Episode 2 - Transforming Perspectives on Communication - Part 2 (enhanced)

[00:00:00] Hello, I, Tanuja, your host. Welcome you to another episode of Eloquence Echoes, empowering

[00:00:08] you with tips on elevating yourself from just a communicator to a brilliant communicator.

[00:00:17] Intention is the most important element of effective communication. With the right intention

[00:00:28] you can build stronger relationships, resolve conflicts and create positive outcomes.

[00:00:34] However, to have the right intention before every interaction so that it doesn't get colored by

[00:00:40] our emotions and feelings, our biases, our moods or self-selfish interests, we must transform

[00:00:48] our perspective and communication. This can be done by three methods.

[00:00:55] In the last episode I told you the first method that was empathy using the golden rule of

[00:01:06] communication that communicate unto others as you want others to communicate unto you.

[00:01:13] With the last episode, I also started a three episode series on each of these three methods.

[00:01:20] Today is the second method to transform your perspective.

[00:01:29] If you have not watched the first one, the previous one, I request you

[00:01:35] to please listen to episode number one, transforming perspectives on communication part one.

[00:01:43] In today's episode, we will see transforming perspectives on communication part two,

[00:01:52] the second method to do so.

[00:01:58] To give respect to your listener or speaker in an interaction is the second way

[00:02:04] to transform your perspective on communication.

[00:02:08] Respect a seven-letter word elevates you and your listener to the seventh heaven instantly.

[00:02:18] Because respect is the foundation's tone of a healthy relationship, personal or professional.

[00:02:26] When you show respect to someone, you convey to them, I acknowledge and honor your presence.

[00:02:34] I value you.

[00:02:37] This attitude is enough to win the heart of anyone and also to turn the relationships around.

[00:02:45] Then why will you interaction or turn around?

[00:02:48] They will too and you will surely have an effective communication.

[00:02:56] But how do you show respect?

[00:03:00] Only by greeting them or offering them a chair, no.

[00:03:05] I will tell you nine ways to do so in a perfect manner.

[00:03:12] First is by listening to them.

[00:03:17] One of the most sincere forms of respect is listening to what other person has to say.

[00:03:28] The other person could be giving you instructions or some information or telling you something.

[00:03:35] Please listen attentively.

[00:03:37] How do you do that?

[00:03:40] Whatever you are doing, stop your work or whatever you are watching, stop it and make eye contact.

[00:03:51] Turn your full torso towards the speaker.

[00:03:56] That is when you listen attentively.

[00:03:59] Second is by being hot full and kind.

[00:04:05] Everyone these days is fighting a battle within themselves to prove himself or ourselves in the eyes of his bosses

[00:04:13] or among his peers or even to maintain a healthy work-life balance.

[00:04:18] What more, many of us are just there to sustain in this super competitive world?

[00:04:27] Isn't that too much of pressure already?

[00:04:31] The showy thoughtfulness for the other person therefore and ways I understand you and I care for you.

[00:04:39] The attitude makes them finally safe in your company and they open up seeing a friend in you.

[00:04:46] Third, by being appreciative of small actions even.

[00:04:53] You know already that big impact happens through small actions.

[00:04:58] So express your gratitude for small gestures.

[00:05:03] Notice and acknowledge efforts.

[00:05:07] But instance, if you attended a meeting and you found water bottles on every seat,

[00:05:12] please thank the person who organized it.

[00:05:16] Because many times we take these things as granted.

[00:05:21] It is a part of arranging their meeting so what?

[00:05:25] If this was done, no.

[00:05:27] Even if the person is doing his or her duty, please express gratitude.

[00:05:36] At least someone is doing their duty.

[00:05:39] You can offer compliment on specific tasks or quality.

[00:05:43] For example, your creativity really shines in this project.

[00:05:49] I admire your dedication to quality work

[00:05:52] or you could even offer in your personal relationships, compliments on dress, on looks,

[00:06:00] on appearance.

[00:06:03] These kind of appreciations really lift the spirits up of the listener and it makes their day

[00:06:13] not just early but many days to come.

[00:06:16] That is a power of appreciation.

[00:06:20] The fourth step in which you can show respect is by accepting people with no strings attached.

[00:06:29] Most of the times we see others as we are and not as they are.

[00:06:33] We try to change them into what we want them to be.

[00:06:39] By accepting them as they are, conveys.

[00:06:41] I respect you for what you are.

[00:06:45] This relaxes them and makes them drop them mask.

[00:06:50] Then forge a relationship with you based on authenticity, sincerity and honesty.

