Do you feel that there are some invisible anchors that are stopping you from making progress? This podcast will give you a perspective.
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Speaker 1: Welcome to the Freedom Business podcast, your host, Siddharth Rajsekar here.
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Speaker 1: Have you ever felt that no matter what you do,
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Speaker 1: you're not able to make progress in your business, you're
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Speaker 1: not able to make progress in your life. In this
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Speaker 1: particular podcast. I want to share with you six invisible
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Speaker 1: anchors that are actually keeping you stuck.
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Speaker 1: And in my 10 year journey in business, I realize
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Speaker 1: that it's a very internal and a very subtle game
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Speaker 1: to actually make progress and that to free flowing progress.
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Speaker 1: And there are many people that I know, even when
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Speaker 1: I was, you know, grinding it, I was trying everything.
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Speaker 1: I had all the knowledge I had all the skills
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Speaker 1: I had all the right intentions, but there were some
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Speaker 1: internal factors that were not allowing me to move forward.
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Speaker 1: And I thought I'll uncover that in this particular podcast.
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Speaker 1: The first thing is your own beliefs about money.
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Speaker 1: You have to go deeper and see what is your
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Speaker 1: money blueprint? Like what are the internal dialogues that you,
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Speaker 1: you know, keep playing in your mind when it comes
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Speaker 1: to money? Things like, you know, if you feel money
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Speaker 1: does not grow on trees, rich people are bad. Like
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Speaker 1: all of the typical stuff that the society projects. If
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Speaker 1: you have any of those inner beliefs about money that
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Speaker 1: are not serving you and supporting you
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Speaker 1: that is going to affect your money. The same thing,
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Speaker 1: beliefs about money, beliefs about health, beliefs about relationships, that
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Speaker 1: your own
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Speaker 1: belief system on each of these will determine the reality
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Speaker 1: in which you are in.
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Speaker 1: So in other words, when you are able to shift
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Speaker 1: your beliefs, you can, you can shift your life or
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Speaker 1: change your life and that is the first invisible anchor.
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Speaker 1: And you have to really ask yourself why five times
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Speaker 1: like why do you want money?
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Speaker 1: You may have an answer. OK, I wanna buy a
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Speaker 1: house and why do you want to buy a house?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you wanna have your family there? So why is
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Speaker 1: it so important for your family?
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Speaker 1: Maybe prestige? OK. You want to show others that your
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Speaker 1: prestigious and then why do you, why are you so
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Speaker 1: care about, why do you care about prestige?
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Speaker 1: Then maybe there's somebody in your childhood who would have
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Speaker 1: said that, you know, you're not good enough or something
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Speaker 1: like that. So when you go back to the root
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Speaker 1: and identify
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Speaker 1: where, where that desire is coming from. You will be
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Speaker 1: able to better make peace with it and move forward.
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Speaker 1: The second anchor is your beliefs about yourself.
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Speaker 1: From what I have seen,
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Speaker 1: most people who are living a flashy life who are
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Speaker 1: trying to showcase that they are something in this world.
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Speaker 1: If you go back to their childhood, they have had
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Speaker 1: the exact opposite of that. And all they're trying to
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Speaker 1: do is filling that vacuum of not feeling good enough.
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Speaker 1: And representing that in flashy ways when they grow, when
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Speaker 1: they actually start to make that money or get that
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Speaker 1: fame and name and stuff like that.
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Speaker 1: And when I look at all of these people are,
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Speaker 1: you know, running ads and showcasing the lifestyle and, you know,
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Speaker 1: all of that stuff,
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Speaker 1: I know at an internal level that they are doing
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Speaker 1: it because
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Speaker 1: of their childhood,
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Speaker 1: maybe in their childhood, they did not believe in themselves.
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Speaker 1: Somebody was told them you're a waste. You, you're not,
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Speaker 1: not good enough and to prove to the world that
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Speaker 1: they are good enough, they start to do all these
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Speaker 1: different things and they start to chase awards, they just,
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Speaker 1: they start to chase the limelight and they want to like,
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Speaker 1: be something to the world because they were nothing in
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Speaker 1: their initial days.
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Speaker 1: And that's one of the anchors. So the, the way
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Speaker 1: to remove that anchor
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Speaker 1: is to be in love with yourself. And believe in
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Speaker 1: who you are without comparing yourself with anybody else.
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Speaker 1: The third one is an invisible anchor that keeps you
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Speaker 1: stuck is your beliefs about other successful people.
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Speaker 1: When you see somebody successful
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Speaker 1: and in your mind, if there's some enviousness or jealousy
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Speaker 1: or something that kicks in,
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Speaker 1: it means that you have not yet evolved to a
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Speaker 1: point where you're appreciating other people are successful. And that
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Speaker 1: also acts as an anchor because you cannot be somebody
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Speaker 1: that you despise. Same with rich people when you see
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Speaker 1: somebody rich and you say, oh, he's just a big shot. OK?
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Speaker 1: That means you're putting them on a different category or
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Speaker 1: say rich people are bad or rich people are arrogant.
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Speaker 1: So you can never be somebody that you despise unconsciously.
