There should be a balance between mother and father responsibilities to make the father and kid relationship valuable, why it should be there? There are 3 reasons to this. Listen now
[00:00:00] Hequins, How are you all doing today? I went to dinner with friends couple and a family by the way.
[00:00:10] The male is the friend of my husband. So they both have been friends from the time they were in the college.
[00:00:23] While his wife was my batchmate in my college. So I am seeing her after 13 years.
[00:00:34] They have a daughter, she is like 2-3 years old but there were some differences obviously. Physically there were some differences on her.
[00:00:45] Also some differences in her thought process after becoming a parent in both of them as a parent.
[00:00:54] The first complaint and thought that they came up with was her daughter will never go to her dad.
[00:01:04] Meaning there is no bonding between the father and the daughter at all.
[00:01:10] The kid is 2-3 years old and they are living with their in-laws. So that's an issue in today's world.
[00:01:22] Even when a woman is doing it all today, she is expected to do it all the time and when she is not there.
[00:01:31] And if she is staying with her in-laws then the kid is actually taken care by the in-laws.
[00:01:38] And never the husband like the responsibility never comes to the father of the kid.
[00:01:47] Year on year it goes by and there is a habit of no bonding that is created between them.
[00:01:56] Like there are 3 reasons why you need to push for the bonding between your kid and her dad or his dad.
[00:02:09] The first one is there can be emergencies.
[00:02:14] Like I was admitted at the hospital when I had corona for like 4 days and that time in spite of being with her grandparents my daughter felt avoid and became very silent because of both the parents not being there.
[00:02:32] Because my husband would be half the time travelling to the hospital then travelling back from hospital to home.
[00:02:40] So it created a void in her before that also they had no bonding because I was taking care of her 24 bar 7.
[00:02:59] Then the second reason is the kid has to have some fatherly memories.
[00:03:08] My dad used to take me to have ice cream he would dress me up when I want to go to school when I was below 6 or 7 that age.
[00:03:20] And he used to take me to have ice cream only both of us would go and for that it was our time together a little memory.
[00:03:30] The first comparison of woman is going to make a girl like when she becomes a woman is going to make is when she selects a male companion for a life is going to be with her father figure.
[00:03:46] It can be well to be exactly like her father if her relationship was good with her with her father or to not be like her father that is in your hands actually.
[00:04:03] There is a reason why male and female energy exist like in and in the end exist as a family.
[00:04:16] There has to be contribution of both sentimental and soft values of in energy and there has to be contribution of the hard no saying tendencies anger standing up for ourselves that young.
[00:04:46] Young energy contribution is also required you understand where I am coming from so that balance has to exist.
[00:04:58] The third reason is when you are the sole caretaker you will get overwhelmed and this is the major reason why I exist.
[00:05:11] As research suggests your body will always be producing cortisol as you are always on the edge in the flight, fight a flight more and never come.
[00:05:22] You are always on the edge you are saying no don't do this yeah I am giving you this okay you go play yes come we can play come bath come brush come come okay I'll cook and give this okay we are this dress let's do this let's do that.
[00:05:40] Let's go to sleep always on your toes correct this makes you put on weight lose your patience making it difficult for your system to actually relax for a bit.
[00:05:58] So these are the three reasons that I'm that have given you to make try to make the father daughter born exist and it's really really necessary for it to exist push for it even have if you have to push for it just push for it.
[00:06:27] Bye Queens.