meant by a book at the time.

[00:16:45] [SPEAKER_02]: So it's a bit like a book in the book.

[00:16:48] [SPEAKER_02]: Yes, that's all I started when I gave it up and during COVID it just naturally started flowing.

[00:16:55] [SPEAKER_02]: I was just starting it just a little vague idea for what I was going to write about anything to the world itself.

[00:17:03] [SPEAKER_02]: So that was a very satisfying experience really enjoyed it.

[00:17:11] [SPEAKER_00]: And what has it been so far?

[00:17:13] [SPEAKER_00]: What are people saying about your book now that you've put this story into into the book, Fashion?

[00:17:22] [SPEAKER_02]: Well, I was quite nervous about it in the beginning and it's taken imagine because I'm putting them out there in the work of my life.

[00:17:31] [SPEAKER_02]: It's very precious and you think it's the best thing after slides, but other people may just dismiss you and say it's rubbish.

[00:17:42] [SPEAKER_02]: But so luckily all the reveals can be an opportunity amazing.

[00:17:49] [SPEAKER_02]: So the interesting thing is there is two different types of people who are idiots.

[00:17:54] [SPEAKER_02]: So one type is what I would call the target audience which is top people female or male doesn't matter because the same is just well having.

[00:18:07] [SPEAKER_02]: And the other it's not quite the target audience, but in a way it is.

[00:18:12] [SPEAKER_02]: People who are interested in the in top people stories or they themselves identify with the book in other ways.

[00:18:22] [SPEAKER_02]: So I marketed into different ways either depending on why I marketed if I marketed to top people that's the book about top people by a top person.

[00:18:33] [SPEAKER_02]: But the general public it's a book about being different generally how I've been a little bit older because that's how I wrote it with.

[00:18:45] [SPEAKER_02]: Much much wider message about how our physical features can eventually grow our lives and it can let all that get to us.

[00:19:01] [SPEAKER_02]: And then we can identify with that is characters which you're going to put.

[00:19:12] [SPEAKER_02]: Anyway, the reveals are a lot of people who are tall and they say all that's a brilliant book and I wish such a book existed.

[00:19:22] [SPEAKER_02]: And it's time when I was growing up because it would help me or on the other end of the spectrum and have people who are just just like normal people random.

[00:19:36] [SPEAKER_02]: And that was really hard to tell me.

[00:19:42] [SPEAKER_02]: Some of them are men, others are short, some of them are just men interested in tall women and there was one guy who I know is a name for commenting on my Facebook page.

[00:19:57] [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know what his real name is, but that's what he's shown there as Anthony tiny.

[00:20:04] [SPEAKER_02]: So he and all of his one of my fans and he did actually find the book.

[00:20:10] [SPEAKER_02]: I don't know which country and what actually show which is his point how easy it was to get it but he sent me a long, such emotional letter that's actually quite on a route.

[00:20:23] [SPEAKER_02]: And the Anthony, the recognition posted in the blog so it's there and one of the people who's here actually forward something in this book changed his life because of short impact.

[00:20:37] [SPEAKER_02]: It doesn't have to be stuck in and the abusive relationship with his mother and the, yeah it was just really really amazing.

[00:20:50] [SPEAKER_02]: There is one feedback left on Amazon by someone who's just created an orphan later.

[00:20:57] [SPEAKER_02]: Saying it's a boring book and they wait is something to happen nothing happened that was a one star but other than that.

[00:21:05] [SPEAKER_02]: The other reviewer really hard for me and the good thing is they don't just write one sentence, they go and write quite long details.

[00:21:16] [SPEAKER_02]: So it shows it, it helps the most.

[00:21:20] [SPEAKER_00]: It's almost like your book gives people commission a permission sorry to actually say you know this is this is the reality this has happened to me this is in their own way they can really relate to it and.

[00:21:34] [SPEAKER_00]: What a power story you've shared that it really changed somebody's life and they were able to move forward and and move beyond the struggle that they had had to face.

[00:21:46] [SPEAKER_02]: With those powerful sorry gone.

[00:21:50] [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah that's just so humbling to read yes yes indeed indeed it really it strikes the heart like you say.

[00:21:59] [SPEAKER_00]: So when it comes to hearing those words of feedback from people how does that help you to reframe your.

[00:22:09] [SPEAKER_00]: Being tall and see it as a strength for yourself.

[00:22:13] [SPEAKER_02]: For that comes is an extra validation but my the way I think if this is something which is a completely internal process so.

[00:22:27] [SPEAKER_02]: External inputs can influence us definitely and probably that's what.

