Taming Toddler Tantrums By Dr.Nalini

[00:00:00] Hey there, incredible parents and caregivers welcome back to The Baby Brain Show. Today we are diving into a topic that's both a shared journey and a bit of buzzer. Taming Toddler Tantrums And for the next few minutes let's journey through the world of Toddler Tantrums

[00:00:17] and explore practical strategies that can make this journey smoother for both you and your little one. I'm Dr. Nalini, I'm a whole-ray and generation coach, a parenting coach and the founder of holistic parenting universe. Let's get started. Let's start with being back the layers of the Tantrums history.

[00:00:37] Picture this, you are in the toy store and suddenly your sweet angel transforms into a broadcasting hurricane. What's happening? Well, it's their way of dealing with emotions they can't quite articulate. Imagine trying to speak in a foreign language without knowing the words that's what Toddler's feel.

[00:00:57] For example, when your toddler has to leave the playground they might wailing and floating because they're upset about ending something they're enjoying. So this is what happening throughout the process of the toddler's brain.

[00:01:10] They are not able to find the words to communicate so they communicate in the only way that they know by yelling, shouting, whining and crying right? Now what we can do about this? Let's embrace your inner toddler translator. Communication is the secret stars to diffuse intentions.

[00:01:34] Think of yourself as a toddler whisperer. When each child's frustration starts bubbling up, try to pinpoint the cause for instance if toddler is reaching for the cookies. But they can't reach them. They might start crying out of frustration.

[00:01:47] Help them label their emotions by saying, I see you're feeling upset because you want the cookies. And it's too hot to reach by labeling them emotion. By labeling their emotions they also feel hard and they feel they understand how to communicate through the verbal words.

[00:02:10] Now let's talk about your superhero skill that is prevention. You know your toddler's world better than anyone else. If you're planning a trip to the grass that is stored during their usual napkin, then definitely be prepared for tad and trunk lends.

[00:02:28] It's like forecasting the weather you wouldn't head out without a number of loud and dark clouds and looming. So if you're planning a shopping trick, be sure to factor in the napkin or bring along a snack to keep them content.

[00:02:41] Similarly for each segment whenever you feel that your toddler is her throwing a tantrum, make a note of the frequent tantrum behaviors when it's happening and try to choose an alternative or be prepared so that you can prevent the tantrum from happening.

[00:02:59] Now the next one, you have a mustering up what is that? Distraction is your secret weapon when you send the tantrum brewing. So this cannot be applied when your child is already on a blue-dupped tantrum. I've seen many parents doing this at the wrong timing.

[00:03:16] So basically, distraction is something that you can do when you can send that there is something that is bothering the child and there maybe a tantrum that is about to explode.

[00:03:26] But usually what I've seen many parents are doing is that once the child is gone to the blue-dupped tantrum and it started to wind cry.

[00:03:36] And that is when they go and try to distract the child most of the times it just gets failed because the child doesn't feel hard. The child feels, oh nobody is hearing to what I'm trying to say but they are only trying to distract me.

[00:03:51] But this art of distraction you can actually use it as a secret weapon before the tantrum starts to occur. But you use it since that it's time for tantrum. So for example, you are at a restaurant and your toddler's patience is wearing thin.

[00:04:09] Then what you can do is immediately whip out a small toy at asking about the favorite animal or read out at their focus is like switching tracks on the train. It helps and transitions smoothly without the merit of, I hope you got that.

[00:04:25] Next, very very empowering tools that you have is giving them choices. Empowerment is like giving a toddler a magic wand offering choices with a fantastic way to give them a sense of control.

[00:04:39] Let's say you are getting them dressed instead of picking on an outfit you are said say, Do you want to be the blue shirt or the grand one?

[00:04:47] The simple choice can make a big difference because you know the whole day the child is being controlled by our choices. There are a lot of things that we keep telling them this is what you have to do and this is what you don't have to do.

[00:04:59] So wherever is possible, I would suggest you to give them options to choose so that that gives them a power and it gives them a great empowerment. If he like they have a stay and you avoid a potential tantrum or a plow thing.

[00:05:16] And as parents sometimes we must too have this what is that the miraculous empathy. Bring yourself for the miraculous worker of tantrum teaming just empathy. Your toddler is upset because they cover of blocks fair down instead of saying it's just blogs try.

[00:05:36] I can see your frustrated because your toggle fell that can be really disappointing. Look how much difference that has to make. Because this adult being owned is just a tie, this is just a block it's just a chair.

[00:05:51] But for toddlers world it's something that means so much to them. Having an empathetic voice and the words that we use when we can actually show them truly the empathy. That lets them know that their emotions are valid and undisturbed. Now let's talk about expectations.

[00:06:11] Remember toddlers are still figuring out this whole patience thing. If you're planning a trip to the store set realistic expectations don't expect them to endure and how old are we shopping without getting fuzzy. Okay, so plan accordingly.

[00:06:25] Maybe keep this shopping this short or bring along a favorite snack. Keep them engaged. And your emotional state is like a garden that you child can sense. They have a huge insuit of stands where they can sense their parents so well.

[00:06:41] If you're a visible stress your toddler might absorb those feelings. Think of yourself as a emotional anchor during a stunt. If they see you staying calm and collected they are more likely to follow your need.

[00:06:53] Not all tantrums are created equal to a molecular cloud passing by while others are storm warnings. Remember you're not in a battle with your child. You're a guide helping them navigate their emotions. If they are insistent on wearing mismatch stocks, maybe it's a battle that doesn't need fighting.

[00:07:11] Save your energy for important safety content. Whenever you are able to let them do whatever they want and that way you can actually make both form boundaries when it's really needed.

[00:07:25] For example if the child wants to wear one bead of one normal casual t-shirt for a party where you clearly know that everybody is going to be a good person.

[00:07:35] You're going to wear wearing grand clothes instead of fighting with them that you should definitely wear only this party clothes instead of doing that.

[00:07:43] Save your energy, let them decide what you want to wear and you can use this energy in other areas like wintertime trying to touch a knife which is sharp and which is not safe for the child.

[00:07:56] There you can go and put your power and firmness and tell them no, this cannot be handled like this. Okay, so make sure that you're saving energy for important safety content. Rapping up, let's look at tantrums from a different angle. They are like growing pains of emotions.

[00:08:15] By using strategies like empathy, offering choices and setting realistic expectations, you're empowering your toddler to navigate these emotional storms with grace. Thank you for joining us today on the Waving Brain Show.

[00:08:29] I hope our journey through the room of dot-d tantrums leave you feeling more equipped to handle these challenging moments with empathy and patience. And if you would like to come and attend my free webinar on a Waking Your Child's Genius Potential Go to hctbshpu.co-wavingiron register for free.

[00:08:48] If you found these insights helpful share them with fellow parents who might be sailing the same tantrums cease. Until next time remember that unless it's time you are the captain steering your child towards emotional growth and understanding. I'll meet you again, bye-bye.