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Speaker 1: The fourth invisible factor that's keeping you stuck is your
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Speaker 1: relationship with your father figures and mother figures.
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Speaker 1: Let's say, for example, you had a bad and rough
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Speaker 1: relationship with your parents
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Speaker 1: for whatever reason. Maybe your father did not treat you
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Speaker 1: well or your mother did not treat you well or
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Speaker 1: something
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Speaker 1: where you're holding a grudge against that. What happens is
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Speaker 1: that acts as an anchor because you're operating from a
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Speaker 1: space of
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Speaker 1: uh
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Speaker 1: it's a space where you are not in sync with
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Speaker 1: the people who brought you into this world.
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Speaker 1: Another angle to it is I know many people
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Speaker 1: where they have their father figure who is in a
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Speaker 1: particular way. Let's say your father is making X amount
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Speaker 1: of money
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Speaker 1: because of that kind of reverence you have with your
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Speaker 1: father figure,
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Speaker 1: you at a subconscious level, don't want to make more
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Speaker 1: money than that, than that father figure, whether it's your
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Speaker 1: own father or your mother or whatever. Yeah. And then
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Speaker 1: what happens is you are cons you're unconsciously below that
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Speaker 1: thermostat and this is a situation that I was in,
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Speaker 1: in the initial days before I got into, you know,
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Speaker 1: when I was just starting on the personal development world,
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Speaker 1: I have such a high regard for my father that I,
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Speaker 1: that unconsciously, I did not want to make more money
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Speaker 1: than him every single year. And once I made peace
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Speaker 1: with that, my income started to grow. And now, you know, it's,
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Speaker 1: it's gone to a whole different level and I'm very
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Speaker 1: happy that my, you know, my dad is appreciating me
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Speaker 1: for the whatever I'm doing right now and I don't
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Speaker 1: seek his approval that is on one side. But I
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Speaker 1: don't also
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Speaker 1: uh care
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Speaker 1: that I'm making more money than my father. OK?
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Speaker 1: When I say I don't care, it's more like it
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Speaker 1: is not connected to this.
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Speaker 1: It's giving me an opportunity to serve him. It's giving
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Speaker 1: me an opportunity to respect him for who he is
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Speaker 1: and understand what he is. So some of you may
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Speaker 1: have this probe deep and you may find the anchor
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Speaker 1: over there for me, this was an anchor that I
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Speaker 1: was able to come out of
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Speaker 1: in 2016, 2017. And then everything started to move up
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Speaker 1: from 2018 onwards. For many, many years, I had this thing.
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Speaker 1: Your relationship with your father figure is one part and
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Speaker 1: your perception of how you're gonna be in comparison with them.
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Speaker 1: And you know what every father figure, every mother figure
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Speaker 1: only wishes the best for their child.
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Speaker 1: And they would like to see you more successful than them.
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Speaker 1: So give yourself the permission to step into your power
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Speaker 1: and be that
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Speaker 1: another invisible anchor that keeps people stuck are the wounds
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Speaker 1: from your childhood. I already mentioned this but wounds like
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Speaker 1: relationship wounds, maybe if you are born in a, in
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Speaker 1: a situation where you were brought up in a point
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Speaker 1: where your family got, you know, your parents got divorced
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Speaker 1: for whatever reason, then that pattern usually continues later on
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Speaker 1: in life where all your relationships are usually very rocky
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Speaker 1: until you realize that there's a pattern that you need
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Speaker 1: to break and that comes with awareness and I'll come
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Speaker 1: to those steps next. Same with your health. Also, if
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Speaker 1: you've seen, you know, anyone uh in your own family
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Speaker 1: having poor health, there could be two things. Number one is,
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Speaker 1: you can either take on a totally different tangent of
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Speaker 1: becoming and living a healthy life or you could continue
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Speaker 1: on the same pattern. Like in my case, my dad
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Speaker 1: was an alcoholic, my uncle was also an alcoholic. I've seen,
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Speaker 1: you know, the times in my earlier days on
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Speaker 1: how they would be like Jekyll and Hyde in the daytime,
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Speaker 1: there would be normal people in the nighttime, they would
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Speaker 1: transform into something else.
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Speaker 1: Now, it was a wound in the initial days when
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Speaker 1: I started. But as I went to personal development that
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Speaker 1: actually I changed the perspective and turned that into a gift.
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Speaker 1: Now it is because my father was an alcoholic and
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Speaker 1: now he's come out of it. And thanks to the
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Speaker 1: gift of spirituality, you know, we are nowhere close to
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Speaker 1: that today. I can proudly say that if I had
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Speaker 1: not gone through that experience in my childhood, I would
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Speaker 1: not be living the life I'm living right now in
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Speaker 1: the sense that I don't drink, I don't smoke. I
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Speaker 1: don't have any other bad habits. I don't even drink
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Speaker 1: tea and coffee. I don't even take caffeine,
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Speaker 1: no addictions.
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Speaker 1: But for me to realize that and integrate that lesson,
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Speaker 1: I had to see it as a child.