[00:07:00] Fifth, by showing inclusiveness in day-to-day interactions.

[00:07:07] You do this by using inclusive language that addresses everyone.

[00:07:12] Instead of saying hi guys, which is

[00:07:16] objective to by many of my female friends,

[00:07:21] you can say hi teen, hi everyone, hi all.

[00:07:26] You encourage participation from all the people present there in discussions,

[00:07:32] in decision-making processes.

[00:07:35] Also, by being open-minded and receptive to diverse perspectives and ideas.

[00:07:42] Don't reject or shun any idea because you think will not work.

[00:07:48] Many times crazy ideas have worked much better.

[00:07:53] Sixth, respect their choices and opinions and decisions.

[00:07:59] Even the best of friends in a healthy relationship will have their moments of disagreement.

[00:08:05] A green to disagree instead of harboring grudges or resentment

[00:08:10] because they didn't listen to you will save the relationship or your friendship.

[00:08:17] In fact, it is going to strengthen it more.

[00:08:21] Additionally, accept the decision taken by the other person

[00:08:26] instead of passing judgments on it.

[00:08:29] Even if you don't agree with the decision they have taken, avoid saying

[00:08:35] I told you not to do it. Now, you handle it all yourself.

[00:08:42] When you don't pass judgments, you make them feel supported and also emotionally secure.

[00:08:52] Seventh, respect their feelings and emotions.

[00:08:59] You may be able to handle an adverse situation with resilience.

[00:09:03] Not everyone can. Many break down faster than others.

[00:09:08] We have to understand the emotional maturity of the other person before passing a judgment

[00:09:13] or discounting that emotion is a worse thing and you should avoid it always.

[00:09:21] Respect people's feelings, even if it doesn't mean anything to you,

[00:09:26] it could mean everything to them.

[00:09:30] Eighth, respect their time.

[00:09:35] Being respectful of people's time is built upon the foundation of knowing

[00:09:40] you are not the only one or the most important thing on someone's schedule today.

[00:09:48] We all have our responsibilities, commitments and priorities.

[00:09:52] If someone has given you time to meet an appointment,

[00:09:57] please be there on time.

[00:09:58] If you are late or cancel it at the last minute, there is a bust to that.

[00:10:07] If it has to be done under some exigencies, please inform well beforehand so that the other person

[00:10:13] is mentally prepared and engages himself in something more important.

[00:10:20] Last but not the least is by respecting their space, not just physical but emotional and psychological.

[00:10:33] Allow them me time to be with their friends or be with themselves.

[00:10:39] Don't disturb them, avoid texting them when they are in their space

[00:10:44] or calling them up at their communion time.

[00:10:50] Stay off their social media accounts during this time.

[00:10:55] Respecting their space also means respecting their needs and modes.

[00:11:02] Having said so, you should also understand what is a disrespectful behavior or attitude.

[00:11:09] This will help you to change yourself if needed.

[00:11:13] Obviously, everything that is opposite of any or all of the points mentioned above

[00:11:18] will be turned as disrespectful.

[00:11:23] Just let me sum it all up in three points.

[00:11:26] What all will be a disrespectful attitude?

[00:11:30] First, not being attentive when the other person speaks to you.

[00:11:35] Second, having a demanding attitude.

[00:11:38] When you want the priority attention and importance over the other person,

[00:11:43] this is a clear violation of respecting their space,

[00:11:48] time, emotions and feelings.

[00:11:51] Third, when you are controlling and dominating, it is a sure sign of disrespect for the other

[00:12:00] person's choices, needs, moods, opinions and decisions.

[00:12:07] Being nagging and fault-finding is an extension of being controlling.

[00:12:14] When you stop taking others for granted, you start respecting them and valuing them.

[00:12:21] Giving respect also humbles you.

[00:12:24] This is one of the traits of a good leader

[00:12:28] and a great leadership.

[00:12:31] Human beings cannot live alone, respecting people around you, regardless of their age,

[00:12:36] positions, social status, caste and religion,

[00:12:40] builds bridges with them, makes them feel supported and emotionally secure.

[00:12:46] Every interaction arising out of such a perspective will definitely be super effective

[00:12:52] and you will be a brilliant communicator.

[00:12:57] That's all in today's episode, Part 2 of Transforming Perspectives on Conveying Cation.

[00:13:04] Next week I will tell you the third method to transform your view point on communication.

[00:13:11] Until then, try and apply these points in your communication with your friends, family and

[00:13:17] colleagues. Let me know the result of it in the review section. Do leave your review, bye bye!