In this episode of Ankur Warikoo discusses the complex nature of difficult relationships. He shares insights from a conversation with a friend experiencing challenges with their partner, highlighting three potential reactions to such situations. Warikoo emphasizes that whether to stay in or leave a relationship is a rational choice dependent on individual understanding and acceptance, while attempting to change someone is typically unsuccessful. He encourages listeners to accept partners as they are or make rational decisions about their willingness to continue the relationship. Tune in every Thursday for new episodes on your favorite podcast platform.
00:00 Introduction to Woice With Warikoo
00:32 A Friend's Troubled Relationship
01:05 Three Reactions to Relationship Issues
02:21 Rational and Irrational Choices
03:25 Final Thoughts on Relationships
03:42 Closing Remarks and Subscription Reminder
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[00:00:29] I was talking with a friend who was in a difficult relationship.
[00:00:32] He's been with his partner, and now he's seeing a very different side of that partner.
[00:00:40] There are constant fights, arguments, he's frustrated that he doesn't see what he's doing with it.
[00:00:50] And he's shocked and surprised that he feels that he's doing with it.
[00:00:56] So there's clearly no resolve here.
[00:00:59] And this is what I told him, exactly what I told him.
[00:01:04] That friends, every difficult relationship can be three reactions.
[00:01:09] Reaction number one, I don't want this drama in my life.
[00:01:14] I shouldn't have to deal with this.
[00:01:16] Neither I have a responsibility nor I have fun.
[00:01:19] I can no longer take this.
[00:01:20] I'm out.
[00:01:21] I don't want to do this.
[00:01:22] I don't want this relationship in my life.
[00:01:25] You're out.
[00:01:26] I'm out.
[00:01:27] We are different.
[00:01:30] Reaction number two, I love you.
[00:01:34] And I feel like your reaction is because of the pain that you have gone through.
[00:01:40] And now you don't understand the truth or the pain that you have done with the pain.
[00:01:45] And how do you deal with it?
[00:01:47] How do you deal with it?
[00:01:48] And my belief is that you will go through one day.
[00:01:52] Until I am with you.
[00:01:54] I am with you.
[00:01:56] No matter how difficult this gets.
[00:01:59] And then reaction number three, which is that you have a bad thing.
[00:02:21] And what I told him was,
[00:02:23] that the reaction was a very rational, sensible reaction.
[00:02:28] So if you don't want this to be a bad thing,
[00:02:30] it's an absolutely rational choice to make.
[00:02:32] If you want to make that relationship with its problems and its problems,
[00:02:38] because you truly understand the partner,
[00:02:41] that is also a rational approach to take.
[00:02:43] But the third approach is completely unborn.
[00:02:48] Completely irrational.
[00:02:49] Because that reaction will always fail.
[00:02:54] And you have a better reaction of that.
[00:02:59] Either I stay in this relationship,
[00:03:01] or not.
[00:03:03] But in this relationship,
[00:03:05] don't try to change anybody.
[00:03:11] Because if I say that you will change,
[00:03:14] then you won't change.
[00:03:15] Why do you change another?
[00:03:17] People change when they want to change.
[00:03:24] And that to me is the most fundamental realization about every relationship.
[00:03:35] All the best.
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