Exclusive Interview with Image Creator Coach Diya Asrani

[00:00:00] But it was more of my teachers, my peers, other people who just keep saying,

[00:00:04] Yeah, this is not real. You're not cut out for this.

[00:00:06] Even in design school also, it was like that. So there was a pattern and that pattern led me to start believing that I'm very small in this.

[00:00:13] My role is nothing over here. So I used to always feel little small in my, man, I used to always play the small game.

[00:00:19] So that got me very curious about what can I do beyond this?

[00:00:24] I don't believe that image is all about dressing up and only looking good. No, image is also about how you feel with it.

[00:00:30] It's about what the inner self really talks because if your outer self is showing that this is how you dress and all,

[00:00:37] but your inner self is not congruent to that, what's the point?

[00:00:40] So that was the intention. So I said, you know, let me teach people that it's not just about having the most expensive wardrobe.

[00:00:47] Thank you so much there for joining this. This is such a pleasure and such a privilege that I got this chance.

[00:01:01] So thank you so much for coming.

[00:01:02] You're welcome. I'm also very, very happy to be on this. So I'm really excited to see how the sun falls.

[00:01:09] Thank you.

[00:01:10] Me too. Yeah, I'm also very excited for this.

[00:01:13] So before we begin about your journey, can you say a little bit about what you do for the people who have not heard about you in my audience?

[00:01:23] Yes. So I am an impact creator coach. I help in image and personality pretty much.

[00:01:30] And I'm on a mission to help people become impact creators so that they can enrich and empower the society through their magnetic personalities and image.

[00:01:39] So whatever role that they play, they work more on their personality and image actually brings out the best in them.

[00:01:46] So that's what I do. That's like in a nutshell. And I've been doing this for more than, I mean, if you are right now, more than more than 12 years.

[00:01:54] And I've been into training and coaching for a while. So I've been doing this, you know, this has been like a big passion for me to help other people because once upon a time, I was struggling with it.

[00:02:05] When I was trying to make my name and, you know, build my brand and build my things. So I thought it's not just about going and marketing yourself and selling a product or a service.

[00:02:15] It's more about going there and being you like being your image, being your personality, like being that magnetic force of energy where people will be attracted to you.

[00:02:25] So that's what I wanted to, you know, build for people. And that's how I, you know, started building this brand and building things in my career.

[00:02:32] So in a nutshell, that's a little bit about me.

[00:02:35] Okay. So you did all this single-handedly like?

[00:02:38] Yes. Pretty much single-handedly everything done all by myself. I started as a solo premier now. I outsource things. I have my own teams coming from all over India.

[00:02:48] So I have like a marketing team, ads team, all that's now because over a period of time I have built.

[00:02:54] So initially, yes, it was a lot of me doing it just as a freelancer, as a person, you know, just figuring things out.

[00:03:02] But after a point I realized that, you know, I need to kind of branch out. I need to kind of expand. So that's how it evolved into what it is today.

[00:03:11] Okay. That's actually very interesting. But I'm actually a little bit more curious related to how you started and why you thought that this is something that's the need of the R&D.

[00:03:21] You need to be this brand. What was the thought process?

[00:03:26] Yeah, so the thought process is simple. It's very like... So I always used to as a child, I mean, I had very supportive parents.

[00:03:36] But whenever I was in school or in college or anywhere where I was trying to explore and do something that I love, I was always pulled back from it.

[00:03:46] It was always like, you know, no, no, no, don't do it. You know, this is not it.

[00:03:51] Not only from my parents because of course my parents were just looking for the best for me.

[00:03:55] But it was more of my teachers, my peers, my, you know, the other people who just keep saying, yeah, this is not for you.

[00:04:01] You're not cut out for this. Even in design school also, it was like that. So there was a pattern and that pattern led me to start believing that I'm very small in this.

[00:04:11] I'm not a, you know, this my role is nothing over here. So it's always feel little small in my mind. And I saw always play the small game.

[00:04:19] So that got me very curious about what can I do beyond this?

[00:04:25] And that's when I signed up for this program. It's a course in an image consulting business institute where I wanted to join for working on myself.

[00:04:36] The idea was to work on myself. I know when you're going to be a trainer and no idea that I'm going to do all that, but when I got in, that's when I realized that this is my passion.

[00:04:45] This is what I love to do. I love dressing. I love styling. I love doing things. I love being my natural self.

[00:04:50] I love, you know, letting go of things, having fun. So I like doing all those things and I want to teach other people also to train to be their best versions and to own their authenticity.

[00:05:02] So that's how I started building it. And I realized that, you know what? Those people were making me play the small game.

[00:05:09] And when I got here, it was like, okay, this is where I have to, you know, grow and I want to do something so that I don't like people don't face what I face back in the day.

[00:05:19] So that's how it started. And with regards to image and personality, say I don't believe that image is all about dressing up and you know, only looking good. No, images also about how you feel within.

[00:05:33] It's about what the inner self really talks because if your outer self is showing that this is how you dress and all, but your inner self is not congruent to that. What's the point?

[00:05:42] Right? So that was the intention. So I said, you know, let me teach people that it's not just about having the most expensive wardrobe. Yes, you do look good. You do look nice. You look graceful. You set yourself up for success. All that is great.

[00:05:59] It's always good to look good. But that's not the only thing. A lot of people look good but behind the scenes they are not feeling good about it.

[00:06:07] So that's where I said I need to come in. I need to step in and then you know the personality and I mean personality is not just about so far in my entire journey personality was all about learning some soft skills.

[00:06:21] Yes, it's important to learn soft skills but for me it's about being building the energy in you and that magnetic force so that people come to you they are trapped they are attracted towards you.

[00:06:31] So I said, okay, I need to work on that and while I was working on that I saw people coming to me. I saw companies getting you know coming and booking me for their trainings.

[00:06:41] And I was like it's just happening. So that's how the whole you know thing evolved and then 2019 I met my mentor and my mentor said that stop downplaying you need to go and take action.

[00:06:53] And that's when I built the online business with my mentors and I started as designing a presence as a community. And then I moved on to impact creators club. That's what it is today.

[00:07:05] So yeah, that's been a journey.

[00:07:08] Awesome. This is so inspiring but I have one question related to the small game that you talked about.

[00:07:16] So as Indians there are so many Indians, especially the women as a young girl only we are told to play the small game all the time.

[00:07:28] We are not you know if we even raise our voice a little and be assertive also like there is a lot of this differences.

[00:07:36] So what advice would you like to give to this young girls who are being pushed down, you know they are told not to talk loudly or not to laugh loudly even you know what advice would you like to give to them so that they can achieve a lot in their life.

[00:07:51] See these are all these days we live in a world of a lot of awareness. Okay and a lot of knowledge around us so that so it's very important to educate yourself that you do what you feel is right.

[00:08:10] You know you have your own mind, you're a mind of your own that will allow you to go beyond what people tell you.

[00:08:18] People are going to constantly tell you to play the small game but that doesn't mean they're right.

[00:08:23] Right? You the way you see it is what really works over there how you respond to it. Now suppose somebody tells you that hey don't dance in front of the people or don't speak so loudly.

[00:08:34] It's not elegant to speak loudly. It's very you know it doesn't look good that you're speaking loudly in front of adults and your people and all that.