[00:22:32] [SPEAKER_02]: I cause is the issues of self-esteem is the order input from outside but when it comes to all becoming the loss of this team.

[00:22:45] [SPEAKER_02]: It's ultimately up to us is individuality is characters to find the strength and the way to.

[00:22:53] [SPEAKER_02]: I think we.

[00:22:55] [SPEAKER_02]: We share by our thinking and we always help helps of course to speak with people positive towards themselves you'd be totally.

[00:23:05] [SPEAKER_02]: You're perfect or you're amazing so.

[00:23:09] [SPEAKER_02]: I guess if you hear it on their devices you probably wouldn't end up setting the.

[00:23:14] [SPEAKER_02]: That's the way that we're going to do this.

[00:23:16] [SPEAKER_02]: But if you don't if you've grown up in a critical and.

[00:23:19] [SPEAKER_02]: And when you just identify with your physical issue would which whether that's high to something else or obesity or.

[00:23:33] [SPEAKER_02]: some kind of other condition. Then it's very difficult to pull yourself out of that.

[00:23:40] [SPEAKER_02]: And it is important to be surrounded by the right type of people,

[00:23:48] [SPEAKER_02]: that's one thing. But I believe it all comes from within you,

[00:23:53] [SPEAKER_02]: from having the power to look at yourself. And the first thing I will do is,

[00:23:59] [SPEAKER_02]: I've always been really self-quiteful. The first thing I would do is look at myself and see what

[00:24:05] [SPEAKER_02]: I need to do to improve myself. And that's how I always tackle things. So I've been through

[00:24:11] [SPEAKER_02]: a few about depression and there is bits and bobs, but I've managed to eventually keep my head above

[00:24:19] [SPEAKER_02]: the water just because it all requires a lot of self work, which is very important. It's going to be

[00:24:28] [SPEAKER_00]: true as you say, Angelina, that it starts from within. And when we are faced with challenges in our

[00:24:35] [SPEAKER_00]: lives, I mean, we can actually bring ourselves out. We can get, we can have support and have external

[00:24:42] [SPEAKER_00]: intervention, but the work that needs to be done needs to be done by us. So having that mindset

[00:24:50] [SPEAKER_00]: to be able to say, I need to look at myself and I need to work it out for myself to get through this.

[00:24:58] [SPEAKER_00]: It is, it's great advice to be sharing with my listeners because it's very difficult to tackle

[00:25:05] [SPEAKER_00]: things and very difficult to go through things. We've all gone through experiences, but ultimately

[00:25:11] [SPEAKER_00]: we are the ones who lead ourselves forward in the end. And that it's finding it's reading books

[00:25:17] [SPEAKER_00]: like yours that give us the motivation to say, this has happened to me. This is how I relate to it

[00:25:25] [SPEAKER_00]: this is what I'm going to try and do about it because it gives somebody else that sense of,

[00:25:32] [SPEAKER_00]: it can be done. You found your way through it. You live with it. You're not changing, you can't

[00:25:41] [SPEAKER_00]: change your circumstances, but you can change how you think about an experience being a tall person

[00:25:49] [SPEAKER_00]: as a strength and celebrate it for what it is. I think that's key message that's coming through

[00:25:56] [SPEAKER_00]: this conversation. What do you do when you want to find that strength in yourself? What's that

[00:26:06] [SPEAKER_00]: go to, you have built internally to continue that resilience to say, I'm proud of being a tall person

[00:26:15] [SPEAKER_00]: and I can step out and step up and be myself and be that amazing person that I am. What do you

[00:26:24] [SPEAKER_02]: do to feed that in your mind? Well, it always be a very intellectual person. Despite the physical

[00:26:37] [SPEAKER_02]: struggles of being tall, I've somehow, so I focused on my inner work, I've always read a lot of books

[00:26:46] [SPEAKER_02]: and I've got friends who were equals and they're meaningfully very supportive. And all

[00:26:55] [SPEAKER_02]: of the years I've just created my own bubble, shall we say? So regardless of what the outside world

[00:27:03] [SPEAKER_02]: is about, I try to be happy in my own little bubble. So the more you focus on yourself,

[00:27:13] [SPEAKER_02]: in your internal world and happiness in principles and everything which rules your world,

[00:27:20] [SPEAKER_02]: the more you become resilient to what comes from the outside. And I've just found different things

[00:27:27] [SPEAKER_02]: I encounter myself with, so my go-to things are basically the things which fuel myself. So I have

[00:27:36] [SPEAKER_02]: music, listening right and about it because I like to reduce the volume to your work,

[00:27:45] [SPEAKER_02]: you have metal upside. So it's music, it's my books and all of the past few years fitness

[00:27:53] [SPEAKER_02]: can become more and more important to me as we age when we look after our bodies.

