By acknowledging our pain and allowing ourselves to cry, grieve, and vent, we pave the way for healing and growth.
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[00:00:00] Hello Sunshine and how was your week been?
[00:00:13] You know I read this quote somewhere said, you don't always have to be strong.
[00:00:19] Sometimes you need to scream, throw things or have a really good cry.
[00:00:24] But you always, always, always need to pull yourself back together.
[00:00:29] And then go back to being the badass you were meant to be.
[00:00:33] Why is it for all of us, why is it that we feel it's normal to keep pushing forward even when we clearly need to take a break?
[00:00:43] Since when did ignoring our pain or hiding behind some sort of grief that we are carrying inside of us become a sign of strength?
[00:00:55] Since when have we started normalizing being dysfunctional?
[00:01:01] And we start feeling guilty if we actually need a break.
[00:01:05] When did all of us become this way?
[00:01:09] A friend of mine told me recently, she said, when my husband passed away, I wasn't told to grieve or cry.
[00:01:18] I was told you need to be strong for your kids.
[00:01:21] When my brother broke my heart, my family did not allow me to went.
[00:01:26] Nobody wanted to speak to me about it.
[00:01:28] They told me you'll have to learn to hold it in and accept him and everything the way it is.
[00:01:33] Don't show him that you're weak.
[00:01:36] The day I packed my bags to leave to study in a country abroad, I was all of 18 years of age.
[00:01:43] Nobody told me that I would go through days of being lonely.
[00:01:47] I would go through days when I would feel really sad.
[00:01:50] And that's when I knew I had no choice but to be strong.
[00:01:53] But let me tell you after all this time, the one thing that I learned and it was a very valuable lesson
[00:01:58] was pretending to be strong didn't do me any good.
[00:02:03] The truth is people around us will always tell us to be tougher or stronger to be better
[00:02:09] because they need us to be the same.
[00:02:13] Sometimes people get too used to leaning on to you.
[00:02:16] They do not want to be the ones that you may need to lean on to every once in a while.
[00:02:22] And what happens when we can't really talk about how we're feeling or what we're going through
[00:02:27] is that we learn to build a wall around us to stop ourselves from feeling vulnerable
[00:02:33] or feeling anything at all.
[00:02:35] What the world won't tell you is that it's okay to cry
[00:02:39] and it's okay if you've cried all night about your broken heart.
[00:02:42] It's okay to grieve the loss of someone who was your anchor, who meant a lot to you.
[00:02:49] It's okay to be sad.
[00:02:51] It's okay to feel lonely sometimes even when you're surrounded by people.
[00:02:56] Nobody will tell you it's okay to not be okay
[00:03:01] because it's the times when you open up, the times when you connect with your emotions
[00:03:05] and the times when you acknowledge the hurt that you actually start your process,
[00:03:10] your healing process.
[00:03:13] By bottling everything up, you're not actually dealing with the pain.
[00:03:18] What we're doing is we're dismissing it to be dealt with at another point or at a later point
[00:03:25] and we pretend that it hasn't made a huge impact on our life.
[00:03:30] But what we're doing is we're giving it an opportunity to resurface again
[00:03:35] and that will hurt us all over again.
[00:03:38] When we allow ourselves to feel sad or to feel the anger and the frustration,
[00:03:43] we actually allow ourselves to feel everything.
[00:03:47] We allow ourselves to be in touch with ourselves and that actually is a sign of strength.
[00:03:53] When we are willing to show up in a vulnerable manner, we are willing to take off our mask.
[00:04:00] So let's choose what we want to be in this world.
[00:04:03] Let's choose to be stronger by letting our emotions take their course.
[00:04:07] Let's choose to be true to our feelings.
[00:04:11] Let's choose to be truly strong by showing up in a vulnerable manner.
[00:04:18] Have a great week each one of you and we'll speak to you again next week.
[00:04:23] Take good care of yourselves. Bye for now.
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