[00:08:43] You pause and you look at how you're going to respond to this so there are two ways to respond to it one is either you say that okay I'm going to listen to them and I'm not going to which is what most girls do, most women do they say okay they said that it doesn't look good so I'm not going to do it.

[00:09:00] Or the second option is that you choose for yourself and say okay if I raise my voice how's it going to benefit the world out there? How's it going to make an impact over there?

[00:09:13] If I raise my voice what's going to happen there will be a good thing. If it's positive I'm going to continue doing it.

[00:09:20] It's okay because today my family or whoever tells me to you know to dull down my voice might say things because they feel that is right but what do you feel is right?

[00:09:30] So ask yourself that question and today's girls, today's women we all are very very exposed to all kinds of information all kinds of experiences so we have every right to judge and see okay this is the right time to say this is the wrong time to say.

[00:09:49] Right but where you do it but if you keep dulling down your noise, your voice not noise your voice your you know the way you are your personality everything over a period of time that suppression is only going to lead to a lot of sadness.

[00:10:06] Yeah a lot of anxiety and a lot of doubt that you have in yourself that even though you're very good at what you do you're not able to do it because you have dulled down so much.

[00:10:16] Yeah and that's what happened to me and I don't want people to make that mistake so yes.

[00:10:23] That is so beautiful I just love this and many many women actually need to hear this because people are usually having so much of self doubt especially women they have been told to you know you don't understand or you know something like that or you know even when it's related to finances they are told that you will not understand I'll help you with it or something like that.

[00:10:46] And you know this they may be very subtle but it actually brings down their confidence and they also start questioning am I really that dumb or you know maybe I'm really that dumb like I don't really know much let them do it you know that kind of a mentality comes in for many women as we have seen already.

[00:11:04] So one there are two questions here the first one is related to how to build that confidence you know that I know like I am somebody so that is one question and the second question is related to how you know the appearance can change how people think about you.

[00:11:22] So first let's go to the confidence part.

[00:11:24] So I think the confidence the first thing is self belief you got to have faith in yourself that's more important than dressing well and body language and everything you got to have faith in yourself you got to be okay with being by okay let's look at it this way you got to be okay to own yourself 100% whether there are good side of you and the bad side of you nobody is perfect.

[00:11:49] Okay because there are there are going to be some bad traits of you which you are going to accept it and they're going to be some good traits of you.

[00:11:56] A lot of people focus on the good traits because they feel that that is what is going to get them to wherever they are but the bad traits also a part of you and it's okay to accept them because the more you accept them the more you will show up 100%.

[00:12:10] So there will be some times where you know the bad traits will show more which is fine I mean that is your human being that doesn't make you a bad person it just makes you a person who's okay or owning it 100% where you use it it depends.

[00:12:26] Now if you use it against your relationships against your health against everything that's a wrong thing to do but if you accepted that yeah I have this trait and I need to work on it that's a different scenario so that's one way to build your own.

[00:12:39] You need to build your confidence because you are accepting yourself 100% second thing of course keeping the faith in you know whatever you're doing thirdly I would say that it is also about going in front of the mirror and looking at yourself the way it is.

[00:12:56] It's not about wearing a mask it's not about wearing you know saying you know trying to be something that you're not because if you're going to be doing that many times what's going to happen it's going to break eventually.

[00:13:10] They say though they say some people believe in this whole thing of faking it till you make it right I believe is that what I believe is that you know when you fake it your authenticity is hidden.

[00:13:21] So it's just the way I believe I just feel that you know when you fake it okay that are sometimes you just need to fake it till you make it for certain things for certain things in your life it depends on which part of your life maybe your career you just want to show that you're really good at what you do and then when the time comes you actually become what you're good at and then you know it just becomes a blend which is fine but sometimes when you're faking who you really are that's where it backfires.

[00:13:47] How much ever you hide hide hide that's where the confidence comes down.

[00:13:52] When you start telling yourself that no I will do whatever it takes I will you know if I have to take risks I'll take risks so be it that's how you take risks.

[00:14:02] So I just feel that confidence is from there where you earn it and you own it it's not just about yeah okay I'm going to wear the best clothes and I'm going to have good body language and I'm going to regain my confidence.

[00:14:16] A lot of speakers I've seen also are not confident even though they have very good body language.

[00:14:22] I've seen that as well and I can see through people because I know I mean I worked on so many people with regards to energy with you know how they are behind the scenes and you know it's not that so I feel people have a very fixed notion about how to be confident but actually there is so much to it it's about you.

[00:14:43] So yeah that's a bit of confidence.

[00:14:47] So when you say confidence the one thing that people are really like focusing upon is as you said the bad traits you know like you mentioned this very subtly that bad traits we can use it for the good in a way like how you are using it.

[00:15:04] So can you give a little bit of you know some examples on how the bad traits could be used or even making peace with it for the better.

[00:15:13] It's about firstly it's about accepting it see nobody is perfect so sometimes now say I'll give you an example that okay you are a healthy person you go to the gym and all that but then one of your bad traits is you've been cheated.

[00:15:27] You eat on you know eat all the junk okay you accepted you're aware of it that yeah I eat the junk I go to my work out but I eat the junk but that doesn't make you you know bad at your health it's just that you are trying to strike a harmony between this and that.

[00:15:44] Okay another thing is that now you're bad another bad trait would be probably that you don't speak well sometimes you tend to you know just retaliate when somebody tries to give you a give you criticism or something like that.

[00:15:57] And you don't speak well there are many times people don't realize that they don't speak well but when you realize that you don't speak well automatically you accept it and say okay next time I'm going to be more conscious about it and I'm going to work on this and I'm going to go ahead.

[00:16:13] So when people are not things you know when they're not aware or not present with their trades automatically the confidence comes down none of us are perfect everybody has got some trait which is the demon you know and that demon will come in the way every time but you have to understand how do you deal with that demon.

[00:16:31] That demon could be something that you know it could be in health it could be in relationships it could be the way you speak it could be how you show up it could be how you do the work your focus your productivity anything it can be.

[00:16:44] It could be that you know you binge watch Netflix who knows but the thing is when you're aware of it you know that you can control it and you can handle so don't let your traits control you you can control them and that's where the confidence comes in.

[00:16:57] So awareness is everything.

[00:16:59] Yes awareness about what you do and how you are like I've seen a lot of mothers and I'm sure you're a mother.

[00:17:07] I've seen a lot of mothers who have kids and they have this guilt that you know I'm not able to take care of my child 100% it's perfect.

[00:17:17] It's okay yeah you make mistakes your child will understand you will move on.

[00:17:22] One point on the same thing is it's just still feels a little bit missing which is the mistakes you know it's one thing to have a bad trait which is like a you know constant thing like if I'm a little you know if you have anger issues for that matter then you have anger issues you can easily get anger.

[00:17:43] Okay that's one bad trait and maybe you're using it as a leader you are using it well to manage your team.

[00:17:51] Maybe that's one thing but what about mistakes like people usually connect confidence with mistakes many of my students who come for my productivity course they are also saying what if I make this mistake what if I make that so that's always kind of the first question that they ask

[00:18:09] and we all are human and we you know humans make mistakes and that's a given but then in this world right now it's really like with so much competition mistakes have become like something that is not even allowed or you know like for even one tidy little mistake we end up beating ourselves up a lot and everything.

