How to handle personal issues while growing a business?

00:00:00 Speaker 1: Sometimes growing a digital business can be really tough. We go through personal challenges, personal problems and various other frictions in this podcast. I want to share with you some ideas on how you can overcome your personal challenges as you're growing your business. 00:00:14 Speaker 1: I remember in 2015 when I was just starting off on this journey and I was grinding it, not having the financial resources, having tough uh situations in my relationships. Every time I'd come back from a workshop or a training and I would come home and my wife would ask me this question is our situation ever going to change 00:00:32 Speaker 1: because there were moments where there was more month than there was money in our account. There was no cash flow. Everybody thought that I was successful from outside. But after paying for my teams, tools, taxes, everything else. When I would go back and take my wife out for a dinner, you know, I would look into the menu card, look on the right side and only order the cheapest item. 00:00:51 Speaker 1: And uh that led to uh a lot of pressure and I went through a panic attack in the year 2015 where I could not sleep for two weeks. So my health was down, my relationships were down my wealth and my financial situation also was really down. And this is what I want to, you know, share with all of you is that if you're going through any situation like that right now, 00:01:14 Speaker 1: I can totally relate with it. 00:01:16 Speaker 1: You know, we don't have a business problem. It's usually a personal problem that shows up in business. Even though I wanted to grow my business, I could not grow it because of all of these frictions that were there in the background. And it took some time for me to come out of the situation. And I thought I'll share with you in this podcast, maybe 23 different ideas that can help you come out of the situation if you're actually going through it right now, and I'll break it down into each of the segments. If it's a wealth situation, if it's a, 00:01:43 Speaker 1: a health situation or if it's a love situation or relationship situation because all of these are important. These are the three things that 00:01:51 Speaker 1: fulfill us as a human being. We only seek these three things, you know, wealth, health, and love. If we have all these three filled up in our cup, then everything else is just extras. Yeah. So let me tell you on how to approach this. And uh you may get some ideas as I'm actually sharing these ideas with you. 00:02:12 Speaker 1: See, the first thing you need to understand or, uh, the way that I understood the whole situation is that whatever I was going through in 2015 00:02:22 Speaker 1: is what I attracted in my life. 00:02:25 Speaker 1: The first step is I accepted the situation and I took on personal responsibility 00:02:33 Speaker 1: rather than blaming people, blaming situations, blaming others. 00:02:38 Speaker 1: I decided to take it on myself saying that, ok, I'm right now in this, in this particular situation because of the decisions that I had made in the past, because of the different situations that I had been through in the past. And also it has to do a lot with my own mindset. 00:02:58 Speaker 1: So if I rewind time 2011, 2012, when I had lost my job, my wife was pregnant. At that point of time, 2011, I was in a scarcity mindset 00:03:07 Speaker 1: before 2011. When I was in a safe and secure job, I had that abundance mindset. I was making 75 ₹80,000 salary, very comfortable job. I would go just clock in my 7 to 8 hours a day, come back home, very comfortable. And even the first uh you know, two or three years after marriage, I got married in the year 2008 December. So 2009, 2010, it was a very comfortable life 00:03:30 Speaker 1: and in that comfortable life, I remember that I was not really working on my mindset. There was some scarcity, you know, elements over there, but I was not upgrading my skills. I was not upgrading myself. And when the situation arose, when I lost my job, I immediately blamed everyone. I started to blame my boss, I started to blame the situation. I started to blame the industry. 00:03:52 Speaker 1: And 00:03:54 Speaker 1: because I was in that scarcity mindset and right through 2012, 2013, 2014 and 2015 was, was a wake up call for me literally, like I had, I had faced that panic, that panic attack in 2015. So it was more than three years of 00:04:10 Speaker 1: thinking about it and not working on it consciously, even though I was in touch with, but I was just overworked mentally, physically and I was just tired right through. 00:04:21 Speaker 1: So when I rewind time and when I actually analyze my life before I had the breakdown was I was in a constant state of stress and personal friction. 00:04:35 Speaker 1: And in 2015, when I went through this panic attack, I completely had to rejuvenate myself. I got back into spirituality and I actually wrote a 14 page document on how I would like my life to be. It was a 14 page my perfect day document. 00:04:54 Speaker 1: What I wrote very clearly on how I would like my life to be in terms of what time would I wake up? Where would I live? Um What would I do? In the first part of the day. How, what I would do in the second part of the day, what I would do in the third part part of the day, how I would spend time with my family, how I would uh spend time with my kids, how I would interact with my uh colleagues and, you know, as far as business is concerned and this was when I was not having the financial capacity or whatever, right? I had written down this 14 page document. 