Episode 9: The Art of Happiness

00:00:01 Speaker 1: Super morning. And this podcast is very close to my heart because it is about the art of happiness. So here is the, I will tell you the real life story about my life. 00:00:14 Speaker 1: What I was doing is 00:00:17 Speaker 1: when I was um 00:00:20 Speaker 1: in past few days, I noticed that all day long, I was working, I was busy. I didn't have any time, 00:00:26 Speaker 1: but I was not happy from inside. I was doing what I love to do, but I was so busy that I forgot everything else. I couldn't pick up calls from my friends and they were like so wonderful things that I missed because 00:00:43 Speaker 1: of this single thing of being busy. 00:00:46 Speaker 1: So then I realized that why I am not happy. And suddenly I realized that in the year 2020 15, I used to live in a PG. 00:00:58 Speaker 1: They are with the five guys. I used to earn only 24,000 per month. 00:01:04 Speaker 1: And that was the time I was the happiest person on earth. 00:01:08 Speaker 1: So I started observing what were the things that actually made me so happy. So when I made a list at first, I had no social media. 00:01:17 Speaker 1: Uh not even whatsapp, no, Instagram, no Facebook. So even if my team had to contact me, they had to text me that this is the thing and you need to come and, and everything I was working in it. But I didn't have any social media. Now when I detached myself from all this show and everything, 00:01:36 Speaker 1: the first thing that came was I became unique. I was very confident. I was proud of myself of what the way I lived because it aligned with my values. I never liked show off and everything. 00:01:51 Speaker 1: So when I was aligned with my values, I was very happy. Second, I lived a very minimalist life. So I had hardly like six or seven shirts for the office and barely like five something other shirts and two jeans. And that's it. Like there was a very small Almira where we used to fit in all our things. Hardly a 4 ft four by two, barely not even two. And so that was the very small Almira we had. That's all we had 00:02:21 Speaker 1: yet. We often found out our ourselves laughing a lot, smiling a lot. Second was we had like wonderful friends and every single day we had uh used to have lunch with our friends only. So even if the building was different, we all used to come together and then we had lunch. So whenever our, our team asked that come have lunch with us, so we said, politely refuse. No, no. No, we, 00:02:47 Speaker 1: we have our friends and we will have lunch together. Now what happened during that lunch was even if anyone was feeling sad because of boss or because of anything wrong happening in the light. And when we shared in the group, so we all laughed like crazy and we just took it so lightly 00:03:04 Speaker 1: that it is all right, like things like this happen. And the person who was telling himself or herself used to laugh a lot. So we used to laugh on our problems. We never thought that, oh, this is so big. This is make, used to make those problems so light 00:03:19 Speaker 1: and laugh it off. So that was the ability that now uh helped us take things very lightly, not take, take anything as a pressure. And um, so like this 00:03:30 Speaker 1: one more thing is so when you start running in the rat race thing is you lose your uniqueness. You, you are like everybody else. Now, you will become like a donkey and there is a person who is behind you and he is uh showing a carrot right in front of your eyes. But anyway, you are not going to get the carrot. You will keep running after the carrot and ultimately, neither you will get the carrot and your whole life will go like this. 00:04:00 Speaker 1: Now, when you are in that phase, when you are running after money or you are running after a big post, so when you start running after something, the whatever you are chasing goes far away. It's like a cat. When you try to catch it, it goes far, far, far, but you won't be able to catch. But when you sit silently with something with milk near you or anything, you beat the 00:04:25 Speaker 1: cat to come near you. 00:04:27 Speaker 1: Now she will come and play with you and sit in your lap. Also 00:04:32 Speaker 1: stop running after things, money and followers and all of these things that will not actually contribute to your life. 00:04:43 Speaker 1: Now, once you start running after something, anyone can sell you anything, 00:04:49 Speaker 1: you people will start selling you carrot and you will be like, oh no, no, yes, yes. This is the right thing for more money. I need this carrot for more money. I need this carrot and people will be able to make huge money out of you and you will still be at the same place. 00:05:05 Speaker 1: So learn to be happy when you have nothing. Don't wait that I will have these, these, these things, then I will start becoming happy. It doesn't happen like that because once you practice the habit of unhappiness, even if things keep coming to you, you will practice that. Ok? I don't have this now. I don't have this now. But once you start being happy with whatever you have, you are at a far better position because now you have learned to live with nothing. 00:05:34 Speaker 1: You have learned to be happy with nothing. So now when you have many things you are, you are even happier and happier. You are, you already know the art of happiness. 00:05:44 Speaker 1: So this is a very key thing. Sit down and reflect what are the things you are doing. Make a list of things that you love doing. 00:05:53 Speaker 1: So, what I used to do during my um office time 2015 was I, every weekend I used to switch off my phone and I went on some of the other tracks. So I was in the arms of Mother Nature and that was the thing that I was aligned to. Most. I loved hiking and trekking and there was I used to meet new people. This gave me so much energy. So I was always excited 00:06:17 Speaker 1: that OK, this weekend it's something new. So I was always trying some of the other new thing, either cycling or some adventure or waterfall wrestling or paragliding course. 