episode 27: mindfulness in emotional wisdom

[00:00:00] Hello and welcome to Hina's Emo Wisdom Podcast. My dear lovely people, this is Hina Ambareen Khan, certified wellness coach, certified life coach, speaker or her former soil scientist from Indian Institute of Science. And in this episode I'm going to dive into a topic that actually lies at

[00:00:16] the heart of living a fulfilling and impactful life. And this is pertaining to emotional wisdom, how you can support a partner through all those challenges in life, especially about what we lack. That's the mindfulness. So our focus will be on how emotional wisdom,

[00:00:41] when it is combined with self-awareness, willingness to change, which is hard for people. And the purpose, there should be a purpose in life. Without purpose, life is very boring. And all this can make a significant difference how we can support our loved ones. And let me get

[00:01:03] started with this and lend your ears. My dear lovely people, so what's the foundation of this? As I have told you, emotional wisdom it is the cornerstone of supporting a partner or anybody or your own self. First, support yourself. Mindfulness is very important because I had seen

[00:01:24] most of the people when they used to talk, they used to be occupied with so many thoughts but they're talking and you know, and this is something and when the opposite person is supposed

[00:01:33] to speak and they are hearing that person but they are not actually hearing, they are lost in their own thoughts and immediately they intervene without even understanding. And when there is no mindfulness in whatever you do whether somebody is talking and your work

[00:01:46] in your relationships that leads to a lot of turmoil. So what is the neuroscience of mindfulness? See, the ancient practice of mindfulness was studied in recent decades. It was actually about how it's going to enhance your physical and mental health. So mindfulness practices

[00:02:06] actually help you to stay present. Here itself you can understand with the word mindful, being mindful of what you do. So how can you be mindful of what you do? By being in the present situation whatever is happening if you're talking be present. If

[00:02:20] you're doing some work that particular work be present. If you are addressing something to someone be present. So it actually reduces the impact of your external noises. You understand when you happen to be like this you can understand what is this external noise and

[00:02:38] it actually helps you to improve your cognitive performance. And for those who wants to support with this mindfulness it can be a tool to maintain the emotional balance and clarity. So the practical steps, how you can be mindful by being an active listener that's very

[00:03:01] important. We talk a lot more than listening yes or no. Either we show lack of interest that's not active listening. We are like okay yeah the body gestures they matter a lot. Make sure you listen without interrupting and validate their feelings. Non-judgmental approach always

[00:03:23] should exist without judgment and you should acknowledge whatever is said and whatever you are feeling. And creating a safe environment it's very important because maintaining a supportive and stress-free home environment and practicing patience is very much important. See when we feel

[00:03:48] that we are a multitasker that is seriously a biggest problem multitasking is not a healthy thing because multitaskers they are not productive for your kind information. I was one such and I used to feel the kiosk in my mind the irritability though my late mother always used

[00:04:07] to tell me no you focus only on one thing you know if she was there she had been you know a wonderful coach for your kind information because all through the expertise coaches what I hear and

[00:04:18] through whom I have taken all my learnings across the worldwide and I used to see my mom's teachings in them. Yeah and you know I was not listening to her those days but anyways I regret for that.

[00:04:34] I regret so guys I tell you do not regret so just lend your ears you need a mentor you need a coach because these days the mentors and the coach are the need of the are because everybody

[00:04:44] is going through a lot in life okay so when you are actually finding a purpose the purpose is essential supporting someone through the mental health journey. Purpose gives you a why you know that sustains during the challenging times. Personalize mindfulness practices mindfulness

[00:05:04] it doesn't have to be one size fits all it's about finding what works for you whether it's meditation running cooking dancing or simply enjoying nature but focus on one thing at a time

[00:05:24] you're like eating and typing that foot is not going to be of any use to your body you're simply putting something like grass into your mouth you understand so if you focus on what you're

[00:05:36] eating and chew that thoroughly and understand it you know with your saliva reduces it has a very very different impact on your metabolism otherwise simply stuffing and you're on the laptop and

[00:05:48] you know because we are all running with the problem of time this is what we say there's no time there's no time there's no time there is time but the chaos is in the mind the chaos

[00:06:00] happens in the mind so coming to a practice that helps you stay grounded and connected to your purpose so this is what I have to do now you have to chunk it down okay so uh when you are

[00:06:15] practicing these kind of things so it can be even your focus focus when somebody is talking or in your studies or even your breathing focus on your breath why do we call meditation is very

[00:06:30] important why do we call it very important that is because meditation helps to calm down your thoughts okay it's like channelizing your energy in one pipeline otherwise it's like intertwine this and that this and that this and that and so much of stress

[00:06:54] which is happening in your brain so every one hour make it a point that you immediately keep an alarm and sit in silence for one or two minutes that actually helps you to unwind with the chaos with