[00:18:30] So what advice do you have to give to people for that you know the fear of making mistakes.

[00:18:35] Drop perfectionism.

[00:18:38] One question that's just one thing because if you can if you can the idea of people fearing to make mistakes is basically being perfect they want to be perfect at everything.

[00:18:50] Now as I said even before also bad traits good traits whatever traits mistakes are going to happen and it's okay to make mistake treat them as learnings.

[00:18:58] I look at mistakes as stepping stones.

[00:19:01] I look at them as you know okay one level up.

[00:19:04] Now what's the next step.

[00:19:06] What do I do what did I learn from this so whenever you make a mistake see you might have a fear of saying if I make a mistake what's going to happen what are they going to say.

[00:19:16] Come with that if I make a mistake what's going to happen at the most I will learn something.

[00:19:22] Yes people are going to talk anyway whether they talk or don't talk is it your business it's not yours.

[00:19:30] It is your control it's not yours how much ever you say that okay people are what do people say yeah people are going to talk you got to accept it.

[00:19:39] You said something on social media it was a mistake you shouldn't have said it like now in this interview if I say something and I say it by mistake yeah okay people what did they go to talk what's my learning next time I'll be more mindful that I don't say it.

[00:19:50] That's it that's how it is what can you do can you can you be perfect sometimes a question has asked you maybe you wanted to say something but put out put it out differently.

[00:20:02] Like you see so many of these celebrities where they talk on interviews and everything what happens to them sometimes they're put in a spot where they have to say certain things which end up being like disaster.

[00:20:13] But do they go and hide behind the scenes or what no they just accept it okay fine so now it's done move on we are human beings we are not robots where everything is tuned with AI and all that we'll just say whatever is tuned and planned.

[00:20:31] If it was planned there's no fun in life that's the idea.

[00:20:35] Very very true but I think the mistake people do is you know they have this mentality of look which I call as a middle class mentality but then of course like people are anyway going to talk even if you're doing great also like you know people will say that you got it through a short cut somebody some godfather was there.

[00:20:55] I give you very very candid example right now.

[00:20:59] I've come for this session probably this will be a video that we put up or maybe a podcast you put up whatever the case okay.

[00:21:05] I'm not one any eyeliner and all that today I've just come casual I said you know I'm going to come casual today because this is my authentic self this is how I am and I'm going to talk like a friend.

[00:21:14] So now if people are going to have a problem with that that's not my problem.

[00:21:18] Very true.

[00:21:20] That's how it is you know I don't I mean yeah you have your days you want to you know just like let go you have your days where you want to dress up you want to do things it's fine that's you so be it but that doesn't mean that you're going you're going to be careless you're not going to be that you know I don't I don't give a damn of course I do give a damn of course I do give I give a damn like big time and I have to sit on a call and talk to somebody and talk to someone.

[00:21:47] I don't know if you have any sense I am in that present moment but at the same time I'm not trying to wear any mask for you.

[00:21:54] Yes because I know I'm going to make some mistakes why in my webinars as well I've been doing webinars for almost three and a half years now more four years.

[00:22:04] Wow this realize four years so I've been doing webinars and every time I'm doing a webinar I'm still not perfect at it.

[00:22:10] I still do make little errors as pronounced things differently I forget a few things sometimes which is okay you're it's fine it's part of the journey but is that going to make me quit doing it.

[00:22:23] No that is so amazing and I think this is going to give a lot of once for many people who are watching because every time I get this question only this is the question I keep getting like what if I do this what if that happens what if this happens the feeling of being in a relationship with someone.

[00:22:39] Here is like on another level so but then I think confidence like I think you're pretty much answered everything so I do not have any new questions regarding this.

[00:22:50] So let's move on to the second part which is the dressing sense so how does somebody dress in a way that can actually improve their confidence that's one and one more is like is it really make does it really make that difference because there are so many people telling that you know.

[00:23:09] Looks are not important and you know all of these things but then I feel looks are important otherwise like I can go wearing a you know track pant and t-shirt to a wedding.

[00:23:22] No I cannot like I have to wear a wedding related thing you know something that is very traditional depending upon it so what how important is dressing and again related to confidence as well but how important in is dressing let's go for that.

[00:23:39] First then we'll talk about the relation to confidence.

[00:23:42] I just connect everything okay because it's all the same when we when we talk about dressing up dressing up I don't believe in wearing expensive clothes I believe in wearing quality clothes there's a difference and you can get quality clothes even in your budget there's no such thing as you know you have to spend this month amount of money to you know look good then all that no.

[00:24:06] I feel dressing up is a responsibility.

[00:24:09] It's a responsibility to yourself it's a response it's a form of self respect when you respect yourself automatically people will come and respect you they don't even have to speak to you.

[00:24:19] They just you just walk into the room looking your best and people will come and they'll want to work with you you know and this has happened from experience as well.

[00:24:30] When people see me it's the same thing when I walk into a program or into a session where there are about more than 100 300 people like that they come to me and they say you know what what do you do what we want to work with you.

[00:24:45] And I swear this has really happened because of you know the way I've kind of put myself together but talking about dressing what really gets people to connect with you and how does that build up confidence is there are something called cues in dressing.

[00:24:59] Oh, it's messages the addressing gives out messages.

[00:25:03] Okay like now suppose if you're wearing like I'm wearing a t-shirt it's more casual automatically you'll see that's casual you know I've come casually dressed but if I autumn if I wear a jacket it look formal.

[00:25:14] It look you know because there are certain cues in the jacket which is making you look more formal authoritative right now if I if I wear a t-shirt with a collar it looks likely more formal than what I'm wearing right now.

[00:25:27] Right or if I wear like I say a bright color maybe that will look more you know give a give a cue of maybe joy or happiness or maybe excitement or maybe fun right.

[00:25:40] It just depends on how you portray and how do you put your point across through the clothes that you wear.

[00:25:46] Now clothes is one side of it the other side is the fit.

[00:25:48] The fit is very very important if you're wearing a nice blazer it's a nice color but the fit is really bad.

[00:25:57] It's a big big down okay but if you if you wear if you say something really fitted and even the color might not be the greatest might not be the best but the fit is really good people will be very very impressed.

[00:26:12] You know so that whole thing of dressing to impress or to show up as an you know as impressive comes down to all these different things.

[00:26:21] Now when it comes to fit it's also about your body I'm not okay about your body shape we're talking about how maintain your body through health.

[00:26:30] So what do you do do you go and you know do you take care of the way you weight clothes fit you then how does it happen how do you fit into good clothes how do you look good in good clothes is when you work on your body.

[00:26:42] So when you automatically work on your body all the clothes that you wear look really good on it.

[00:26:48] It's just that but if you don't and then you're wearing something and then it doesn't really look good it doesn't connect how even the best dress will not look good on.

[00:26:57] So I feel it's all connected when you're looking at physical appearance it's about it's about your health it's about how you go and manage your body how to take care of the body and there's no one size fits all just because you know fit means that you know you have to have a nice hour.

