Join Hina Ambareen on Episode 21 of "Hina's Emo Podcast" as she delves into the topic of emotional triggers. Understand what emotional triggers are, how they can impact your behavior and relationships, and discover strategies to identify and manage them effectively. Learn to respond with greater emotional intelligence and resilience. Follow us on Instagram for more insights: Click Here to Master Your Triggers.
[00:00:01] Welcome to Hina's Emo wisdom podcast where we are going to explore emotional wisdom and practical strategies for the most fulfilling life. Well, this is your Hina Ambareen Khan, certified wellness girl, certified life coach, speaker, author, former soil scientist from Indian Institute of Science.
[00:00:18] Today in this episode, we are going to dive deep into the world of emotional triggers and responses. It will help you to identify your emotional triggers, understand the origins and provide certain practical tips to how you can manage them.
[00:00:37] Emotional triggers you have all experienced, may be experiencing, they are certain reactions to specific situations, to the people, your memories, that's the past, that can evoke strong emotional response. When you understand these triggers, it's very crucial because they can impact the behavior and relationships.
[00:01:05] Common triggers, judgments, criticism, feeling ignored, the past trauma, certain sounds or somebody always sneaking in, peeking into your life, all these brings triggers. So how do you identify your triggers? I'll tell you, self-reflection technique. Just start paying attention to your reactions.
[00:01:37] I always suggest my students to keep a journal to note down the situations where you feel this sudden surge of emotion. Ask yourself, what was happening at that moment when you felt that trigger and why it might have triggered you? You have to ask this question.
[00:01:57] Many a times it so happens, when we get triggered, actually that was something existing in us that was bothering us and somebody pressed on that and so we reacted. Hope you can understand this. Look for the patterns.
[00:02:14] Do you react strongly to certain types of comments or are there any specific scenarios that repeatedly cause stress or anger? When you recognize these patterns, this is the first step in managing your trigger. How do you understand the origin? You may ask how can I understand the origin?
[00:02:36] Connect to those past experiences. Often triggers they are linked to past experiences my dear friends. It can be the unresolved matters or the issues that have been inside you, just like some kind of a strain staying inside you and bothering you or some kind of deepest
[00:02:52] wound that's been so painful to you and where in the chaotic life you are feeling the pain but you're not focusing on that pain. For example, a critical moment might trigger feelings of inadequacy which is rooted in the childhood experiences which most of them go through.
[00:03:11] Sometimes do understand these deep-seated pain or the wounds that's been causing lot of problem and the triggers are adding more fuel to that. I suggest you connect with me. You've got to connect with a professional because on your own you cannot resolve this
[00:03:36] because you will be always struggling and juggling with this from your mind and you don't find peace taking this. So managing the emotional triggers, how do you manage? By being mindful. Practice mindfulness. It can help you to stay present and reduce those reactions, the intensity rather.
[00:04:02] It can be your deep breathing. It can be the meditation. It can be like how you can calm your nervous system in the moment. Like inhale for the count of five, hold it for the count of seven and exhale through your mouth for the count of ten.
[00:04:23] It helps to calm your nervous system, especially your vagus nerve that leads to anxiety, depression, mood swings and all that. Even going for a walk, connecting with the nature or when you are having the trees
[00:04:40] or the plants in your garden, you can just water them and look at them. Taking care of them also helps you. Many coping strategies are one such. Like as I said, going out for a walk, engaging in a hobby, that is definitely going to help you.
[00:05:01] Setting the boundaries is very important my dear friends. This is the most spoken topic, nobody's, where we had forgotten how to set the boundaries and people took us for granted and they started walking on us and we got trampled
[00:05:15] just like a flower being trampled under the feet and though where we deserve to be and we forgot what's it worth, we were unnoticed and we have been craving for that attention.
[00:05:28] So it's okay to say no or to remove yourself from such a place that is not healthy for you. That's seriously okay. There are many life stories if you have to go through. People are always behind to trigger.
[00:05:48] There will be somebody or the other who are going to trigger you. But the emotional wisdom is do you want to get triggered or do you want to keep the patience. I know it's very tough, it's not easy though. It's highly, highly difficult.
[00:06:04] That's my personal experience I am telling you. But when you practice, practice and practice to stay silent, to stay calm and ask yourself. Focus on your breath, what's more important? Try diverting what's happening with you to something best. So what's more important to me?
[00:06:26] Try to bring the mind towards a different direction. Just like the compass showing a different direction. Try to do that and that needs practice. And thinking is this important to me or what's more important to me? Is this wisdom if I am going to react?
[00:06:45] Because wisdom is not reacting. Wisdom at that moment where you feel the rage, where you feel you can't control is when you control yourself is wisdom. I bet you that's wisdom. When you lose your temper, when you react because somebody is making you to react,
[00:07:03] then you lose your wisdom and they gain the power. And who is giving that power? You are giving that power. You feel that if I react, how long can I keep quiet for the shit that's happening? If I react, then it shows I am powerful.
[00:07:19] No, it does not matter to that person who is actually... Those who trigger you, they're not smart people for your kind of information. So you don't or neither they are courageous people. Courageous people, they do not judge. They do not criticize. They do not always trigger someone.
[00:07:36] It's their weakness. They are weak. You understand? So for that weaker kind of people, when you are reacting, what are you? Have you ever thought of it? So when you control yourself, control your anger, control your temper, that time you become more powerful. I swear, you become...
[00:07:58] That's what has helped me to become a powerful woman. Though I was told as a lioness by my mom, by most people, I was always called as Jhansi Ki Rani by my mother.
[00:08:13] And I truly feel yes, because you have to go through a lot of turbulences in life. That only makes you stronger, my dear friends. Those triggers, those challenges, those judgments provided, you know to live with emotional wisdom
[00:08:33] and take those challenges as an opportunity for you to grow, just a fuel for you to rise. For me, it didn't happen overnight. I had to go through a lot. A lot. All this took lots of patience, lots of pain. And here I am helping the world.
[00:08:57] So all this, whatever is happening to you, is to make you something better. Remember that. It's not to destroy you. Never. Don't you ever think that all this is happening to you, where I'm going to be destroyed. I cannot survive. I cannot live.
[00:09:12] No, you can't be naive or insane that you are going to give up because of someone. That's really ridiculous and insanity, right? The wisdom is you know your worth. You have your mind, your emotions under your control, not in the control of those triggers.
[00:09:38] And you will keep that calm and patient because you are simply the best. And you know the wisdom is to rise, not to fall with those triggers. My dear lovely people, there's a lot more, a lot more to talk on this.
[00:09:58] Well, I'll be connecting with you on Hina's EmoWisdom Podcast. Share your feedbacks. And connect with me for one-on-one sessions. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe. Share it with others. There are many people who are suffering and my mission and my purpose is to help the world,
[00:10:21] to empower them, to help them to live with that wisdom, emotional wisdom and confidence. And they have to feel the empowered souls because every individual needs that empowerment. Everybody is suffering in silence or they are suffering in a different way.
[00:10:42] Just help me out and help them so that everybody gets empowered. Stay emotionally wise and have a wonderful week. Till then, take care, ta ta and bye bye.