00:05:23 Speaker 1: And if I have to tell you something today, I'm living 90% of whatever I wrote in that document. 2000 2023 right now. So eight years fast forward 90% I'm living that, of course, there are some details that are written over there which uh are not exactly like what I'd written, but the outcome is the same. 00:05:44 Speaker 1: So what I realized is that most people who are stuck, they are stuck because they are not clear about what they want and they get into this loop of blaming situation and blaming people and blaming others. 00:05:58 Speaker 1: And that was the turning point of my life. My life did not change overnight, but because I'd written that document if I have to now track back in time 2016, I experienced the magic of my mentor, Blessinger where he really reinforced that ability in um in me which I never knew that I had myself. 00:06:20 Speaker 1: So because I'd written that two that uh document in 2015, I know that I attracted the mentor in my life. 00:06:29 Speaker 1: So many of you may or may not believe in this concept called law of attraction. But the way that I like to define it is when you intensify your thoughts on what you really want versus what you lack in life, you will start to see the port opportunities and situations and people that will come into your life that will help you manifest that. 00:06:47 Speaker 1: Now again, I even when I went through that journey in 2016, there were many moments that I could bail out because first of all, I did not have the money to invest in a such a high ticket program. 00:06:59 Speaker 1: But I somehow, you know, swiped my family members credit credit card and went for it. And I went for another advanced program which was ₹7 lakh 00:07:07 Speaker 1: in Phuket five days with mentor blazing 00:07:10 Speaker 1: and I did not have any money for that. And I was still in the the same financial situation. But the only difference is inside, I had the conviction and believe that I could pull it off. 00:07:22 Speaker 1: Yeah, even though I was going through a tight financial situation inside my, inside my core, I knew that this decision is going to change my life and I'm gonna make it happen no matter what. And there is no plan B I deleted all the plan BS and made this my plan a 00:07:39 Speaker 1: it may seem risky for many people, but it is a great and a conviction 00:07:44 Speaker 1: that really helped me move to the next level. 00:07:49 Speaker 1: And that conviction and that grit 00:07:53 Speaker 1: was inspired by my mentor. It was given to me by my mentor who said words, like, you know, you're bigger than this. The world needs more teachers and leaders. You are like the affirmation like I am awesome. I love myself. 00:08:07 Speaker 1: I, I'm able to uh I attract success in my life. You know, I started to fill my mind with all these different affirmations. When my negative thoughts were coming in, I would short circuit it with the positive affirmations. 00:08:19 Speaker 1: So the secret to really shifting your situation, even if you're going through personal problems is by using affirmations 00:08:28 Speaker 1: to shift your thought. When will your mind goes in that negative direction? Because the only free will and the choice that you have in life is 00:08:37 Speaker 1: your awareness and ability to either feed 00:08:41 Speaker 1: the positive or feed the negative whatever is brewing inside your mind. 00:08:46 Speaker 1: And what's between your ears is so powerful. Your mind is extremely powerful. So the point when I wrote that document in 2015 was a starting point. And then 2016 was when the opportunity came. And I took those opportunities. And I did not back out and I did not back out because I believed in myself and I had the conviction in myself. And then there were many obstacles that came after that. That was and I continued to get obstacles even right now, which is testing 00:09:13 Speaker 1: my ability on whether I really want to achieve what I want or not. 00:09:18 Speaker 1: So the universe throws different challenges at you at different stages to really check to see whether what you have, what path that you've taken on is what you want to continue with or not. 00:09:30 Speaker 1: So let's get into how do you, what is the uh solution to this to handling personal issues? Number one is getting clear on what you want. If you have to like write a detailed uh you know, 10 page document on your perfect day. Get as clear as as you want in terms of how much money you want to make. Uh what kind of a house do you want to live in? And there is no, there's no cost to dreaming, right? No one is going to be charged just for the for dreaming. You can dream to whatever extent that you want. 00:10:00 Speaker 1: So start dreaming, start using the power of your imagination, start utilizing your creative power with the new without any boundaries and put that on paper and write it with your hand so that there's a connection between your, your, your neurons and your brain and stuff like that. Don't just type it out, write it out. OK. That's the first step. 00:10:20 Speaker 1: The second step is to craft affirmation statements to