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Speaker 1: So what wounds that you have from your childhood? You
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Speaker 1: can either change the perspective of it or you continue
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Speaker 1: with the same pattern.
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Speaker 1: And then some other invisible anchors that can keep your
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Speaker 1: Stockard wounds from your past life, or it could also
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Speaker 1: be some kmic baggage from your past life which you
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Speaker 1: may or may not even know what it is, but
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Speaker 1: it is affecting you at this point.
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Speaker 1: So now the question is how do you,
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Speaker 1: you know, overcome these anchors,
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Speaker 1: how do you really
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Speaker 1: make peace with these anchors so that you can move
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Speaker 1: forward with momentum?
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Speaker 1: The first step is awareness, awareness comes through inner connection,
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Speaker 1: inner connection with yourself in a connection with the, with
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Speaker 1: your creator and questioning yourself and asking your creator, asking
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Speaker 1: your higher self, what can you do to serve better
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Speaker 1: on this world? And what is the lesson that I
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Speaker 1: need to learn? So the through inner connection, you will
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Speaker 1: start to exercise your intuitive
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Speaker 1: uh side. All of us, we are senders and receivers
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Speaker 1: of information, our brain and our mind has amazing potential
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Speaker 1: that we, we hardly even tap. And the more you
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Speaker 1: are exercising your inner connection and awareness, you will be
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Speaker 1: guided internally
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Speaker 1: and intuitively.
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Speaker 1: The second step is acceptance.
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Speaker 1: It's a big word
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Speaker 1: when you're able to find the brilliance in every situation,
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Speaker 1: just like how I said, I, I can either complain
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Speaker 1: all my life saying that my dad was an alcoholic,
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Speaker 1: but I can say that what II I could shift
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Speaker 1: the perspective saying that if I had not gone through that,
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Speaker 1: I would not be what I am today.
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Speaker 1: I would not have the maturity to understand where I
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Speaker 1: am today.
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Speaker 1: So when you can find the brilliance in every negative situation,
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Speaker 1: you will automatically heal that.
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Speaker 1: And the last step is action,
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Speaker 1: action. What do you, what can you do in such
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Speaker 1: a way where you're not worrying about the fruits of
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Speaker 1: the action. This is what we've read in many of
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Speaker 1: the scriptures, like taking action without worrying about the result. Yes,
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Speaker 1: we are ambitious. We are doing things but you're doing
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Speaker 1: what you're supposed to do and you're gonna allow it
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Speaker 1: to flow. So through awareness, through acceptance and through action,
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Speaker 1: you will be able to slowly but steadily,
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Speaker 1: slowly remove those invisible anchors that are keeping you stuck.
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Speaker 1: And it's not like a one day thing. It's not
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Speaker 1: like a one session thing. It's a continuous thing.
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Speaker 1: And that's why I recommend all of you to spend
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Speaker 1: every single day in, in surrendered prayer to spend every
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Speaker 1: single a week or month in service to others, it
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Speaker 1: purifies and to also give in charity regularly. So prayer
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Speaker 1: service and charity are the three magical elements that can
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Speaker 1: help you be get more aware,
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Speaker 1: accept a situation and take action without worrying about the
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Speaker 1: fruits and results. And by being in that zone, your
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Speaker 1: beliefs about money will change your beliefs about yourself, will
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Speaker 1: change your beliefs about successful people, will change your relationship
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Speaker 1: with your father figure, mother figure will shift your wounds
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Speaker 1: from your childhood, will shift
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Speaker 1: and possibly a wound from your past life. You may
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Speaker 1: not even know what's what healing you're doing, but it
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Speaker 1: actually makes things move forward. So I want to share
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Speaker 1: the last part of this podcast is, is a very
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Speaker 1: powerful lesson, you will never be able to create an
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Speaker 1: impact in the world. If you don't love yourself,
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Speaker 1: if you don't have self love.
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Speaker 1: And the first stage of self love is self care
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Speaker 1: where you need to be decisive about what you really want,
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Speaker 1: caring for yourself, caring for your body, caring for your
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Speaker 1: whatever you eat and care for every aspect of yourself.
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Speaker 1: And self care is number one that leads to self acceptance,
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Speaker 1: the more you you care for yourself. You will start
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Speaker 1: uh sorry you uh self appreciation, you will start to
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Speaker 1: appreciate yourself, not to the world but appreciate yourself for
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Speaker 1: who for who you are.
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Speaker 1: The level above that is self approval
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Speaker 1: where you know what you want to do and you
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Speaker 1: approve of yourself to be who you are and not
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Speaker 1: seeking approval of others.
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Speaker 1: That is true self love.
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Speaker 1: Because when you have self care, self appreciation and self approval,
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Speaker 1: you will truly demonstrate self love. You can't see we
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Speaker 1: go to self love and that is gonna bring you
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Speaker 1: to a self concept.
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Speaker 1: You'll have such a strong self concept that you will
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Speaker 1: be able to achieve whatever you want in your life.
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Speaker 1: I hope this podcast is useful. I would like you
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Speaker 1: to share your notes below. I'll catch you in the
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Speaker 1: next episode.