This episode is dedicated to working mothers. 5 major problems and stressors faced by working mothers and solutions.
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Speaker 1: Are you a mother or the working mother and facing
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Speaker 1: lots of issues with respect to the stress and anxiety.
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Speaker 1: Then this episode is for you. Hi, this is Sonal
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Speaker 1: here and I am founder of Happiness Painting Club. And
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Speaker 1: today we are going to discuss about the problems which
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Speaker 1: mother or the working mother faces. The number one problem
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Speaker 1: which causes the stress, anxiety or burnout is work life balance,
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Speaker 1: juggling between your working, you know, expectations and also the
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Speaker 1: family responsibility sometimes can be overwhelming,
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Speaker 1: even managing kids and their academics, their routines, et cetera
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Speaker 1: along with the work pressure which we all go through
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Speaker 1: can be challenging and it may lead to some stress,
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Speaker 1: major stress and the burnout that is a major problem
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Speaker 1: with all the working professionals, especially the working mothers. The
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Speaker 1: second one is the parenting challenges
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Speaker 1: along with the work. Managing parenting is really a challenging task.
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Speaker 1: I have been through that because I was a working professional.
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Speaker 1: I am the working professional right now and managing the
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Speaker 1: my own kid along with my, you know, responsibilities with
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Speaker 1: respect to my work and business is really challenging.
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Speaker 1: Third, the major problem is self-care neglect due to so many,
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Speaker 1: you know, ongoing activities, routine, et cetera. We often neglect
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Speaker 1: our self-care because we prioritize others need first, especially the
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Speaker 1: family and then your partner and kids, et cetera. And
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Speaker 1: we forgot to care about yourself, which increases the stress level.
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Speaker 1: The number four is social isolation.
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Speaker 1: We are highly over occupied with professional responsibilities and then
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Speaker 1: the family responsibilities and we neglect the, you know, especially
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Speaker 1: the social part, you know, making the genuine connections. I'm
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Speaker 1: talking about not that social media, etcetera. So that
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Speaker 1: also lead to sometimes, you know, uh stress and the social,
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Speaker 1: you know, loneliness reason is we are not equipped with,
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Speaker 1: you know, managing the genuine relationship along with your professional
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Speaker 1: and the family responsibilities, especially after marriage.
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Speaker 1: The
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Speaker 1: number five is again a financial pressure
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Speaker 1: fin financial issues can be concerned because nowadays cost of
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Speaker 1: living is increasing day by day, managing lifestyle, childcare, education
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Speaker 1: and the family needs. On top of that, if you
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Speaker 1: are living in the metro cities, your lifestyle and rental
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Speaker 1: or the house CM I et cetera is really challenging,
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Speaker 1: which also causes pressure. And moreover, there is
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Speaker 1: a lot of compromise we do with our working conditions
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Speaker 1: also out of financial pressure so that finally contribute into
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Speaker 1: the stress factor. I have I was a, you know,
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Speaker 1: highly career oriented working professional and I do understand what
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Speaker 1: it caused, you know, especially the financial pressure when you
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Speaker 1: have a Ugmis and the you know, cost of living
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Speaker 1: is very
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Speaker 1: high and also the childcare education. And uh if you are,
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Speaker 1: if you uh both the partners are working, then, you know,
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Speaker 1: managing kids is also additional responsibilities because you may have
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Speaker 1: to take uh daycare services that also highly you know, expensive.
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Speaker 1: So everything adds to the stress and the financial pres pressure.
