Last 1 month has been really challenging for us , since mom had to go through a Hip Fracture and this podcast is our narration of how we bounced back.
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Speaker 1: Hi, welcome to the Indian Couple Fitness podcast. My name
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Speaker 1: is Ravi and my name is Amulya and welcome to
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Speaker 1: the episode number three. we've taken a lot of hiatus.
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Speaker 1: It's been a month and for that reason, we have
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Speaker 1: named this episode as Bouncing back. Tell me more about this, Amulya.
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Speaker 1: Can you share why we have named this podcast episode
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Speaker 1: as bouncing
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Speaker 2: back? So, in the last one month, our life was
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Speaker 2: not that very easy. We had big challenges. My
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Speaker 1: mom, I had a fracture
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Speaker 1: and she fell down, there was surgery
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Speaker 2: suddenly we got this news, we had to rush from
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Speaker 2: a different city to another city. So this one month
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Speaker 2: was not that easy
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Speaker 1: and post surgery, there was recovery, all of that was
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Speaker 1: happening and again, she has to be hospitalised and still
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Speaker 1: we are on the process, things are becoming better,
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Speaker 1: uh, medications are going through. So, the reason why we
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Speaker 1: are saying or sharing this particular podcast is a perspective
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Speaker 1: about we are on the way. It's not that we
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Speaker 1: are perfect or we are totally bounced back. It's about
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Speaker 1: how we are trying to figure it out. And, um, um, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: that's that. So let's talk about what does bouncing back
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Speaker 1: mean to us.
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Speaker 1: So would you like to share here what does bouncing
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Speaker 1: back mean to us? I will also jump in. So
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Speaker 1: as
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Speaker 2: you already mentioned, it's not like we are perfect. We
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Speaker 2: are just on the way trying to bounce back and
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Speaker 2: trying to balance uh between the work, the family, we
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Speaker 2: are trying
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Speaker 2: prioritize like which where I'm supposed to give attention in
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Speaker 2: this particular situation. And it's not like, OK, we have
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Speaker 2: personal issues and so that the professional life is very easily,
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Speaker 2: it's going, it's not that it also happens that in
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Speaker 2: professional life also some of the ups and downs keep
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Speaker 2: coming and we need to prioritize that how we have to,
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Speaker 2: you know, where we have to give more attention at
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Speaker 2: that particular moment.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, for me, it is like, how can you be
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Speaker 1: mentally sane when a lot of things are happening around you?
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Speaker 1: And there may be a lot of inputs coming in
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Speaker 1: from people across there may be uh people expecting many
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Speaker 1: things from you. How can you still be uh seen
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Speaker 1: and
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Speaker 1: don't give up, don't give up on uh whatever you
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Speaker 1: have supposed to do, right. So, uh I have a
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Speaker 1: fitness uh community which I'm running a, has a very
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Speaker 1: demanding job, which is and how we actually are able
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Speaker 1: to run through it. So that's what bouncing back means
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Speaker 1: to us. And how do we bounce back. We have
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Speaker 1: five points we noted down before this particular podcast. And
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Speaker 1: uh the first point, would you like to share? What
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Speaker 1: are the first point bounce back?
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Speaker 2: So it is like, be a strong
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Speaker 2: team. What do we mean by strong team is like
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Speaker 2: communicating between each other is very important in such situations.
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Speaker 2: And also we need to trust on each other like
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Speaker 2: whatever decisions if you are doing in the absence of me,
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Speaker 2: I need to trust it and you have to go
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Speaker 2: ahead and vice versa. We can't keep blaming each other like, ok,
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Speaker 2: this mistake happened because you did such things and also
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Speaker 2: try to spend a little bit of time. At least
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Speaker 2: I know the situations we really don't like whatever time
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Speaker 2: we have we are getting in short, but try to
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Speaker 2: spend at least a little bit of time
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Speaker 2: because there you feel OK, supportive, going to Hamas, whatever
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Speaker 2: the situation is going on. So that is what uh
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Speaker 2: being a strong team means to us.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. So in our, in our case, uh where me
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Speaker 1: and Amia, we, we um we
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Speaker 1: uh had many, many responsibilities at the same time. There's
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Speaker 1: also uh my mom, she has to be taken care.
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Speaker 1: There is all of things which is happening. So in
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Speaker 1: the next point, we'll tell about how do we manage that.
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Speaker 1: So second thing which why say that to be uh
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Speaker 1: bouncing back properly is having a financially sound
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Speaker 1: uh kind of a achievement for you because taking a
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Speaker 1: proper health insurance, life insurance is very, very important. And
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Speaker 1: in our case, uh with her job, there was a
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Speaker 1: proper health insurance. So we we didn't have to shell
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Speaker 1: out a lot of amount from our pockets. So anybody
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Speaker 1: listening here who does not have a proper health insurance
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Speaker 1: or life insurance, please do get a proper health insurance.
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Speaker 1: It's very, very important and it's very necessary for each
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Speaker 1: one of you.
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Speaker 1: And if in case if your office is giving a
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Speaker 1: very small amount and you know that your parents are
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Speaker 1: there or for yourself, any existing health issues are there,
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Speaker 1: you need to buy uh increase the um premium amount
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Speaker 1: or get uh insurance from outside, whatever it takes for you,
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Speaker 1: you can top it up with the with certain extra premium,
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Speaker 1: uh see what can be done, right? And it's also
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Speaker 1: in only once a year, you can do that. It's
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Speaker 1: not that any time you can top up the particular thing.
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Speaker 1: So it's very important thing. That's the second thing which
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Speaker 1: we found.