[00:28:01] [SPEAKER_02]: And yeah, I just dip into my own world and depending on how I feel on the day,

[00:28:07] [SPEAKER_02]: just do one of the things which I have got time will catch space for.

[00:28:12] [SPEAKER_02]: A couple of years ago I started learning to play the piano as well and that really helped with

[00:28:18] [SPEAKER_02]: so times when I felt really overwhelmed and just not knowing which way to turn,

[00:28:25] [SPEAKER_02]: I found the basic thing of the piano. I block everything else just because it requires all my

[00:28:30] [SPEAKER_02]: mental effort to concentrate on the notes and you're... So yeah, it's all these things which make us

[00:28:38] [SPEAKER_00]: who are a person with you and they look definitely. So what is what's your favourite piece to play

[00:28:46] [SPEAKER_00]: on the piano when you want to just switch off from the world and switch on T-Self?

[00:28:52] [SPEAKER_02]: Unfortunately I'm very sorry, I've been learning for about two years but

[00:28:58] [SPEAKER_02]: the lesson which was one so weeks. So I'm only at the beginning working towards a

[00:29:02] [SPEAKER_02]: blade one and I have to stop a few months ago just because of flash crushes and playing

[00:29:07] [SPEAKER_02]: back and play but we're going to take this all from what I'm doing. Yes, yes,

[00:29:15] [SPEAKER_02]: I've heard this for the sound just play and Danny Boy, there's some very nice.

[00:29:25] [SPEAKER_02]: It sounds like you can... Good, I've got it there. I think the whole thing will be able to

[00:29:37] [SPEAKER_00]: small steps to the time that it's what it's all about. That's all all of what we can do.

[00:29:44] [SPEAKER_00]: So what would you like to share with your listeners today as those three candy tips that

[00:29:49] [SPEAKER_00]: you can something that you'd like to just leave as words of wisdom for my listeners?

[00:29:59] [SPEAKER_02]: I think the first thing is the message which is one, the main message is in my book as well.

[00:30:05] [SPEAKER_02]: Don't let life and people control you. So whatever happens choose the way you respond to.

[00:30:17] [SPEAKER_02]: It's not about what happens to you, it's about how you respond. So you're in control of your

[00:30:22] [SPEAKER_02]: own self. So work on yourself and try to find a happy place. Regardless of the circumstances.

[00:30:31] [SPEAKER_02]: The second, whether it's advice or kick with this amount yourself or the right time of people.

[00:30:40] [SPEAKER_02]: So those who bring you down and who are toxic to you just try and get the amount of your life.

[00:30:46] [SPEAKER_02]: That really helps us around the New Self with people who support your interest.

[00:30:51] [SPEAKER_02]: That has all the effects you can think of.

[00:30:57] [SPEAKER_02]: In the third one. Hello. Third one, we'll be fine with the one thing which makes you happy and

[00:31:05] [SPEAKER_02]: do it as often as you can. Well it's going for a walk or go through the gym or meet friends.

[00:31:13] [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever if you, which makes you tick. Beautiful. Fantastic. So not letting life control you but

[00:31:20] [SPEAKER_00]: choosing how you respond. Surrounding yourself with people who lift you up and find that one thing

[00:31:26] [SPEAKER_00]: that makes you truly happy and go and do it. So my final question for you, then Angelina,

[00:31:34] [SPEAKER_00]: is how would you describe the opportunity of a can do mindset? What does it mean to you to have that

[00:31:41] [SPEAKER_00]: belief in yourself to say, you know I can get through this? It means that if that means that

[00:31:48] [SPEAKER_02]: you can go through life is a happy and successful person rather than someone who is miserable and

[00:31:53] [SPEAKER_02]: just looking for ways to sell sabotage yourself or I think that I can do happy to this

[00:32:00] [SPEAKER_02]: what gets us to life and the sooner you find it, the better. Brilliant brilliant. Well thank you

[00:32:07] [SPEAKER_00]: so much for sharing your story today on the Can Do Why and I wish you every success with your

[00:32:15] [SPEAKER_00]: walk sales as well and I will include your link to your book in the show notes so that listeners

[00:32:21] [SPEAKER_00]: can get a copy wherever they are in the world. So thank you so much for being my guest today

[00:32:29] [SPEAKER_02]: on the Can Do Why. Thank you very much, Gal. I appreciate it and really enjoyed talking to you.

[00:32:36] [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you. Thank you for listening to my podcast The Can Do Why. Do you live in Brie the Can Do

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