[00:27:12] Glass figure for women or you know they have to have that inverted triangle wherein you know they have big shoulders it's not required.

[00:27:21] But what is your definition of fitness what is your definition of looking good okay you want to go out glass work on it you want to go you know one hour broad shoulders for the men work on it.

[00:27:33] It's not stereotypical but it is something that you have in your mind that you want to work.

[00:27:39] You feel it's possible for you.

[00:27:42] Now some people are a little curvy dress according to being curvy you don't have to be you know because somebody is wearing something very skimpy and tight fitted doesn't mean you have to wear the same thing.

[00:27:55] This is what you work what works for you and of course connecting it with where you're going like how you said wedding if you're going for a wedding you have to dress the part you have to wear something that is related to wedding but you dress the part but you dress for yourself as well.

[00:28:11] What works for you.

[00:28:12] You don't have to pay an exorbitant amount of money for the quality clothes so that is something that people are just there are so many people telling me I can't spend so much and you know all of this you know that's something and what will be something that is very overwhelming for a lot of people.

[00:28:32] So that you know like let's say I'm talking about this person newly like as I said that even I want to you know wardrobe makeover so now for somebody who says that I want to order a makeover and I want to change everything and so what's the starting point for someone like that.

[00:28:52] What should they do for a wardrobe makeover.

[00:28:55] Yeah.

[00:28:56] I think the first thing is they need to define what their role is in this world and you know personally professionally like what are they planning to do and how do they want to be seen by people.

[00:29:08] That's the first step then of course after that there's wardrobe auditing there is wardrobe you know you would figure out what is actually currently there in your wardrobe which you can already use what do you need to buy what do you need to discard what is not serving you anymore.

[00:29:23] So we have all that that's an entire process we follow but to start with it's about the awareness of what do you want to portray in the world.

[00:29:32] If you're a person who's a minimalist for example you know person who likes just few colors basic wardrobe that's okay so be it.

[00:29:41] You know I'm not telling you that you need to have all you need to be somebody who has variety it's good to have variety at least for me my personality I like variety so that I can change you know I can.

[00:29:53] Come up with different and I like to create with my own friends so that's just me but if that is somebody else doesn't resonate with that we respect that and we say that okay that is your awareness number one that's one thing.

[00:30:06] Secondly how do you want your wardrobe to serve your rules your all your roles in your life because everyone plays different roles so how do you want that to serve and then thirdly is that okay how do you want people to see you as safe you're a leader.

[00:30:18] Let's say you know in your case you're a psychologist or in somebody else's case she's a life coach or whatever the case how do you want to be seen in front of your audience.

[00:30:27] That's where those starting happens with wardrobe design.

[00:30:32] Okay for me especially as I'm not someone who is you know very keen on the dressing sense so for me when I think about wardrobe only like I'm kind of going a little crazy you know.

[00:30:46] What should I buy what should I not buy and you know there are so many people like me even though it is stereotypical the other way around but for me when I go for shopping also I am a little bit overwhelmed.

[00:30:59] Should I what should I should I even buy this because you're not very sure about what you want to wear and you're not very sure about the style parts so I think that also comes down to be awareness it comes down to understanding you as a personality

[00:31:14] and you as a person and how do you want to own that by you know showing yourself confidently in what clothes you choose to wear.

[00:31:23] So that is something that is a process that you have to work on.

[00:31:27] Okay okay so there are some you know some things that people keep saying that you know this doesn't work and this does work and stuff like that.

[00:31:36] So I have two questions related to that one is related to the prints and one is related to the fabric.

[00:31:45] So do you think there are you know any specific fabrics or specific friends for example for me when I wear floral people don't take me seriously but when I wear something you know stripes or something people take me more serious.

[00:31:56] I've seen that shift happening and if I'm wearing a blazer of course like that's like the bare minimum where if I wear a blazer people take me more seriously you know so that is anyway there but you know I still feel like there is a lot related to how you dress like other than the wedding example that is that you know even little bit of things

[00:32:16] like if I'm wearing floral the moment I wear floral or the moment I wear pink okay then you know people are like very girly and you know that girly is told as something wrong which is which I don't agree with but I've seen that happening so the way people think we are supposed to kind of dress up in that way you know that's something that is a big question for me all this time people think like this so let me wear like this.

[00:32:42] So that's something that I am not really very very happy with because we don't want to be like that we want to be more authentic so how do we bridge that gap.

[00:32:55] So it comes down to your mindset it comes down to what you believe okay and I also feel that when you know see it's not it's not what people think it's about what you think.

[00:33:11] Okay because the reflection of what people think is there in you as well so if they say that you know you are floral your floral is makes you girly and all that that's because you also feel that way it's just that okay so that's because that's what the thought is in your mind that you know people think I look girly and all that and they associate.

[00:33:30] So everyone associates different cues associates with different cues you know keeping their experience in mind like now if you look at the color right not everybody looks at it as a positive color some say passion some say love some say anger some say you know I don't know there's other different cultures doing different things.

[00:33:51] Violence and blood.

[00:33:53] Yeah so it's just that so it's just what they have come so everyone talks about things based on their background and their experience so Florence is always looked as feminine even a man wear floral shirts though it's like the small floral shirts they wear right the small patterns that also is looked at as you know not feminine but people are like you know they say okay this guy is.

[00:34:21] What is the word I forget the word but then you know they are they are not very masculine.

[00:34:26] You know so they are like ready to you know explore different patterns and everything and they're very stylish and all that so it just depends on where they their experience now there are some people who are very limited in experience with regards to what they seem to some colors and patterns right so for them they might like I've only seen striped shirts for the longest time in my life so I only related striped shirts.

[00:34:51] And some people say I only see black blue and red and white as my standard colors of black blue and white only I will connect.

[00:34:58] So it's just depends on what they but then somewhere that is your thought process also because that's something that you have also learned in the past.

[00:35:07] Yeah now you said when I wear a blazer people take me seriously.

[00:35:11] Right it's true why do they take you seriously.

[00:35:13] It's very simple the cues how a blazer is designed is it's designed to show authority.

[00:35:21] Yeah that's the idea of it that's why they say blazers one of the highest levels of the spectrum in styling if you want to go absolutely formal wear a blazer and which everyone today knows.

[00:35:34] Yeah the awareness I think everybody has even a younger girl would have it even somebody who's in a teens would probably have it because they are they learn that.

[00:35:42] They see it right and everything is worth seeing and believing what other people say you also follow in the end.

[00:35:48] So that's one way to look at it now when it comes to patterns and everything it's about what you are comfortable in and of course it does connect with your body type it connects with your personality it connects so there are many things to it.

[00:36:01] Right but I also feel it's very personal.

[00:36:05] It's also what you choose because if you are not comfortable wearing certain things how people be comfortable in your presence.

[00:36:13] But we're not comfortable wearing florals and people find it really nice and you know you're very attractive and you're very like you know they can connect with you why not.

[00:36:25] So use it to your benefit is what I feel.

[00:36:31] Very true and this is very profound.

[00:36:34] So let's come to the second part which is the fabric.

[00:36:38] Some people say that you know if you're wearing something very flowy then you know again it's not good or you know you are not taken seriously or something like that.

[00:36:47] And when you're wearing something very stiff you know that is that is what we have heard a lot.

