In this episode of A Little Zen, A Little Mess, Seema explores the difference between being kind and being so nice that you slowly disappear.
We learn to say “it’s fine” when it isn’t, “anything is fine” when we have a preference, and “don’t worry about me” when we really should be worrying about ourselves. Somewhere along the way, keeping the peace can become a way of keeping ourselves quiet.
But kindness doesn't mean tolerating everything. You can have boundaries and still have a heart. You can say no without explaining yourself for five minutes. And you can disappoint people without doing anything wrong.
Because maybe the goal isn't to become harder or less caring. Maybe it's simply to stop abandoning yourself in the process of being good to everyone else.
Be kind. Be generous. Love deeply. But don't be so nice that you disappear.
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