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Speaker 2: So the third point which we need to take here
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Speaker 2: is take help from others. What we mean is that
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Speaker 2: because we both are having some professional life also other
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Speaker 2: than personal life. So we made sure that we took
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Speaker 2: a help from a caretaker where because uh my mother-in-law
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Speaker 2: wanted help always 24 by seven, somebody had to be
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Speaker 2: there with her if we both had to continue with
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Speaker 2: our professional lives. So we made sure that we had
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Speaker 2: a caretaker and also post surgery. The physio, the,
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Speaker 2: uh, is very, very important. So we also made sure
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Speaker 2: that there is a person who comes every day and
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Speaker 2: takes care of that. Even after Ravi being in the fitness, uh, field,
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Speaker 2: we made sure that somebody who is professional in this,
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Speaker 2: like for post surgery who is required because everything is different.
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Speaker 2: We are doing, fitness is a different part and what
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Speaker 2: a post surgery needs to be done. That's a different thing. So,
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Speaker 2: we also had a physiotherapist coming to our home every day.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a added expenses, right. So, when, when you
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Speaker 1: are taking care from help from others, it does not
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Speaker 1: mean you don't love the people in your family. It
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Speaker 1: only means that to make their life simpler. Just imagine
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Speaker 1: if we didn't hire a caretaker, 24 7 caretaker or
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Speaker 1: if you didn't hire a physiotherapist, we actually had to
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Speaker 1: be there. Right. And with, with the kind of schedules,
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Speaker 1: what we have probably would not be able to
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Speaker 1: take that much good care of her mother. So, uh,
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Speaker 1: it's not emotionally, you have to think it, you also
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Speaker 1: have to think it realistically what is really feasible and
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Speaker 1: what is it for you, uh, as, as a person, um,
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Speaker 1: who is, who is there to take care and get
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Speaker 1: this thing, uh, in in place. So that was the
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Speaker 1: third one. Let's go on to the fourth one, prioritize accordingly. So,
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Speaker 1: uh
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Speaker 2: yeah. So what do you mean by protest accordingly? As
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Speaker 2: we said, like we had caretakers, we we, we take
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Speaker 2: took all of them. But uh sometimes maybe you have
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Speaker 2: to give more attention to your professional life because there
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Speaker 2: are some kind of responsibilities which we have come ahead.
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Speaker 2: So or maybe at the home we have to take.
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Speaker 2: So we need to see which is more priority and
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Speaker 2: try to give your attention. There. Both are important, but
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Speaker 2: which is calling you more. You need to go and
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Speaker 2: pay attention there, right?
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Speaker 1: So uh I was, I was going through one particular
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Speaker 1: interview of a very successful person and uh the, the
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Speaker 1: interviewer asked the person saying that, hey, how do you
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Speaker 1: balance things?
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Speaker 1: Uh That person said that you cannot balance things because
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Speaker 1: there is no thing like a balance.
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Speaker 1: It's always where do you need to put more fuel at?
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Speaker 1: What particular instance? So where do you prioritize more? What
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Speaker 1: do you prioritize more at what situation? Ok. So we
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Speaker 1: have to be sensible enough that what requires more of
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Speaker 1: our time on that particular day, on that particular time
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Speaker 1: and decide accordingly because not all days are safe. Some
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Speaker 1: days it may be uh really good at the home front.
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Speaker 1: Some days it may not. So you need to accordingly
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Speaker 1: do that. And the fifth one is
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Speaker 1: mentally being strong. So what is mentally being strong is
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Speaker 1: uh would like to share that.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so mentally being strong is like again, yes, we
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Speaker 2: are actually smiling when we are talking about this. So
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Speaker 2: the thing is uh things are really very hard but
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Speaker 2: like we need to be like, ok, we are a team.
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Speaker 2: It is for a family, it is for our life.
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Speaker 2: We need to try and that that might happen, like
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Speaker 2: which we raised the points previously, like somebody else might
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Speaker 2: be expecting something from you, maybe the office people or
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Speaker 2: the family people or anybody,
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Speaker 2: but how mentally need to be strong, try to be
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Speaker 2: calm and like, you know, try to pay attention to
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Speaker 2: the things which is more important and not getting deviated
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Speaker 2: or trying to get your egos in between or getting frustration,
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Speaker 2: not having all of those things, but trying to calm
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Speaker 2: down and take care of the things that is.
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Speaker 1: So uh while you do this, uh there also will
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Speaker 1: be a lot of people who may um challenge your
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Speaker 1: thought process or they may say certain things
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Speaker 1: uh but you have to be true to your gut, right?
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Speaker 1: So that's being mentally strong also mean to me. Um
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Speaker 1: So this is how we are in the process of
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Speaker 1: bouncing back. And uh if any of you are in
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Speaker 1: a particular challenging situation like us who have been, uh
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Speaker 1: I would definitely wish you more uh mental strength
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Speaker 1: and uh getting back on track as early as possible.
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Speaker 1: So for me, it was taking more uh training sessions
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Speaker 1: or 1 to 1 sessions or whatever was supposed to
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Speaker 1: be done for her. It is to, she started working
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Speaker 1: back um uh like she started doing work from home.
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Speaker 1: Uh and then she started going to office as early
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Speaker 1: because there also has to be change in the environment
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Speaker 1: if you are in the same situation.
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Speaker 1: Like I know I I used to sleep in the hospital.
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Speaker 1: I used to be there and the environment there was
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Speaker 1: very negative and all of that. So the environment in
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Speaker 1: hospital is very different from a home. So the change
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Speaker 1: in environment you have to do is as early as
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Speaker 1: possible so that you can actually bounce back. So this
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Speaker 1: was our particular podcast, not a usual podcast on some topic,
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Speaker 1: but I felt it was relevant and somebody if you
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Speaker 1: like it definitely do
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Speaker 1: uh comment below. Thank you very much. Thank you. Signing off.
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Speaker 1: It's Ravi here.
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Speaker 2: Bye bye.