Как решать серьезные жизненные проблемы?

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[00:00:31] So, how can I handle serious problems in my life?

[00:00:37] Your life has no serious problems.

[00:00:43] Can you explain in more detail?

[00:00:49] What serious problems do you talk about?

[00:00:51] Just what job to choose?

[00:00:53] What girl to marry?

[00:00:56] Well, yes.

[00:00:57] Where to go on vacation?

[00:01:00] Married or not?

[00:01:01] Everything is in that spirit.

[00:01:04] These are the things, isn't it?

[00:01:07] It's not serious problems.

[00:01:09] Your life is just something insignificant.

[00:01:12] Yes.

[00:01:13] Oh, is it a little thing to choose your wife?

[00:01:15] I'm not saying that it's a little thing.

[00:01:18] But as a problem, it's a small problem, an unambiguous problem.

[00:01:22] As a consequence, your life is always in great importance.

[00:01:27] But people have been doing this for millions of years.

[00:01:31] We have accumulated enough experience in such things.

[00:01:34] Isn't that right?

[00:01:36] We know that whatever job we have chosen,

[00:01:41] whether we are married or not,

[00:01:44] the main thing is how we perceive it.

[00:01:48] Every experience in life, you can turn into experience that enriches your life.

[00:01:53] Every experience in life, you can turn into a curse.

[00:01:56] You see, there is nothing wrong in your job.

[00:02:01] No job, there's nothing wrong getting into it,

[00:02:04] to get a job or to lose it.

[00:02:07] There's nothing wrong getting married,

[00:02:09] there's nothing wrong getting divorced,

[00:02:11] there's nothing wrong staying in a good family.

[00:02:15] There's nothing wrong, there's nothing wrong.

[00:02:19] But it is just that you make misery out of it that's wrong.

[00:02:23] But you turn it into suffering, and it's bad.

[00:02:27] If you do one thing, then you turn it into suffering.

[00:02:30] If you do something else, then you turn it into suffering too.

[00:02:33] That's your problem.

[00:02:34] So you got married, it's bad, that's not the point.

[00:02:37] There's nothing wrong in that.

[00:02:39] You didn't get married, it's bad, there's nothing wrong in that.

[00:02:42] It's also great.

[00:02:43] You got divorced, is it bad?

[00:02:45] No, it's also wonderful.

[00:02:48] It is just that you turn it into suffering.

[00:02:50] That's bad.

[00:02:52] Just do one thing, that's the problem,

[00:02:54] and all other problems will disappear.

[00:02:56] That's what we're looking at.

[00:02:58] How not to turn it into suffering.

[00:03:01] If you only care about it,

[00:03:03] then everything will be solved, not like that.

[00:03:05] If you know how to go through this world of joy,

[00:03:08] through marriage, divorce, celibacy,

[00:03:10] or anything else.

[00:03:11] If you know how to go through all this with joy,

[00:03:14] then what's the problem?

[00:03:15] Everything you do will be beautiful, not like that.

[00:03:18] Does it mean that it's enough to just live happily

[00:03:24] without consciousness?

[00:03:27] It will be the next step.

[00:03:30] If you don't even know how to be happy,

[00:03:33] don't set your goal to achieve enlightenment.

[00:03:36] You're very far from that.

[00:03:38] Happiness is just a state of mind.

[00:03:43] And any more.

[00:03:44] You know, with this stupid definition,

[00:03:46] you deny something that is available in your life.

[00:03:49] Happiness is not just a state of mind.

[00:03:52] Happiness defines the quality of your life.

[00:03:56] Not like that.

[00:03:57] Isn't happiness a little thing?

[00:03:59] Oh, it's just a state of mind.

[00:04:01] Isn't it a little thing?

[00:04:03] Isn't that the biggest problem?

[00:04:05] To be happy, I don't need anything.

[00:04:08] You wrote in your book that it's the least

[00:04:10] you can do to make life happy.

[00:04:12] Yes.

[00:04:13] And if I achieve it,

[00:04:15] will I satisfy the remaining life?

[00:04:18] No.

[00:04:19] No.

[00:04:22] I didn't say that.

[00:04:23] I said that if it's impossible for you,

[00:04:26] forget about enlightenment and stuff like that.

[00:04:29] It's not available to you.

[00:04:32] If you're capable of living happily in this world,

[00:04:35] then you can say that you want to go abroad.

[00:04:39] If you're not even able to live happily in this world,

[00:04:42] then don't say that you want to go abroad.

[00:04:45] It's impossible, I'm telling you.

[00:04:50] It's just impossible.

[00:04:52] For a person who is constantly creating conflicts inside of him,

[00:04:58] how he deals with the limitations of life,

[00:05:01] how he exposes them,

[00:05:03] it's excluded.

[00:05:05] There can't be any talk about it.

[00:05:08] So, first of all,

[00:05:10] you need to start working on being a happy person.

[00:05:14] If that happens, then everything else will become very simple.

[00:05:18] Because if nothing threatens your happiness,

[00:05:21] you can do everything that is needed.

[00:05:23] Not like that.

[00:05:25] Now you can't do what is needed,

[00:05:27] because your happiness is always threatened.

[00:05:30] You think about how to do it right.

[00:05:32] There's nothing right in your life.

[00:05:35] There's nothing wrong in your life.

[00:05:38] If you know how not to make everything you're doing a suffering from,

[00:05:41] then everything you're doing is right.

[00:05:43] If you make everything you're doing a suffering from,

[00:05:46] then everything you're doing is wrong.

[00:05:48] So, this is the only problem you need to figure out.

[00:05:53] Everything else is a little bit of a mess.

[00:05:55] What does it matter?