[00:07:06] the stress in your mind when it is going to unwind you it's going to calm your anxiety level the stress level when your mind is calm your body functions well you don't feel that tiredness

[00:07:23] you don't feel that fatigue so it's very important that you are mindful you understand so mindfulness actually people have heard a lot about it yeah people have heard a lot about mindfulness but

[00:07:39] they are not being mindful it's not that how much of knowledge you're trying to gain okay it's about how much you're going to implement so when you are being mindful of what you do

[00:07:54] that's going to save your life altogether so how do you work on this just the first and the basic foundation is focus with the small steps when you're sitting with your whatever you are wearing

[00:08:15] or it's a barefoot what it is touching your barefoot is it touching the floor or it's on the couch and what is your body posture what's happening so this is the way you have to start focusing when you focus connecting with yourself it becomes easier

[00:08:35] for you to get channelized with things that are happening outside you understand so always the problem with the world is where the kiosk and the stress runs in their mind so when you are having a mindful attitude towards things then you become more and more productive and successful

[00:09:03] you understand friends so mindfulness we take it very like hi yeah yeah we know about mindfulness that's meditation right this is what it is in the minds of the people but that is not the only thing mindfulness is when somebody is talking to you you are keenly

[00:09:19] listening whether you like it or not if you dislike it then you know because you're deeply listening and you're not dislike not liking it then what are you going to say no no no

[00:09:28] I just have to go now something like that you're going to just take a leave and move right if something is said and you're not being mindful about it what do you do you give some other

[00:09:40] answer for what is said which you had not heard because you were not mindful yeah so mindfulness it does not require you to sit in meditation for hours together it can be incorporated into your

[00:09:54] daily activities just like mindful eating what I said pay full attention to the experience of eating and drinking both internally and externally notice the colors the smell the texture the flavors the temperature even the sounds of the food mindful walking you would have heard

[00:10:09] this walk slowly and focus on the movement of your body and sensations in your feet as they touch the ground mindful listening when having a conversation which I have been telling you listen fully to the other person without planning what you have to talk it's a biggest

[00:10:24] problem people have mindful about the task choose an everyday task whatever for women who are at home washing dishes brushing your teeth do it with full attention even when you brush your teeth focus and do it notice the sensation moments and sounds involved in the activity

[00:10:41] which I am very very much used to this okay mindfulness it actually helps you to recognize stress early and it can help you to respond with calmness taking a few deep breaths when you feel stressed and improves your relationship my dear friends many people have this habit

[00:11:01] right somebody is talking you're having fun in your hand it's it is a serious disrespect it's very immoral by being more present and empathetic mindfulness it improves your interaction with others be a good listener it's not going to harm you it's not going to listen to you

[00:11:19] it's not that it's only you have to talk you have to talk you have to talk and they have to listen don't do that be good listeners because word want somebody who can listen and lend

[00:11:28] their ears that's the care that's the concern actually what you shown when you are a good listener so and it's wisdom for your kind information so when you listen mindfully you respond more thoughtfully and that strengthens your relationships mindfulness it allows you to pause and consider

[00:11:45] your emotions before acting and that leads to more thoughtful and wise decisions mindfulness it fosters also kinder relationship with yourself how is your relationship with your own self forget about others with your own self whatever is the relationship with you you are executing the same

[00:12:04] with the people around when you observe your thoughts your emotions without judgment stop judging you can develop greater self-compassion and you can reduce negative self-talk okay there's you know when we get into the serious mindfulness approach in life

[00:12:28] and there will be so many problems which are going to be reduced in our life why we are into problems because we are not mindful oh my mindful are or be mindful oh this

[00:12:39] is the thing that I have to do at this particular time and but don't be harsh on yourself oh I could not do oh I did not listen oh no no no no this all needs practice you understand but

[00:12:53] the first and the foremost thing connect with yourself be mindful about what's happening with you even when it comes to health many people they do not observe or listen to the body it keeps on giving the alarming signals when you are not mindful about it what's going to

[00:13:12] happen if there comes a time where you have to knock the doors of the hospitals and where the matter becomes very serious so be mindful of your own self first practicing yourself first and then you can be mindful about things around you because this is nothing but

[00:13:35] wisdom emotional wisdom is being mindful yeah so thank you for joining me on this explanation of mindfulness my dear people and emotional wisdom if you find that this episode helpful please subscribe rate and review my podcast and I'm literally happy every time this

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[00:14:26] which the creator has sent me and the purpose that is being filled by helping the people empowering them is what I'm grateful for so in every episode I thank those people who have joined

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[00:14:48] helping people because my mission and my purpose has always been to empower every single individual existing on the earth yeah so thank you for joining me on this episode so share your thoughts or experiences with me on my social media handle that I have given

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[00:15:23] and life of emotional wisdom until then take care and be kind to yourself and those around you tata and bye