[00:36:53] So what is your take on it.

[00:36:57] Yes that is something that people already know.

[00:37:00] Okay so I know that we live in an information era and everybody knows everything but when it comes to fabrics again it's about what you choose and I feel fabric is directly connected to your values.

[00:37:12] So if you feel that you know you're a person who wears a lot of cottons and linens and all that so be it.

[00:37:18] But how the fit again coming down to the fit of what you wear or rather the fabric that is connected to what clothes you're planning to wear like say it's a blazer it's a cotton or a linen blazer.

[00:37:29] If the fit is not good then that's why you need to work on.

[00:37:33] Right so it just depends on that.

[00:37:35] Now if you're a person who likes to wear synthetics you don't mind polyesters and everything then the fits are much more easier because those are more you know they're more versatile.

[00:37:44] Right those fabrics right you can use them you can use them for a long time.

[00:37:48] So it's just how you see in your perception of fabrics it's not like you know I have to wear this and I don't have to wear this right.

[00:37:57] There are there are many people are very particular about fabrics I've seen that I worked with the I work with one of our celebrities Millet Soman.

[00:38:07] I had worked with him on our styling project and you know as a stylist you go and you go and you choose clothes and you give it to the celebrity and you wear it and they shoot the thing.

[00:38:18] So I thought my work is very very easy I just need to go to Nike Adidas Tuma pick up some fitness clothes and give it to them.

[00:38:25] I went for the shopping I went for everything I went all out with that they gave me a budget and everything I went and did it and came back and I showed it to Millen and Millen just said what is this crap.

[00:38:37] The styling is the colors are good but I will not wear this like why no because the fabrics are not what I want.

[00:38:44] I want cotton I want anything that is breathable I don't want any synthetic so zero synthetic so please read the labels and come back.

[00:38:53] So I actually had to go and return all this read the labels and pick up what was actually cotton which they brought down my styling of course like I couldn't really choose colors and all that had to just be very specific.

[00:39:06] But I'm rather he was very happy with that he said this is my value that taught me so much about people that one incident taught me so much like okay so people have preferences with regards to fabrics as well.

[00:39:20] So even if I tell them where this fabric it's better they will still not because they'll rather choose their values.

[00:39:27] Yeah, a lot of people have gone organic so they will wear organic fabrics can you force them to wear polyester and all that.

[00:39:35] So it's just what really works for them in my I think everything is connected with values and everything is connected with who you are as a person and yours.

[00:39:44] So when it comes to some fabric which people you know conventionally say is not official I can still find official clothes in that fabric and still make it.

[00:39:55] It depends on the fit it depends on what you do it depends on how you put it together right.

[00:40:02] There's also something like creativity is a big thing in the way we dress in the way we show up and how do you want people to see who it comes down to your creativity as well.

[00:40:12] Yeah, yeah.

[00:40:14] That's one more thing.

[00:40:16] Okay, so I'll give my perspective on that as well like my skin is very sensitive.

[00:40:22] So you know I like more flowy like Georgent or you know chiffon or that's the kind of things and I'm very lucky to have found some really amazing official clothes which are like that you know little flowy and then a blazer on top will just you know manage that whole thing.

[00:40:41] I've thankfully found but it's not easy to find you know it's usually not it's all very stiff and you know just it's like little irritable for my skin and I'm very sensitive on that you know the skin sensitivity is very, very high for me.

[00:40:57] So even like you know if there is a part of the you know build tag of dress right like at the back.

[00:41:05] So if there is that there is a chain like thing right if it still remains at the back then the whole day I'll be just thinking about it like I can't I'm that sensitive you know.

[00:41:15] So for me this Georgia clothes like whether it is even saris for that matter if I'm wearing a silk saree I'm very under confident but then the moment I wear a Georgia saree or something very flowy soft silk kind of thing you know much more confident so I think it's again coming back to the fact that how we feel about that dress rather than just the dress in itself.

[00:41:39] Yeah it's about how it's not normally about what you feel it's your personality it's your values it's about comfort it's about confidence it's about so many things put together and yes there are certain cues in clothes that will that you should not do if you want to portray a certain thing a certain way or if you feel you know you want to portray a certain way then you should do.

[00:42:00] It's just you know what your role and what your responsibility as a person really asks what it demands that's why it comes down to self respect.

[00:42:08] First you know how do you want to be seen how do you want to be remembered like when you walk into the room people should remember who that girl I remember you know she was wearing this this this actually looking so good.

[00:42:19] So that's the idea of working on this when it comes to holistically working on your impact.

[00:42:26] Wow that's so amazing. So now coming back to the point of how your journey started so let's go a little bit over there.

[00:42:37] How was your background like you know how was it thinking that okay I will be starting my own business and I'll you know independently single handedly starting even though now you have a team you are the one managing the team then you know it's still called single handedly only

[00:42:54] because you are still the person who put together everything. So how easy was it or how difficult was it what was that journey like.

[00:43:03] See if it was easy it wouldn't have been fun it was not easy at all it was definitely hard it was definitely difficult I faced a lot of challenges a lot of you know moments where I was just trying to you know break through it.

[00:43:18] If you ask me this five years ago I would have probably been very scared to answer it but today when I look back I'm very happy that whatever's happened has happened like I struggled I did not have so I come from a background where

[00:43:32] my mom and dad they are not they don't have any business mindset. My dad's a doctor my mom's a homemaker and a yoga instructor and she's also done image consulting with me.

[00:43:42] In fact good thing is that I mean it's her trivia she hears this she'll be like wow she finally said it but I always hesitate saying this that she joined him and I was a teacher at ICBI.

[00:43:54] So she joined ICBI she was in a batch and I was teaching another batch and I was a teacher that time and she was a student.

[00:44:04] She's like why don't you just say it so what I'm learning from you what is there. So anyways that's what that's how it is that's how my background has been and my dad has never been into business and you know he's always been a person who does service and everything

[00:44:21] and partially my whole my side of being hard working comes from him and my side of being elegant and the personality and speaking when it comes to my mom.

[00:44:32] So you know it's like a good blend of both of them that I'm standing here in front of you.

[00:44:37] When it comes to business actually my business mindset started when I got married.

[00:44:43] I got married in 2013 but I did not build a business as such but I was getting the hang of it because I was married into a business family.

[00:44:52] So my husband's a complete you know they have a family business and everything so that got me to learn a few things on the way which got me to build my training coaching into a business in 2019 before COVID hit.

[00:45:07] So that's how the whole journey started and of course it was a challenge I was getting opportunities but I was not getting paid well.

[00:45:13] I was you know being undervalued they did not trust me all that was there but in the journey that's what you face right.

[00:45:20] As when I build the business I start building visibility I start building you know talking to more people likes to do interviews like this I used to you know like go ahead and talk to people and you know just like get myself out there you know

[00:45:33] and it was not easy like I've had days where I've just sat and said I'm not doing this anymore

[00:45:38] and I've had days wherein you know I've done webinars where I've worked so hard for it but I've got zero sales.

[00:45:44] I've done where I've worked on ten one on one calls back to back and I've got zero conversions.

[00:45:50] Like I've had you know moments like that wherein it has almost broken and that made me stronger.