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Speaker 1: These are the five major, you know,
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Speaker 1: uh stresses, especially the problem which working mothers or the
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Speaker 1: mother faces. Now, let's talk about what can be done
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Speaker 1: to reduce espe especially, you know, to work out on
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Speaker 1: these stresses
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Speaker 1: to manage the work life balances. We can do a
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Speaker 1: lot about that, we can prioritize our task and also
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Speaker 1: we can set the boundaries within our official environment also,
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Speaker 1: especially setting the realistic expectation, always help and also communicating
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Speaker 1: openly about your working timings are also because normally what
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Speaker 1: happens we compare with others and uh especially, you know,
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Speaker 1: who are not even having family response
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Speaker 1: abilities or we're not even having the, you know, uh
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Speaker 1: family also and we often compare with them. So we
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Speaker 1: are not supposed to because we have uh certain responsibilities
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Speaker 1: at home. So we can clearly communicate that to your
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Speaker 1: officials so that they are also aware of that. And moreover,
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Speaker 1: we can establish the clear boundaries and the schedule with
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Speaker 1: respect to our working hours. So that also helps with
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Speaker 1: respect to managing work life balance,
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Speaker 1: parenting challenges. Second, you know, issue is. So for that,
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Speaker 1: we can seek out support from our own partner or
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Speaker 1: within your family. Also, if your parents or your husband's
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Speaker 1: parents are supportive, moreover daycare services, if you, if you can,
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Speaker 1: you know, afford that,
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Speaker 1: and uh you can train your kids also, if you
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Speaker 1: start training them from the early age, that also helps
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Speaker 1: to manage, you know, uh the challenges at certain level.
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Speaker 1: And whenever we are, you know, parenting our kids, ensure
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Speaker 1: we keep a clear, you know, understanding with them,
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Speaker 1: it shouldn't be, you know, we we we keep it
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Speaker 1: more collaborative and more understandable environment so that they also
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Speaker 1: understand the challenges parents are facing with respect to their
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Speaker 1: working environment and also how they are supporting. But it
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Speaker 1: doesn't mean like every time, you know, showcasing uh how
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Speaker 1: much we are doing for kids, it's it's about making
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Speaker 1: them aware what are the, you know, challenges you are
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Speaker 1: facing
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Speaker 1: and looking for the cooper operation from even uh if
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Speaker 1: your kids are a teenager level that also can be
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Speaker 1: done at some point of time. If your family environment
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Speaker 1: is peaceful, that also reduces the stress a lot. This
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Speaker 1: is what I have seen it. And uh if it
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Speaker 1: is really, you know, a peaceful environment, you have it
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Speaker 1: at home, it reduces tension, you know, by almost 70
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Speaker 1: to 80%.
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Speaker 1: Third one is uh self-care activity. So we often neglect considering,
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Speaker 1: you know, uh prioritizing other others need first. So when
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Speaker 1: you are, you know, prioritizing yourself, it doesn't mean like
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Speaker 1: you neglect others, but especially allocate certain, you know, few
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Speaker 1: hours for yourself. That includes, you know, doing the exercise
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Speaker 1: and doing the meditation, spending time on your hobbies and
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Speaker 1: same you allow for other families
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Speaker 1: members. Also, for example, your partner, your kids, etcetera, allow
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Speaker 1: them motivate them to do that. Also, especially the me
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Speaker 1: time and self-care activities. I normally, you know, promote everybody
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Speaker 1: including my partner, even my kids. Also, I ask him
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Speaker 1: to do the self-care activities with respect to their skin habits,
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Speaker 1: their skin routines, et cetera and pursuing the hobby. Like, uh,
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Speaker 1: uh you can identify, you know, what motivates other and
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Speaker 1: whatever you are doing,
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Speaker 1: it's not necessary. Others also will like that. So just
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Speaker 1: take care of that, like you're not forcing somebody because
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Speaker 1: all these factor causes tension within the family. So let
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Speaker 1: them pursue their hobbies, you pursue your hobbies. So this
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Speaker 1: is what helps always and moreover, taking breaks and taking
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Speaker 1: the me time, especially, you know, uh time for your
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Speaker 1: own self care and your own well being is really
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Speaker 1: helpful and recharge
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Speaker 1: yourself with if you have a reading habits or you
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Speaker 1: have some other habits because I recharge myself with my
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Speaker 1: hobbies or doing the, you know, self-care activities. So that
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Speaker 1: helps me or simple, you know, my alone time also
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Speaker 1: tells me similarly what motivates you, you can do that
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Speaker 1: number four is a social isolation because uh nowadays, we
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Speaker 1: are isolated, although socially we are connected uh due to
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Speaker 1: social media. But inside we are, you know, with respect
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Speaker 1: to
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Speaker 1: uh our needs, in the sense, parenting needs, et cetera.
