In this episode Ankur responds to an email from a 21-year-old woman who feels stuck and unhappy with the direction of her life. She’s struggling to navigate her parents’ expectations and her own desires, and has fallen into a victim mindset—blaming others for her current situation. Ankur offers direct and honest feedback, emphasizing the importance of taking full responsibility for your own life.
Tune in for Ankur’s tough-love advice and learn how to shift from blaming others to taking responsibility for your own success. Don’t forget to review and subscribe to Woice With Warikoo for new episodes every Thursday!
[00:00:03] Hey everyone, this is Voice with Warikoo, with my, or Ankur Warikoo. I cover a lot of things in this English podcast series, career, relationships, personal finance, success, failure, and frankly, anything else that comes to this time. Every week on Thursday, a new episode on your favorite podcast platform, Voice with Warikoo.
[00:00:28] I received an email from a 21-year-old. Well-to-do family say, but parents didn't allow her to venture out much, and she agreed. She did not willfully agree, but she had no choice it seems.
[00:00:45] So, she took up science when she really didn't want to, worked hard, and got through a good Canadian university. So, she went there for computer science, but in the future, she changed her majors to business.
[00:00:58] And she did not inform her parents. Now, she was scared of what she was in life. And her email ended with,
[00:01:06] I'll be fine because I always am fine, but the thing is, who do I blame? I'm willing to blame her.
[00:01:14] And we exchanged a few emails, and I noticed that her pattern was, she wants to blame her parents for the current state, which she's not happy about.
[00:01:25] I was very clearly seeing her parents. She wanted to give her parents a chance to give her parents.
[00:01:31] Because she's not happy with her, she's not happy. So, I asked her for permission to share some feedback.
[00:01:39] I said to her, do you want me to give her advice? I want to tell you something very honestly, directly.
[00:01:46] And she's like, okay, you can share the feedback. And this is what I told her exactly.
[00:01:53] You have a victim mindset.
[00:01:58] Which is to blame something or someone else for where you are.
[00:02:04] And this victim mindset tells you that you have to give another thing to any other thing,
[00:02:10] wherever you are in life, for that.
[00:02:14] Because this mindset feels powerful at that moment.
[00:02:19] It feels like you have done what you had to do, and only if something or someone else had done their bit,
[00:02:25] things would have been fine.
[00:02:27] Because this victim mindset, this feels very powerful in that moment.
[00:02:32] She tells you that what you had to do, you have done it.
[00:02:40] And at 21, this is a very dangerous mindset to have.
[00:02:44] It will never make you grow. It will never make you succeed.
[00:02:47] In the 21st century, this is a very dangerous mindset.
[00:02:50] That's why you never grow or succeed.
[00:02:55] You say you've tried.
[00:02:57] But I don't think you really have.
[00:02:59] Because where you are right now is far more comfortable.
[00:03:02] You say that you've tried to explain yourself.
[00:03:06] But I don't think you've done it.
[00:03:07] Why?
[00:03:08] Because where you are right now, it's a very comfortable place.
[00:03:12] You have someone to blame.
[00:03:13] You have an excuse for not winning in life.
[00:03:15] You actually have an explanation.
[00:03:18] Because now, what is the opportunity to blame someone else?
[00:03:22] You have an excuse or a joke that you don't have a happy in life or why you don't have a勝利.
[00:03:27] You have an explanation of why you're upset here.
[00:03:32] And the truth is that if you were to actually do it your own way,
[00:03:36] and then happen to fail, you will have no one else to blame.
[00:03:40] And that scares the shit out of you.
[00:03:43] Because you know at that point, you will have nowhere to hide, nowhere to run to.
[00:03:48] Because if you've taken the responsibility of yourself, and if you were to lose yourself, you will have no blame.
[00:03:56] You will have no blame.
[00:03:57] And you will have no blame.
[00:03:59] And you will have a fear.
[00:04:00] Because you know at that point, you can't hide, nowhere to run.
[00:04:06] You are young.
[00:04:07] You have a beautiful life in front of you.
[00:04:10] Don't mess it up.
[00:04:12] Don't mess it up.
[00:04:12] You are young.
[00:04:13] You are a beautiful life in front of you.
[00:04:16] Please, don't talk about your life like this.
[00:04:19] Get up.
[00:04:20] Get outside of your head.
[00:04:22] And take responsibility for yourself.
[00:04:26] Get up.
[00:04:27] Get out of your head.
[00:04:29] And become responsible for your life.
[00:04:33] You've got this.
[00:04:35] You can do this.
[00:04:37] All the best.
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