[00:46:00] Like I used to hesitate talking about it but now I'm just like you know what so we everyone goes through it.

[00:46:05] So now I just I'm on that journey and I don't mind it being hard because it's better to be hard because when it's hard it's there's a lot of learning.

[00:46:16] There's a lot of stories to tell to people and it's easier to tell the stories later on I can all I can just open up and talk about so many stories

[00:46:25] and I can also say that you know the journey is worth trading because it is worth trading.

[00:46:32] If it was easy you won't be learning anything.

[00:46:35] It just like yeah okay it's easier than everyone would have built a brand, built a business done very well for themselves.

[00:46:42] So yeah that's the little bit background about it.

[00:46:46] So what was the toughest part in all of this the journey?

[00:46:50] I think it was overcoming imposter syndrome.

[00:46:53] I used to always think that I'm not because I don't have any business background and nothing so I used to always think that how am I teaching people branding and image and personality when I myself am not you know.

[00:47:04] So I never really looked at it and as to again I was downplaying myself on and off I was playing the small game.

[00:47:12] But then once I started meeting my mentors with personal development courses and you know then being a part of the crew and all that you know over the years I started developing myself and becoming much better as a you know as like more

[00:47:26] more I would say more receptive more assertive in what I'm so that got me to come out of it.

[00:47:34] So it's I think it's a journey or I'm not saying I still don't have fears I do have fears but I don't let those fears only I control them.

[00:47:44] So that's the thing.

[00:47:45] So beautiful.

[00:47:46] How to you know overcome this point where you know you're trying to do something for yourself and you are trying to build a business trying to prove others and as you said because of imposter syndrome you're trying to prove to yourself also.

[00:48:02] You know there is a point where you're like okay I want to do it because I have to tell myself that I am worth it.

[00:48:08] You know that also comes into play and then everyone around you are also not trusting you enough thinking that.

[00:48:15] What do you know that kind of mentality and that's very very prevalent and I'm saying this especially for women there are so many young girls I have a lot of friends who are very young girls like 20 year old 19 year old they're just making something for themselves

[00:48:31] and something in the sense just searching for a job so they are in that level where even for that simple thing also there are parents or you know relatives and teachers everybody who are like asking you okay it's okay it's okay you don't have to do it.

[00:48:48] You can just get married you know all of these things and of course they want to do something but because of all these people and their own imposter syndrome is just again playing the small game.

[00:48:58] So what advice would you like to give to them to especially a 20 year old you let's take it on that point where she's just completed her degree and she's trying to get a job and she's thinking.

[00:49:10] But it's a job miljaikavir from that point to thinking big like how we are doing like how we are working on changing people's lives and impacting people's lives so what kind of advice would you like to give to them.

[00:49:24] I would just say one thing find a mentor earlier don't wait for it.

[00:49:29] Find a mentor find somebody who has already done it and gone through their journey and when you find that mentor that mentor will help you faster.

[00:49:38] It's not about you know getting quick results it's about getting the right results and moving the right direction.

[00:49:44] So when you take the right path it's not always that you know see our parents are family they all love us okay I know that and they come from a space of protection of comfort of everything they look out for us because that's how they have built they have grown up as kids as well.

[00:50:01] Because their parents also taught them the same thing so we have to understand that when your parents are guiding you they're guiding you from the space of only good year right but when you grow.

[00:50:13] As in when the years grow and as in when the years pass your parents their information what they know becomes limited.

[00:50:22] How much ever they say because with the current ways of working in the world trends change people change thoughts change the way we do education changes everything changes so we have to be more aware.

[00:50:35] Which means that you get somebody who actually is moving on that path who's beyond your parents and beyond your family because they are not they are mentors in their own ways they are coaches in their own ways.

[00:50:46] But you need to find somebody who will get you the right path the right guidance so if you find a mentor who is going to allow you to get out of your fears or is going to they have their ways of doing it because they have been through it.

[00:50:59] Your parents also will have their ways but probably it will not be the best way to work.

[00:51:03] Probably there'll be an addition probably they will be one part of it your mentor will be another part of it but it's better to find a mentor earlier like I mean we were not taught all that when we were in our twenties to be honest because we were like you know go learn from your teacher.

[00:51:19] You're a student in school you're learning in school enough of that you know so this was all not there that time.

[00:51:25] Now you have the luxury I call it luxury of having a mentor earlier in life so that you grow and by the time you're 30 40 whatever you already got so many things sorted out in your life at 20.

[00:51:38] So it's just that this final mentor.

[00:51:44] Yeah, that's actually very good advice.

[00:51:47] Of course there are so many people who are still having a lot of financial constraints and then they have to go to that conventional path of getting into.

[00:51:55] I look at financial constraints as non constraints that's again a mindset because if you want to make it work like now if you want to go to a very good school like a B school or an MBA or whatever you want to go and you know study.

[00:52:09] You will find a way you'll make sure that it'll happen because you want to do it right it's the same thing with coaching and mentoring if you want to work on yourself you want to build it you don't you know like it's not a priority I'll come back later.

[00:52:22] If you're going to do that you're only going to postpone it it's like saying it's not a priority to be in B school and get a job then next it's the same thing.

[00:52:30] So look at it as something that your mentor is allowing you to get a job pushing you to get a job or get whatever that you want in life.

[00:52:37] So it's better to have that mindset that I very earlier on in life so that you are you know you grow and you grow out of your own adversities faster than you think.

[00:52:48] Wow that's very beautiful and I feel like you know the takeaway on this particular question is for me is that you know when you have the passion will somehow make it happen.

[00:52:59] You'll find a way to make it happen but if you keep looking at your fear and then you know you will stop yourself and it's not because of the external things it's all because of what we think and yeah and I think the awareness as you said is the most important thing.

[00:53:16] Yeah so the next question on this is how of course like we have our fears okay just because I have the passion it doesn't mean that I don't have the fear like I have also achieved a lot and up until now but still I have some fears you know it's not like the fears have gone

[00:53:36] and I'm sure you also have some fears on going to the next step as well like that's how we do it but you know with the fears also come to comfort zone.

[00:53:46] So you're already doing this now you've been doing for seven years right like you've been doing this for seven years so seven years it's become a comfort zone and then now you think of going to the next step but still the comfort zone is still there.

[00:53:59] So what advice would you like to give to people on this part you know they are like okay tiki chalra why should I take that kind of thing so they want to do it but still they are just holding on to that comfort zone so what kind of advice you want to give to them.

[00:54:18] I think it's just break out of that comfort zone by breaking out like look at it as a barbed wire and break the barbed wire and go and take risks that's it.

[00:54:27] It's just very simple. I don't feel there's any deep advice to be given in this because it's just that you if your intention is true that you're passionate you will do whatever it takes if you come like now for me I've been in the training coaching industry for 12 years.

[00:54:44] I've been doing that's why I said in the beginning I've been doing that and then I got online in 2019 I built my business in 2019 like I took it all online in 2019.

[00:54:56] So it's been of course I have faced my own challenges I've faced I've been in my comfort zone I've been you know partially like this thing and when you get out of a comfort zone to take risk then that becomes sometimes that becomes a comfort zone after a point which is what you said.