00:06:28 Speaker 1: So I tried so many things, so many things and it was always see, not everything would be so much fun as you expect it to be. But then we slept under the uh in caves, we slept under the open sky. When the whole moon was illuminating the whole valley, we slept on stones. So all we had was a simple luggage and a simple backpack and barely bare necessities. 00:06:54 Speaker 1: And we learn to be happy with that. So once you learn the art of happiness you don't need. So many things to be happy. Once you are already a minimalist person, half of the things would already be solved. 00:07:08 Speaker 1: Now, one more thing is 00:07:11 Speaker 1: whenever you are doing something, ask yourself, let's say there is no social media, 00:07:18 Speaker 1: there is nowhere where you can show these things. Still. Will you do it these things. Now, for example, I wanted to climb Mount Everest. The thing is when I thought about Mount Everest, what I thought was OK. Once I will climb the mount Everest, I will get glory. There would be so many people, thousands of people clapping for me 00:07:39 Speaker 1: and then I will get speaking opportunities and then my life would be set correct. But one of my mentors told me that they said, never do things for two things for fame and for money, 00:07:52 Speaker 1: don't do, do things that actually make you happier and fulfilled. 00:07:58 Speaker 1: That day, I realized that if there is no one to clap for me, will I still climb Mount Everest? And the answer I got was no. So the day I will feel like that even if there is no newspaper in the world that will publish about me. If there is no, no people talking about me and still I would go ahead and climb Mount Everest just for the sake of my heart. 00:08:20 Speaker 1: That's the day when I will go and actually climb it. But before it, if I am doing it for glory and everything I will not do it. 00:08:27 Speaker 1: So this is how you should decide if you are in a party and you are clicking thousands of pictures. 102 100. And you have wasted so much of your precious time instead of connecting with the fellow friends. Instead of actually discussing some wonderful things, you are just clicking. 00:08:45 Speaker 1: If there are memory pictures, 5 to 10, good enough. But if you are just going for the sake of pictures and then you are wasting so much time and deleting all those pictures, then posting and then waiting. Ok, how many people are liking or not liking? See I will give you a very practical example. 00:09:03 Speaker 1: Let's say you fall ill today or you had an accident. 00:09:08 Speaker 1: The first your closest network would be your family that would be taking immediate care of you. There would be someone in your family only who would be donating blood to you. So the most important part of life is your family, the people around you, your friends who are actually around you, not the social media friends, even if you have 1 million followers, you won't be able to uh go in like 00:09:33 Speaker 1: from hospital. You won't be able to message that I am ill and how many of you can help me? 00:09:38 Speaker 1: It can only happen in financial terms. And that to at a later stage when you are able to actually communicate. But right now, if you are in hospital in a need of blood, only people around, you would be able to help you. 00:09:51 Speaker 1: So always focus on what is actually around. You don't focus on the people and all the social media connections. Ultimately, even if you have 10,000 connections on linkedin or anything, ultimately, it won't help you in real life. So the major fake focus of your life should be the real people around you. Spending time with them, meeting the friends around you, spending quality time laughing a lot, smiling a lot. 00:10:19 Speaker 1: So surround yourself with people who laugh a lot who are very jolly. Don't be jealous, don't be jealous of any successful person. A happy person, a wealthy person, whenever you see such people try to learn from them, make them friends and learn from them how they are doing it. That's the fastest way to grow. So this is a founder of Supersonic Success Academy and this is what I teach. I teach real life skills that will actually make you happy and wealthy 00:10:48 Speaker 1: because both of these things go parallel and are very necessary. But first you need to be happy inside. First, you need to feel wealthy inside. If you know Tom Cruise from the movie Top Gun, you know, he was always a captain even after so many years. You know why? Because he loved to fly the jack plane. He never wanted to go on a senior post where his p would die and 00:11:11 Speaker 1: he won't be able to fly. Same thing happened with me when I was in job, I never wanted promotion because I was so happy. I had so much freedom to do things I love. So, even if they would have offered me something, I would have said, no, no, no, I don't want the promotion. I actually said no, I am very happy with what I am doing right now. So the day I will need money, I will think about it because it will occupy lots of my time. 00:11:34 Speaker 1: Same thing when I got the opportunity of job from Bangalore and they called me. The first thing I told them was even though I was a very junior employee, the first thing I told them was 00:11:44 Speaker 1: that I will not work on weekends. Weekends is my time. My uh I go in nature and my phone is switched off. So I lived my life on my terms. No one decided how much I would work. I said five days give me work. I will do it but weekends are totally off. And that day I don't even pick up my phone because it's switched off. So you should decide how you should live your life. So that's it for today. Have a beautiful day. 00:12:09 Speaker 1: And I'm sharing the link below. You can join my whatsapp and Facebook groups and you can buy my course where I tell you in detail about all these things, how to live a wonderful life, how to invest your money, how to be financially free to do the things you love and actually doing the things simultaneously to live a beautiful life. So that's it for the day. Have a wonderful day. Be unstoppable, be super sonic.