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Speaker 1: When we look for the support that uh you know,
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Speaker 1: support is missing in the present time, we may get
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Speaker 1: advices but we will not be getting, you know, support
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Speaker 1: with respect uh from our family. So we have to
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Speaker 1: build that environment which, you know, it takes its own
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Speaker 1: time within family also creating that environment, which is, you know,
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Speaker 1: more supportive and understanding each other's uh with respect to,
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Speaker 1: you know,
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Speaker 1: their needs also. And uh you can join the parenting
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Speaker 1: groups also. And physical, I would suggest, you know, physical
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Speaker 1: uh group if something small activities are also there that
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Speaker 1: also helps and building the social collection and same, you're
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Speaker 1: motivating within your family also. So that also helps. But it,
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Speaker 1: it again, depends on person to person, how much they,
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Speaker 1: you know, they need a social connection
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Speaker 1: because everybody don't need, you know, uh so we need
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Speaker 1: to identify within family, like how much others need and
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Speaker 1: how much you need. So accordingly you can work on
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Speaker 1: that again, enforcing when somebody is not interested that also
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Speaker 1: causes tension and stress within family. And uh finally, it
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Speaker 1: leads uh you know, to you also. So and uh
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Speaker 1: so everybody's social needs are different. So the more you
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Speaker 1: will
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Speaker 1: uh know about it. That would be helpful. The number
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Speaker 1: five is uh financial pressure. So addressing financial pressure, if
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Speaker 1: you are a working person, then managing, you know, although
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Speaker 1: income is high or low, it doesn't matter. But how
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Speaker 1: much you are spending and how much is your inflow
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Speaker 1: that helps. So managing the budget, especially with respect to
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Speaker 1: your financial uh aspects always help
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Speaker 1: and uh you can keep some financial advisor also who
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Speaker 1: can manage your portfolio even if it is not that
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Speaker 1: much income. There are so many financial companies are there
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Speaker 1: which gives uh you know, free services also. But it
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Speaker 1: doesn't mean, you know, uh I I I'm working with finance,
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Speaker 1: there is a one financial advisor I have it who
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Speaker 1: helps me to, you know, uh manage my portfolio with
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Speaker 1: respect to. So it doesn't mean like you are keeping
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Speaker 1: financial advisor means you have to be very rich or wealthy.
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Speaker 1: Doesn't mean if financial advisor means who can guide you
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Speaker 1: so that
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Speaker 1: you can spend uh your, you know, funds effectively and
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Speaker 1: you can put them in uh them into the proper
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Speaker 1: investment and they help you to set the goals also
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Speaker 1: financial goals. And uh that is also very helpful, taking
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Speaker 1: the help of the financial advisor
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Speaker 1: and open communication with your partner with respect to your
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Speaker 1: financial goals that also helps and sometimes it's, it's really,
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Speaker 1: you know, crucial for the shared responsibilities and support and
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Speaker 1: with respect to you know, meeting those goals also
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Speaker 1: that is also reduces the financial pressure. And if one
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Speaker 1: partner is working, then it definitely pressure will be higher.
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Speaker 1: But how much it can be managed by keeping the
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Speaker 1: proper budget and proper outflow that also help.
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Speaker 1: And moreover, building the multiple stream of income is always
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Speaker 1: a long term solution. Definitely. But if we take a
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Speaker 1: look from the beginning only that is also reduces the
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Speaker 1: financial burden at certain level. So these are the, you know,
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Speaker 1: five solution for the five pro
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Speaker 1: which we normally faces. And if other than that, if
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