[00:55:10] But to get out of that again is about breaking the glass ceiling and seeing the intention that you have what is the intention okay now I need to get out of this that means I have to grow further.

[00:55:21] What is that intention and that intention goes stronger than your fears and then when it becomes stronger than your fears you end up doing things even though you're fearful about it.

[00:55:33] And then that's when the change happens. So I would just say that look at your intentions your intentions stronger than your fears take action that's all.

[00:55:43] Yeah it's it's more if you have to go and sell a product or sell a service online or whatever and you are hesitating why are you hesitating because of your fears you're only looking within.

[00:55:54] Now if you sell a product and it's going to benefit at least 50 people to start with is that more important or your fear more important.

[00:56:02] Very true very true.

[00:56:04] I think it's coming from a point of you know oh I need to take that risk what if I lose that money what if I do that so this kind of question and I think that again boils down to the perfectionism that we were talking about earlier but in all of these things we may be okay with losing the time.

[00:56:23] We may be okay with losing with anything else for that matter except for family of course we are okay with that but one thing that people are really kind of holding on to is the financial aspect the risk of finance when you're I'm putting this money then what if I lose this money kind of you know that mentality.

[00:56:42] So if they have that mentality that means they're already starting whatever they are doing with them with that mentality with that mindset that they're already starting it and saying okay what if I lose out on something what if I lose out on this money and then when they start working on that particular thing putting in the money they will lose that money because that's how they sort in their mind.

[00:57:04] But if you tell me like this okay I'm gonna put in this is going to be an investment where and I'm gonna grow and okay tomorrow it doesn't go as planned.

[00:57:14] There are two ways to look at it either I feel or I've got to learn something from this and maybe this was a stepping stone to move on.

[00:57:22] I'll give an example Facebook ads I have been running Facebook ads for four years more than four years now I started doing it myself.

[00:57:29] Of course I did have fears I said okay I'm gonna put in the money what's going to happen there's going to be uncertainty there.

[00:57:35] What if I don't get the leads I want what if I don't get the people in my webinar and it happened it did happen initially.

[00:57:42] I at that moment I was of course much more less experienced in that so I was very clueless about it right but the next time did I quit did I stop doing it?

[00:57:54] No I found another way to do it.

[00:57:58] I start asking my friend for help then I paid a small amount of my friend that's when I said saying okay this is the next level first I did it myself now the next my friend did it okay now let's see how it goes.

[00:58:11] From my friend I went to a team an agency from an agency I went to a better agency so it's like there's a journey now you know it's up to you whether you want to take the journey now if you say if I had gone back.

[00:58:24] To okay I did my Facebook ads myself and I lost all the money and I'm going to lose money continue losing money my mindset would have been I'm never going to spend on Facebook ads.

[00:58:34] I'm never going to grow it so I don't care and I would never know that how far I would have come the way I've come today with Facebook ads.

[00:58:42] I see it as you know when you're diving into something like now I've seen many of my clients they dive into the intention that okay I've spent so much and this is what it is this is my financial I'm scared what's going to happen what if I don't make any money what if I don't get the goals I want and when they keep coming back with these doubts doubts doubts they don't make they don't they don't reach that point because they were so doubtful in their own mind but if they come with the intention I'm going to pay it.

[00:59:12] I'm going to learn from this and I'm going to get the maximum from this because in the end it's also you.

[00:59:18] It is the action that you are taking it's not just what the coach of the mentor telling you they will sit and tell you but then in the end you have to take that action and do that.

[00:59:28] So then that's why you change your mentality again so it's all here at you.

[00:59:33] Oh that was so preferred this this actually changes a lot for me also you know because I know that there are so many people like I know who are going through this you know they are like they're asking me like how why you know what what if I put in ads and nothing happens you know there are so many of these questions that they ask and I'm starting out with ads you know and I'm like I've already working on it I'm starting with it I'm doing all these things but I'm not sure.

[01:00:03] I did not have these questions but then you know people are telling me a lot of these things really are you doing what nothing happens next week I don't have an answer to them but you know I think this gives a lot of answer that okay if something happens like that then I will still learn from it that's the final at the end of it.

[01:00:22] Now if you go and jump like now you do bungee jumping okay let's not look at bungee jump let's get skydiving.

[01:00:28] Okay a lot of people are fearful there's no heights okay now when you're on the plane you have taken all the action till going on the plane.

[01:00:38] You own the jacket life jacket they're telling you we're gonna jump with you you just have to jump everything is set ready set but when you go on the plane and then you don't jump how would you feel?

[01:00:52] It's the same thing with this now you're putting so much effort so many things are doing are done you are building something really big and you want to help a lot of people.

[01:01:02] Now the only way not the only way one of the ways is to go and run Facebook ads and it is a risk it's a big risk because it's money right the other thing is finding a mentor who can guide you which again is costing you.

[01:01:15] But then if you look at it this way that okay I've done so much and if I don't do this if I don't take this risk what is going to happen will I continue being where I am today yes.

[01:01:26] You know I'm gonna go back you're gonna only reach till there that's about it if I jump if I jump across I jump from the plane what's gonna happen after that.

[01:01:36] I'll be a little scared initially I will be a little overwhelmed initially but then when I land I'll be like I'm alive.

[01:01:42] What happened there was support there was planning there was everything I'm still alive okay little bit you will nudge your knee and you fall down on your knee instead of your legs or instead of your feet.

[01:01:53] Okay I got a little hurt a little scraped that's all that's all happening what is the same thing with this if you want if you feel that you know you lack funds or anything.

[01:02:05] That's what is in your mind number one okay but it's not so bad as you think especially when you're growing because you will have to spend the money sometimes that you don't have maybe you have to get some money that you have to borrow or whatever which fair enough we all have done it but that's how you grow right.

[01:02:25] Yeah that's yeah it's so important for people to know that it's okay like people have stuck on that only and you need to borrow some money and then return it.

[01:02:36] Later so be it that's how it is everyone's see I know the biggest of biggest leaders who have gotten to where they are today have spent money that they didn't have.

[01:02:48] Hmm they have gone and they have invested money like I don't know a lot of money lacks and lacks of money on education on their own personal development but they didn't have it themselves.

[01:02:59] They were not making any profits nothing they were just going to learn because the intention is not to only collect money it is about growing and then building a profit out of it.

[01:03:12] That is when you grow so that is what I feel I mean that's my personal way of looking at it and I whenever I go there and learn like okay that is my intention.

[01:03:23] Wow amazing so now let's come back to kind of the present like all these years of the journey.

[01:03:32] Can you just explain a little bit about some success stories well like really profound of your students that is you know.

[01:03:42] Okay yeah so I've had a lot of success stories I mean there are a lot but I'm going to spend not much time talking about maybe one or two of them or three of them.

[01:03:51] So I come my clients come from a variety of backgrounds we have different kinds of people people who are entrepreneurs start up owners we have coaches consultants we have therapists we have healers all kinds of people coming in from different working professionals.

[01:04:08] So I think one was one is one of my clients she currently has a global presence without many followers on Instagram.

[01:04:19] Okay she has a global presence she's been able to impact more than 400 clients one-on-one and agree okay and this is all after she joined my community and she started getting my coaching and everything which is really nice and I could see that you know she was growing

[01:04:34] and she took action at every step everything she just like yeah whatever it is I'm going to take that action whether it's image personality anything that I need to work on just telling me I do.