short circuit any challenge. So if you're going through any health challenges, see if you can come up with a few affirmation statements, you can even look it up on Google and, and create something for your own so that you can start to short circuit your 00:10:36 Speaker 1: body and brain to say that. Yes, I'm healthy. I have the energy I am uh I am health. I live a long and uh you know, healthy life 90 plus in age 100 plus in age, you can actually define that. OK? I have a high level of immunity and, and things like that. 00:10:52 Speaker 1: And when it comes to finances also craft some affirmations. And that's why I have something called the freedom creed that I give all the members in my community where they can actually read those affirmations every single day and reprogram their mind and their brain whenever you know, the negativity feeds in or comes into their awareness. 00:11:08 Speaker 1: And when it comes to love, same thing, look at affirmations, you cannot receive love unless you give love. So if you're not receiving love, start giving love. And I also tell my students is that you can't build a community unless there is a deep rooted love that you have for people. This is not a, a business where it just gets, get customers and clients. It is not a customer, client business. It's a people business. Only when you're a people lover, you'll be able to build communities 00:11:35 Speaker 1: and that kind of love can only come when you have generally gone through different situations like heartburn and you've experienced loss, you've experienced uh situations where you did not have love. So the compassion for other people would come in more. In fact, there are two kinds of people, one person who goes through these tough situations, they close doors and they get into this cave 00:12:00 Speaker 1: into a box and they, they are not able to express love to anyone. 00:12:04 Speaker 1: And I've seen this happen, you know, whenever I was, you know, crewing and participating in these different events along with my mentor, he likes to get to that core on why you're doing what you're doing. And I've seen moments where some people have really broken down and they realized their true potential because of the love that was locked inside for so many years. 00:12:24 Speaker 1: For me, the love that I had for my grandfather 00:12:27 Speaker 1: and I continue to have that same love for my grandfather has been the inspiration or the energy and the fuel 00:12:33 Speaker 1: behind whatever I'm doing right now because of the love and care and the respect that he had for so many people and the respect that he got from so many people because of his uh no unwavering 00:12:46 Speaker 1: and relentless service to his fellow, you know, human beings around him 00:12:51 Speaker 1: and his love and care for them 00:12:54 Speaker 1: is kind of the DNA that is there in me. And when I was able to connect where my coding is coming from. And I started to operate from that space, everything changed in my life, everything changed my business. So now I'm, I'm building my business and I'm building my community from that space of love 00:13:09 Speaker 1: which my grandfather gave me from that space of love that my parents gave me. And I know in some of your cases, you, you might have had the contrary, maybe you did not have that kind of a childhood experience. So you can actually flip it and saying that because I did not have that during my childhood, I want to give more of that right now. 00:13:27 Speaker 1: So there are different experiences that we go through as human beings 00:13:31 Speaker 1: and based on what your past is and what your situation is. See if you can connect the dots and make that into your mission. 00:13:38 Speaker 1: So see if you can craft statements and affirmations where you bring that love for yourself from within you. And that will start to translate in every single thing that you do outside. And that will help you attract people who vibe with your thoughts. And that's how you build communities and your tribe. 00:13:58 Speaker 1: And ultimately people buy from people, 00:14:02 Speaker 1: people connect with people. 00:14:04 Speaker 1: OK? A I is not gonna be buying from us A I is doing a lot of other things A I is helping us in many other things. So to handle your personal issues in your business is to first get clarity. Second is to transform that into affirmation statements and to understand the root. And of course, the third step is to put that into action. The law of attraction will only work when you put the law of action to work. 00:14:31 Speaker 1: I hope you found this podcast useful. If you're not a part of my community, please attend my next webinar by going to SI DS at SD dot co slash live or even go to S dot CO S ID Z dot co slash join to directly join our community as a silver member. I would love to serve you and support you in our community. And if you are already a part of our community, please check out my next Diamond certification orientation that I'll be doing by going to SI DS at SD dot co slash diamond 00:14:58 Speaker 1: because that's a space where you are going to get an opportunity to really serve at a much higher level. And you'll also have an accountability system where you'll get the love and care and support from the achievers and the action takers in our community. Wish you all the best and catch you in the next episode.