[01:04:45] So that's how she surrendered to the journey and she was able to achieve the results and she continues doing it.

[01:04:50] She's a hypnotherapist and a healer and a mindset coach and all that so she's also doing it you know in a large scale now she lives in my soul and she also owns a business a beauty business a salon

[01:05:00] and she's like you know the same thing I've been able to use even in my business and that's given me a lot of good results.

[01:05:07] That's one the other one is there's this person who's a startup owner he owns about two or three startups now and he's in the biotechnology space.

[01:05:18] So he was able to get funding from the government now earlier it was about I think if I'm not remembering the numbers but two or three lakhs of funding start it started two or three lakhs of funding.

[01:05:32] Now it's moved on to three crores of funding from the government all because of his confidence his image his personality he's been able to grow it and he's been able to use whatever we have told him to use in the coaching and that has given him the results.

[01:05:48] So today he's government funded so it's like amazing to see him grow also and he's coming from a from a space where he's an introvert and he did not have he was not able to go and show his face of the camera.

[01:06:02] And he started when I when I helped him and all that he was like okay so this is how it is and he's conducted trainings for us he's you know and at impact rate as clouds so I also have like a circle which is called the impact achievers circle on in our company.

[01:06:18] And in our community where in anyone who's achieved any kind of impact whether it's confidence image business money income anything they come on this circle it's a complimentary you know initiative wherein they get to serve my clients at the club.

[01:06:35] So they get to train them and guide them and then they get their leads from them.

[01:06:38] So that's how it works so this is one more person who did really well then I had another very I had a life coach also I mean this is like one of the stories there's so many but I don't think we have so much time to talk about that.

[01:06:52] But there was another lady she came in with a lot of children skeptical that you know I don't know if I did the right thing because she had all that kind of mentality and then she attended one of my coaching and she got some advice and everything and within that one month she got to her first two things.

[01:07:08] And then she was like I just worked on my image personality confidence I said something differently and that's how it happened.

[01:07:18] You know so there are these kind of you know moments moments like okay this is working you know so I can definitely take this forward and work on it.

[01:07:26] So yeah like that we have had many people we have had somebody who landed a TEDx talk we had somebody who landed you know a lot of paid PR we had somebody who just built a brand in Canada we had someone who is a lawyer from Trinidad and Tobago who has you know built his global presence he was only in Trinidad and Tobago now he's known.

[01:07:46] So it's like you know sky is the limit to the kind of results we have seen and we know this concept works so that's how you build an impact.

[01:07:57] It's very very inspiring actually so I wanted to ask a different question but because you talked about camera this is one thing many people would want to know you know I have also been camera shy back in 2021 and now it took me some time and I had my own ways to get to the

[01:08:16] closure and you know kind of mend my relationship with the camera so you know I have for me because I have been into dancing so I started dancing you know and in front of camera without any makeup or anything it's like home cut dress only I don't even you know like I because of the perfectionism I

[01:08:37] don't even comb my hair I don't do anything I just come and I dance in front of the camera I won't post it anywhere but that every day of just coming in front of camera doing some dance I don't even think if it's good or not.

[01:08:51] So that way I was able to overcome perfectionism as well as camera shyness in one so this is how I came out of it but then of course you might be having many ways to actually get out of camera shyness

[01:09:07] and fear also some people are in fear of camera as well so what advice would you like to give for to get out of camera shyness.

[01:09:15] I think it's just about taking action and taking small steps every day I call it the one degree shift every day you take the one degree shift you just do even if it's small thing of going and standing in front of the camera and just talking without recording

[01:09:29] so I do have one of my older courses in my community is a 10 day video confidence challenge which I think one of my clients also had done and she saw massive results till today she's only run she's doing read this like without fail she doesn't use every day so it's just that I call it the one degree shift because it's about

[01:09:52] doing small things towards it and maybe taking small action like probably

[01:10:00] again mounting the camera somewhere and just saying something without recording it doing that for one or two days then the third day you start recording it then the fourth day you make a mistake you make some errors fifth day you try to do it better

[01:10:14] like that you keep working on it over a period of time you will see that there is a lot of change in you so I feel it's a progress it's a journey again but the idea is to just go and take action stop overthinking about it

[01:10:27] because nobody is going to be perfect in their first video and to be very very candid about it your first of anything is going to sound whether it's a video whether it's how you train whether it's whatever you do it's going to sound

[01:10:39] because when you look back you're going to be very happy that you took that action so that's the idea of that's how I told him this guy who was more camera friendly and he's become more candid he uses humor and uses fun like he has fun now in his trainings

[01:10:54] so he started with very a lot of hesitance that he was very very hesitant and then when I told him this take this action slowly you'll be able to see changes in yourself he was able to take action and that's what the results

[01:11:10] okay so now the final two general questions which I asked in all of my interviews I'll come to that so what advice would you like to give to your younger self maybe an 18 year old or 15 year old you can choose something you can go back and say so it can be better your journey could be better or something

[01:11:30] I would not trade my journey for what it could have been but I would just tell my younger self that stopping too hard on yourself and just let go let go and don't let anybody dull your shine

[01:11:46] that's so beautiful I'm so happy with this line I'm going to make this the tagline of this video okay okay that was so awesome thank you so much for this particular line mainly and anything that you feel that you need to give as an advice to the world because you think this is the need of the

[01:12:08] are related to your profession I think the world can be a better place if you work on your personality and image more I feel and I also feel that the only competition in anything is going to only increase

[01:12:26] awareness is going to increase whether it's personal professional anything we are living in an era where information is freely available on YouTube and everything but what makes people choose you over the others yes they can be you could be very good at what you do

[01:12:42] but what makes people choose you over the competition that is around you so it's always good to work on your image your personality or impact and all the areas of impact so that you put on your best in terms of you know in front of people

[01:12:58] and you give your 100% and your 100% is your personal 100% you don't have to worry about what their 100% is you have to worry about what your 100% is and if your 100% is something that you know you're going beyond your comfort zone your adversities your fears everything so beautiful that's how it should be I feel like you need to stand up for yourself by working on your image because it's your self respect that you need to work on

[01:13:24] that was so profound and so inspiring seriously I've learned so much and I feel like you know if this was not a recording like I would be sitting with you know notes so when I'm checking the recording to edit also I know that I'm going to sit with a lot of notes so thank you so much for this

[01:13:44] this was very very inspiring I know this is more inspiring for the people especially women who are I can say girls you know they're in their 18 year old or 20 year old who are just coming out and this is going to be very very helpful for them so on behalf of so many of those girls thank you so much for this this was really awesome

[01:14:08] thank you and I'm looking forward to a part two and you know again we'll connect and we'll have a part two where we'll be talking more related to image this was more related to coming out of your comfort zone confidence and all of these things which make people very sensitive right as my podcast is so that is what we were looking forward to I think more we'll be talking in the next one we'll be going very deep into the image as well

[01:14:37] the image and how you know how you present yourself I think we'll go into that so looking forward to another video very very soon with you thank you so much for coming this was a pleasure

[01:14:47] thank you for having me on this video

[01:14:50] thank you thank you so much